Name: 如何哈拉和認識日本女孩 (How to chat up and meet Japanese girls)
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We sniff around each other for a while and once we feel kind of comfortable... THEN

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Boys that only talk about themselves will not do well with Japanese girls.

Hey guys on Ask Japanese it's Cathy Cat and today I am joined by my friend...

And today we're gonna go and ask how to approach a Japanese girl!

We're gonna go through like chatting them up for the first time, finding a chance to talk with

them... maybe becoming friends, going on dates, that kind of stuff is what we are

What is a way for males and females to mingle in Japan and say hi to each other in a

safe environment... I heard It's very different. You can't just walk up to someone on the street and say "Hey would you like

to go for coffee?" You can't do that. You can't do the American way.

"Wanna go for pizza?" - Do they still do that?

I am not American so I don't know. We Germans are a lot more awkward. We first become friends and sniff around

each other for a while. Once we feel comfortable we ask each other out. That's what it was...

I like that way. I like the way you explained. - What do...

Japanese guys and girls... where is a good chance to get to know a Japanese girl?

Ah wait! Wait? Seriously?! We have been talking in English the whole time!! - OH!

On that note, we will switch to Japanese. - Let's do that.

There are subs, don't forget to click them on. Anyways let's do this in Japanese!

I heard meeting people in Japan is really difficult?

I think so too. - Especially people you don't know...

You generally don't speak to strangers right?

We sometimes do. But chatting people up is seen as being easy

"He was chatting me up, so he just wants to play around" that's the image

This makes it hard to meet people. -Abroad it's ok

to talk with people while waiting at the bus stop, right?

You can say "oh the bus is late" abroad but you don't do that in Japan.

Talking with strangers. - TRUE! - So starting a conversation with strangers

is really difficult here. - Compared to abroad it is.

I would also be surprised if someone suddenly talked to me.

Japanese people don't start conversations with strangers.

You have foreign friends right. How did you meet them?

They were friend of friends. - You got introduced!

Yeah. - My American friends would go for drinks

I agreed and followed them in the group. We met another group

of people and became friends. We were a group of girls getting drinks

while waiting one said "hey girl what's up". I thought she was cute!

So we became friends. - Going to foreign pubs in Japan has the advantage

of meeting some Japanese who want to practice their English.

I guess that's an advantage of those places. - I think so

But I think the best is to meet people through a hobby!

That's the ideal! - I agree! Meeting people at bars has a negative image

The people I met in pubs and bars, even if a boy said to me...

"Hey girl what's up?" I wouldn't be able to talk with him.

I see. In our interviews I hear that a lot too...

Girls are scared of boys having other reasons for talking with them...

Ulterior motives. They're worried about that. - I see!

I am personally not scared of foreign boys that way.

I don't want to just play around. It would be a waste of both our times so it's best to ignore it.

I see. - So I just leave. But if I like that person,

or I think he is cool, I think it's ok to talk with him.

But all in all meeting in bars doesn't have a good image in Japan.

We often hear that Japanese girls are shy

-Yeah - And some say they can't communicate their "NO" well

Those type of girls will not even start a conversation

with boys. "If I should talk back with him... he might accept me in

but I might not be able to turn him down later, so I won't talk with him at all" there are girls like that.

where people get together and meet for their hobbies are good

I heard about those apps where people all gather to learn photography or such

or all go fishing together or something. - Yeah those meetups!

What I have seen a lot for couples in Japan is that they met through a hobby

are those dating apps and "Machikon" meets

Can you explain "Machikon Meets" to those who might not know?

A machikon is a bigger version of arranged blind double dates

There will be 3 girls and 3 boys who meet for the first time for drinks

It's like a tripple date, you won't know who will match with whom

but there is an equal amount of boys and girls

There is a larger, a city version of that. Like the Shibuya Machikon meets

Where a huge amount of young people meet at the same time - Yeah

Can I suddenly ask a personal question? - Ok? - You had boyfriends

from abroad right. - Yes. - How did you meet?  You said...

it was introduction by friends. - True! I was hanging out with my mates

and he was a friend of a foreign friend of mine.

We were all playing basketball and I was watching

getting along. But we broke up quickly. - Sorry girl!

Can you give a hint how to start talking to a Japanese girl?

Like do and don'ts? - Boys that just talk about themselves,

I guess that might just me. Boys who are like "I am great"

who talk a lot... Bad example would be...

Boy who boast like "I have done so well at work today, I am so great"

Better would be to bring the girl a coffee and say "Hey what's up, you look a little sad today."

"Are you alright? Want to talk about it?" Those boys are the ideal.

I see what you mean! Girls love it when boys show that their feelings are considered.

I understand that! - Japanese girls also love...

after you become REALLY close, to get head pats.

Head pats? - Like "You did a good job today" like that.

or "Well done gal" pat pat or "You are such a hardworker"

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