Lot of us wonder what other people think of us.

很多人都會猜想別人是怎麼看自己的。

We spend a lot of time grooming ourselves and trying to look presentable enough for them because we care about what they think.

我們花很多時間打理自己，盡可能看起來得體，因為我們擔心別人的想法。

Why?

為什麼？

Because whether we like to admit it or not, a lot of the time how other people see you determines how they'll treat you.

因為不論我們願不願意承認，很多時候別人怎麼看你，決定了他們怎麼對待你。

This is where beauty comes into play.

這就是好看發揮作用的時候了。

Most people can get a good gauge of how attractive they are based on the compliments they get from others, how many relationships they've had, how popular they are on social media, and so on.

大多數人可以靠他們得到多少讚美、有過幾段關係、社群媒體上的受歡迎程度等等，去估測自己的魅力。

But I'll have you know, this isn't always an accurate representation on your own attractiveness.

但其實，你的魅力並沒有精確的代表方式。

Here are eight subtle signs that you're more attractive than you think!

這裏有八個細微的跡象，代表其實你比自己想的還有魅力！

One, you don't get a lot of compliments.

第一，你沒有得到很多稱讚。

While it's easy to assume that this happens because you simply don't look as good as you thought you did, the total opposite might in fact be true.

沒有得到很多稱讚時，可能很容易假設就是因為你沒有自己想得好看，但真相可能完全相反。

You might be much better looking than you give yourself credit for and because everyone already knows it, they don't feel the need to keep reminding you about it, by paying you lots of compliments.

你可能比自己想的好看很多，因為每個人都已經知道了，所以他們不會覺得要透過稱讚一直提醒你這件事。

Two, when you do your compliments, it feels insincere.

第二，當你收到稱讚時，感覺不太真誠。

The few compliments you do receive from others are usually casual and offhanded.

你從他人收到偶爾的稱讚通常都很隨意且突然。

People tend to remark about your appearance in a passing manner that you might find insincere.

人們往往會以很隨興的態度評論你的外貌，讓你覺得不太真誠。

But the truth is it's probably because most of them think you look great no matter what!

但真相可能是因為他們覺得你無論如何都很好看！

Think of your most attractive friend.

想想你最有魅力的朋友。

Do you constantly gush about their appearance, no, right?

你會常常滔滔不絕講他們的外表嗎，不會吧？

You probably just bring it up when you notice they wore something new or changed up their look somehow.

可能注意到他們穿新衣服，或注意到他們改變樣子時，才會提一下。

Three, strangers stare at you.

第三，陌生人會盯著你看。

It's easy to feel self-conscious when strangers stare at you in public.

當陌生人在公眾場合盯著你看時，很容易感到不自在。

But if you notice that it happens a lot, you might be more attractive than you realize.

但如果你發現到這很常發生，你可能比自己想的還要有魅力。

When an attractive person walks into the room, a lot of us can't help but look up and turn our gaze towards them.

當一個有魅力的人走進房間，我們都很容易抬頭看，把視線轉向他們。

There are effortless head-turners with a kind of presence that demands your attention and there's nothing more attractive than that.

有些人就是會輕易地讓你注意到他們的存在，沒有什麼比這更有魅力了。

Four, people gravitate towards you.

第四，人們會被你吸引。

Do a lot of people easily warm up to you and try to get closer to you when you first get to know them?

在一開始認識別人時，會有很多人會很快地對你示好，試圖和你變得親近嗎？

This could be because they find you attractive and admire the way you carry yourself.

這可能是因為他們覺得你很有吸引力，並欣賞你的舉手投足。

After all...

畢竟...

It's always fun to flirt with a cute stranger who would try to get you crushed to like you back.

和一個可愛的陌生人調情，試圖讓他也喜歡上你，一直都蠻好玩的。

Which brings us to our next point.

這帶著我們談到下一個點。

Five, others may act differently around you.

第五，別人在你周圍的行為表現可能不太一樣。

You think you make other people nervous?

你覺得你讓其他人緊張嗎？

Has anyone ever seemed dazed and confused when you first approached them?

在你第一次接觸別人時，他們是否感到目眩神迷又有點困惑？

Attractiveness can be intimidating, and it can be hard to keep our cool around someone we like.

魅力很懾人，在我們喜歡的人身邊保持冷靜可能很難。

When you notice other people acting strange around you, it could be because they find you attractive, and don't quite know how to talk to you.

當你注意到其他人在你身邊時行為很怪，可能是因為他們覺得你很有魅力，不太知道怎麼跟你說話。

Six, people are surprised by your insecurities.

第六，人們對你的不安感到驚詫。

We find it hard to believe that the people we admire have insecurities too.

可能很難相信我們欣賞的人也會不安。

We think that because they're gorgeous and all so perfect, they don't have anything to feel insecure about but everyone struggles with low self-esteem sometimes.

我們會覺得，因為他們好好看、非常完美，他們不用對任何東西不安，但其實每個人偶爾都要對抗低落的自尊心。

This might be why most people are surprised when they find out that there are certain things about your appearance you're not too happy with.

這可能是為何大多數人在發現你對外觀上有不滿時會很驚訝的原因。

It means that they would love to look the way you do and probably don't even notice the flaws you see in yourself.

這表示他們希望自己像你那樣，他們可能根本沒注意到你自己看見的自身缺點。

Seven, others tend to have strong feelings about you.

第七，人們通常都對你有很強烈的感覺。

Are others overly friendly and warm when you first meet them, or mean and harsh for seemingly, no reason?

因為不明原因，有人在初次見面時過度友善或惡劣嗎？

Either way the reason why most people will react so strongly about you is likely because they find you attractive.

不管原因為何，人們會有強烈反應，很可能是因為他們覺得你有魅力。

They act petty because they're jealous of your good looks and feel threatened by you.

他們表現得小家子氣，因為他們嫉妒你長得好看好，並覺得受威脅了。

While others may come up to you a lot and make excuses just to talk to you or spend time with you.

有些人可能會常跑來找你、找藉口和你說話，或花時間與你相處。

Eight, you have a lot of dating prospects.

第八，你有很多約會可能。

Have several people confessed their feelings for you and some even tried to court you?

有很多人對你告白，或試圖追你嗎？

You don't stay single for long and whenever you do, you always have a lot of dating prospects.

你不會單身太久，就算單身，也會有很多約會機會。

Though you might argue that that's because you're likable, friendly or popular.

儘管你可能覺得這是因為你討人喜歡、友善、或受歡迎。

Anyone else would tell you that these are all definite signs that you are indeed attractive.

其他人會告訴你，這些都是絕對的信號，代表你真的有魅力。

It might take some time before you meet the one.

在遇到對的人前可能會花些時間。

But you certainly don't have to look far to find a guy or girl who be interested in you!

但你絕對不用找很久，就會發現有人對你有意思了！

Do you find yourself wondering about your looks?

你覺得自己很常在擔心自己的長相嗎？

Is it second nature for you to compare yourself to others?

和別人比較是你的習慣嗎？

Did you ever find yourself in situations as mentioned here?

你覺得自己符合上述情況嗎？

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