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  • hey Psycho2goers and welcome back to

    嘿 Psycho2goers 歡迎來到

  • another Psycho2go video. Have you ever

    另一支 Psycho2go 的影片。你曾經想過

  • wondered how friendships develop? Do you

    友情是如何發展的嗎?你想知道

  • want to know how someone goes from being

    一個人是如何從陌生人

  • a stranger to being your best friend

    變成你最好的朋友?

  • While there's no widely accepted theory

    儘管在社會心理學當中

  • on the formation of friendships in

    並沒有關於友誼形成

  • social psychology, yet there is still a

    被公認的理論,但是仍然有一種

  • natural progression that is easy to

    自然的發展過程是能夠輕易去

  • observe. So here are the five levels of

    觀察的。這裡是友情的五個

  • friendship. Level 1 strangersBefore you

    階段。階段一,陌生人。在你

  • become friends with anyone you start out

    和任何人成為朋友之前,一開始都是

  • as strangers while you certainly know of

    陌生人,你當然知道

  • each other like their name or what they

    對方的名字或是他們

  • look like your relationship is still

    的長相。你們的關係仍處於

  • very superficial. Maybe you see them pass

    非常的表面。或許你在走廊上

  • by in the hallways or you run into them

    與他們擦肩而過,或者你在回家的路上

  • on your way home, you're still yet to

    與他們偶遇,你還沒有

  • introduce yourself. What matters most at

    自我介紹。在這個階段中

  • this stage is the impressions, you make a

    最重要的是印象。你給人留下

  • good enough impression may pique their

    足夠好的印象能夠激起他們

  • interest and make them wanna get to know

    對你的興趣並讓他們想要更深入地

  • you more and with continued interaction

    了解你,透過持續的互動

  • it won't take long for you to go from

    用不了多久你們就會從

  • being strangers to acquaintances. Level

    陌生人進展到熟人的階段。階段二

  • two, acquaintances. An acquaintance is

    熟人,一個熟人是

  • someone you know to a slight degree, you

    你對他的認識在一定的程度之上,你

  • might exchange names and contact

    可能和他們交換姓名和聯絡

  • information with them, but you only ever

    資訊,但是你只有在

  • reach for important, usually work-related

    重要的時候聯絡,通常是和工作有關的

  • reasons. You may have become

    原因。你可能和某人成為

  • acquaintances with someone because you

    熟人因為你

  • enjoy making small talk in class or at

    喜歡在課堂上或是工作

  • work, your interactions are occasional

    上和他們聊天。你們的互動通常都是

  • friendly and polite, some people may even

    友善且禮貌的,有些人甚至會

  • stay acquaintances for years without

    長年維持在熟人階段而不

  • ever developing a friendship. Well when

    進一步發展至朋友關係。當你

  • you start to spend more time with them

    開始花更多時間和他們

  • outside of work or school and get closer

    在工作和學校以外相處並和他們

  • to them, your relationship may turn into

    更親近,你們的關係可能會進展到

  • a friendship. Level 3, casual friends.

    朋友關係。階段三,普通朋友,

  • Casual friends are all about shared

    普通朋友都是在分享

  • interests, fun activities, and enjoying

    興趣、有趣的活動和享受

  • each other's company. You see them every

    彼此的陪伴。你偶爾和他們

  • once in a while to have fun with them

    見面,一起玩樂

  • but you'd never call them after a

    但是你不會在分手後打電話

  • breakup or go out of your way just to

    給他們,或是特意去

  • see them. Casual friends are defined by

    看他們。普通朋友是透過

  • exploration, at this point you're willing

    探索來定義的,在這個階段你願意

  • to share more about yourself, but you're

    分享更多有關於你的事,不過你

  • only presenting them with the best

    只會對他們表現出你最好

  • version of who you are. Your connection

    的一面。你和他們的

  • with them is still uncertain, and so you

    關係仍然是不確定的,因此你

  • often keep them at an emotional distance.

    通常會在情感上和他們保持距離。

  • You're happy to spend time with them, but

    你很願意與他們相處,不過

  • don't yet feel comfortable letting them

    還沒準備好讓他們

  • see you

    看見你

  • lose control or break down and cry. Level

    失控或是崩潰大哭。階段四

  • four, close friends. When you're close

    知己。當你和某人

  • friends of someone, it means you've

    是知己,這代表你已經

  • accepted them into your inner circle. It

    接受他們進入你的內心世界。

  • may take a long time to reach this stage

    要達到這個階段或許會花上一段很長的時間

  • since a strong bond of mutual trust

    由於通常需要相互信任

  • commitment and a comfortable sense of

    的承諾和一種熟悉的

  • familiarity is usually needed, most of us

    舒適感,所以大多數人

  • may be careful about who we let into our

    對於讓誰進入我們的生命當中

  • lives and who we allow ourselves to be

    允許誰看到我們脆弱的一面

  • vulnerable to. You can always count on a

    都會十分小心。你總是能夠指望一個

  • close friend to be there for you when

    知己在你需要他們的時候

  • you need them. They cheer you on and

    就在你身邊。他們鼓勵你並

  • listen to your rants, they're part of

    聽你胡言亂語,他們是你

  • your weekend and summer plans.

    週末和暑假計劃裡的一部分。

  • Well, not all close friends end up

    雖然不是所有的知己都能夠

  • becoming lifelong best friends, your

    成為一生中最好的朋友,你們的

  • friendship is still very much worth

    友誼仍然是非常值得

  • cherishing. And level-5 intimate friends

    珍惜的,階段五,密友。

  • casual friends may come and go and close

    普通朋友或許會來來去去,知己

  • friends may drift apart, but a best

    也有可能漸行漸遠,但是一個最好

  • friend stays with you forever. They're

    的朋友會永遠在你身邊。他們是

  • the ones you trust most, the ones who

    你最相信的人,也是

  • have stood by your side since the very

    一開始就站在你這邊

  • beginning, and the ones whose happiness

    的人,他們的快樂

  • is just as important as your own.

    和你自己的快樂一樣重要。

  • Intimate friends share a deeper level of

    密友分享的關係遠比知己

  • connection than close friends, they keep

    來的更深層,他們保守

  • all your deepest darkest secrets, and

    你所有最深,最黑暗的秘密,並

  • know things about you no one else does.

    知道別人所不知道有關於你的事情。

  • You're not afraid to speak your mind

    你不害怕將自己的想法

  • around them, because you feel like you

    告訴他們,因為你覺得你

  • have nothing to hide, you're comfortable

    不用隱藏什麼,對於讓他們

  • letting them see you at your rust and

    看見你最脆弱無助的一面

  • most vulnerable. Do you have a casual

    也能夠很自在。你有一個普通

  • friend you're hoping to become best

    朋友是你希望可以成為最好的

  • friends with or someone in your life you

    朋友或是一個你從沒預料到

  • never expected would be such a good

    在生命中會成為一個好朋友

  • friendLet us know in the comments below.

    的人嗎?在下面的留言中讓我們知道。

  • If you found this video helpful, be sure

    如果你覺得這支影片對你有幫助,一定

  • to like subscribe and share this video

    要訂閱並分享

  • with those who might benefit from it. The

    給那些也能夠從中得到幫助的人。

  • references in studies used in this video

    本支影片所引用的學術參考文獻

  • are added in the description below.

    補充在下面的說明中。

  • Thanks for watching and we'll see you in

    感謝收看,我們下一支影片

  • our next video.

    再見。

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