hey Psycho2goers and welcome back to

嘿 Psycho2goers 歡迎來到

another Psycho2go video. Have you ever

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wondered how friendships develop? Do you

友情是如何發展的嗎？你想知道

want to know how someone goes from being

一個人是如何從陌生人

a stranger to being your best friend

變成你最好的朋友？

While there's no widely accepted theory

儘管在社會心理學當中

on the formation of friendships in

並沒有關於友誼形成

social psychology, yet there is still a

被公認的理論，但是仍然有一種

natural progression that is easy to

自然的發展過程是能夠輕易去

observe. So here are the five levels of

觀察的。這裡是友情的五個

friendship. Level 1 strangers。 Before you

階段。階段一，陌生人。在你

become friends with anyone you start out

和任何人成為朋友之前，一開始都是

as strangers while you certainly know of

陌生人，你當然知道

each other like their name or what they

對方的名字或是他們

look like your relationship is still

的長相。你們的關係仍處於

very superficial. Maybe you see them pass

非常的表面。或許你在走廊上

by in the hallways or you run into them

與他們擦肩而過，或者你在回家的路上

on your way home, you're still yet to

與他們偶遇，你還沒有

introduce yourself. What matters most at

自我介紹。在這個階段中

this stage is the impressions, you make a

最重要的是印象。你給人留下

good enough impression may pique their

足夠好的印象能夠激起他們

interest and make them wanna get to know

對你的興趣並讓他們想要更深入地

you more and with continued interaction

了解你，透過持續的互動

it won't take long for you to go from

用不了多久你們就會從

being strangers to acquaintances. Level

陌生人進展到熟人的階段。階段二

two, acquaintances. An acquaintance is

熟人，一個熟人是

someone you know to a slight degree, you

你對他的認識在一定的程度之上，你

might exchange names and contact

可能和他們交換姓名和聯絡

information with them, but you only ever

資訊，但是你只有在

reach for important, usually work-related

重要的時候聯絡，通常是和工作有關的

reasons. You may have become

原因。你可能和某人成為

acquaintances with someone because you

熟人因為你

enjoy making small talk in class or at

喜歡在課堂上或是工作

work, your interactions are occasional

上和他們聊天。你們的互動通常都是

friendly and polite, some people may even

友善且禮貌的，有些人甚至會

stay acquaintances for years without

長年維持在熟人階段而不

ever developing a friendship. Well when

進一步發展至朋友關係。當你

you start to spend more time with them

開始花更多時間和他們

outside of work or school and get closer

在工作和學校以外相處並和他們

to them, your relationship may turn into

更親近，你們的關係可能會進展到

a friendship. Level 3, casual friends.

朋友關係。階段三，普通朋友，

Casual friends are all about shared

普通朋友都是在分享

interests, fun activities, and enjoying

興趣、有趣的活動和享受

each other's company. You see them every

彼此的陪伴。你偶爾和他們

once in a while to have fun with them

見面，一起玩樂

but you'd never call them after a

但是你不會在分手後打電話

breakup or go out of your way just to

給他們，或是特意去

see them. Casual friends are defined by

看他們。普通朋友是透過

exploration, at this point you're willing

探索來定義的，在這個階段你願意

to share more about yourself, but you're

分享更多有關於你的事，不過你

only presenting them with the best

只會對他們表現出你最好

version of who you are. Your connection

的一面。你和他們的

with them is still uncertain, and so you

關係仍然是不確定的，因此你

often keep them at an emotional distance.

通常會在情感上和他們保持距離。

You're happy to spend time with them, but

你很願意與他們相處，不過

don't yet feel comfortable letting them

還沒準備好讓他們

see you

看見你

lose control or break down and cry. Level

失控或是崩潰大哭。階段四

four, close friends. When you're close

知己。當你和某人

friends of someone, it means you've

是知己，這代表你已經

accepted them into your inner circle. It

接受他們進入你的內心世界。

may take a long time to reach this stage

要達到這個階段或許會花上一段很長的時間

since a strong bond of mutual trust

由於通常需要相互信任

commitment and a comfortable sense of

的承諾和一種熟悉的

familiarity is usually needed, most of us

舒適感，所以大多數人

may be careful about who we let into our

對於讓誰進入我們的生命當中

lives and who we allow ourselves to be

允許誰看到我們脆弱的一面

vulnerable to. You can always count on a

都會十分小心。你總是能夠指望一個

close friend to be there for you when

知己在你需要他們的時候

you need them. They cheer you on and

就在你身邊。他們鼓勵你並

listen to your rants, they're part of

聽你胡言亂語，他們是你

your weekend and summer plans.

週末和暑假計劃裡的一部分。

Well, not all close friends end up

雖然不是所有的知己都能夠

becoming lifelong best friends, your

成為一生中最好的朋友，你們的

friendship is still very much worth

友誼仍然是非常值得

cherishing. And level-5 intimate friends

珍惜的，階段五，密友。

casual friends may come and go and close

普通朋友或許會來來去去，知己

friends may drift apart, but a best

也有可能漸行漸遠，但是一個最好

friend stays with you forever. They're

的朋友會永遠在你身邊。他們是

the ones you trust most, the ones who

你最相信的人，也是

have stood by your side since the very

一開始就站在你這邊

beginning, and the ones whose happiness

的人，他們的快樂

is just as important as your own.

和你自己的快樂一樣重要。

Intimate friends share a deeper level of

密友分享的關係遠比知己

connection than close friends, they keep

來的更深層，他們保守

all your deepest darkest secrets, and

你所有最深，最黑暗的秘密，並

know things about you no one else does.

知道別人所不知道有關於你的事情。

You're not afraid to speak your mind

你不害怕將自己的想法

around them, because you feel like you

告訴他們，因為你覺得你

have nothing to hide, you're comfortable

不用隱藏什麼，對於讓他們

letting them see you at your rust and

看見你最脆弱無助的一面

most vulnerable. Do you have a casual

也能夠很自在。你有一個普通

friend you're hoping to become best

朋友是你希望可以成為最好的

friends with or someone in your life you

朋友或是一個你從沒預料到

never expected would be such a good

在生命中會成為一個好朋友

friend？Let us know in the comments below.

的人嗎？在下面的留言中讓我們知道。

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are added in the description below.

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