Name: 【正向英文】同事好憂鬱，如何鼓勵她 (Speaking English - 8 ways to be positive & encourage others)
Uploaded: 2014-03-13T16:00:19.000Z
Duration: 7 min 48 s

Hi. My name is Rebecca, and this lesson may change your life. It may also change the life

大家好！我是蕾貝卡。今天的課程將改變你的人生，也可能會改變

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of the people who are closest to you in your personal and in your professional life. Why

與你在生活與工作上很親近的人的生活

to 不定詞

am I saying that? Because in today's lesson, I'm going to teach you some simple, yet powerful

為什麼我會這樣說呢？因為我今天要教你們一些簡單卻很有影響力

phrases and expressions that you can use to help stay positive as well as to encourage

的句子及表達方式，你可以用這些話來幫助自己保持樂觀，同時也鼓勵

other people around you, okay? Now, we all want to be loved and appreciated

你們身邊的人。我們當然都想要被愛、被重視，

and admired and respected. And sometimes it just the takes a few simple words in order

還有被尊重，而這些期待在多數時候都可以藉由一些簡單的字句

to achieve that. By doing that, we can improve our relationships with other people; we can

去做到。當我們表達上述這些想法時，我們可以促進自己跟他人的關係，我們可以

increase our confidence and the confidence of people around us; and we can also change

提高自己還有我們身邊的人的自信心，我們還可以改變我們的態度，

attitudes for the best -- for the better, okay? So let's look at some of these expressions.

讓自己成為更好更棒的人。接下來讓我們來看一些可以使用的表達方式，

And by trying to include them in your daily life, I think you'll see that there will be

並且試著將他們應用在你的日常生活中。我相信你會在

quite a change in the relationships that you share with people at work and also at home,

你與家人還有同事間的關係看到一些轉變

okay? So let's look at some of these expressions. Okay. So if you want to instill confidence

我們來看看以下的表達方式。如果你想要增加別人的自信，

in someone, these are some things you can say. Now, the words here are not difficult.

你可以對他們說這些話。這些話其實並不難說出口，

But as I said, sometimes the simplest things are emotionally hard to say. So what you might

但是如我之前說的，最簡單的句子有時候也是最難說出口的。所以如果你是自己一個人

want to do, especially if you're alone, is after I say the sentence, try to repeat it

在看這部影片的話，你可以這樣做：我說一句，你重複一句

after me. If you've said something once, it becomes easier to say it again. And then,

如果你之前已經講過某些話，那再重複一次同樣的話對你來說就沒有這麼困難。另外，

in the right situation, you may find that the words come to you more easily, okay? So

你也會發現自己可以在適時的情境下從容地講出正確的話

here we go. "I know you can do it." Okay? Repeat after

好！我們要開始了。「我知道你做得到的。」跟著我

me if you like. "I know you can do it." Okay? We say that when someone isn't very

複誦一次：「我知道你做得到的。」當有人對他自己存有疑惑時，

sure; he's feeling a little bit afraid or nervous or scared, maybe before an exam. "I

我們就可以說這句話。例如他或許在考試前感到有點害怕或緊張，而當你說

know you can do it." You're showing that you have confidence in them.

「我知道你做得到的。」時，那表示你對他們有信心

Something similar to that, "I have confidence in your abilities." Okay? That's a little

跟這一句很像的還有「我對你的能力有信心。」這句話

bit more formal. Perhaps you want to use that at work with one of your colleagues, with

比較正式一點，你可能會對你的同事或下屬說

someone who you are a supervisor for, right? So -- one of your employees -- "I have confidence

in your abilities." Parents can also use that, okay?

「我對你的能力有信心。」父母也可以對小孩說這句話

Another one, "I have faith in you." Would you like to repeat it? "I have faith in you."

另一句話是「我對你有信心。」你可以複誦一次嗎？「我對你有信心。」

"I have faith in you" means "I believe you can do it; I know you can do it; I trust you

「我對你有信心。」代表我相信你做得到，我知道你可以的，我確信你可以做到，或是

can do it; I believe you have the ability to succeed in whatever it is that we're talking

我相信你有這個能力去完成我們在討論的事情

about." Okay? "I have faith in you." Next one, "I believe in you." Okay? Now, this

「我對你有信心。」下一句「我相信你。」注意，

one is actually very powerful. "I believe in you", first of all, is different from saying,

這一句話其實非常有影響力。首先，「我相信你」(多了介系詞in) 跟「我相信你」(沒有介系詞in)。

"I believe you." That little preposition changes the meaning. If we say to someone, "I believe

的意思是不同的，那個小小的介系詞改變了句子的意義。如果我對一個人說「我相信你」，

you", it means that I think that what you're saying is true. Let's say somebody else has

那代表我相信他說的話是真的。舉例來說，有個人說了他自己版本的故事，

another story, you have this story, and I believe your story. "I believe you. I trust

你講了你的版本，而我相信你的說法，那麼「我相信你」在這裡

that what you're saying is true and honest and correct." That is, "I believe you." Okay?

表示我確信你說的是真的且正確的，這是「我相信你」(沒有介系詞in) 的用法

But when we add this little preposition "in", and we say to someone, "I believe in you",

然而當我加了這個小小的介系詞「in」進去，然後我對別人說「我相信你」，

it means, "I believe in your potential as a person, your potential as a human being,

這表示我對你的能力有信心，我相信身為一個人類，

to achieve something or to do great thing." So it's actually a very powerful thing to

你有潛能去達成或完成偉大的事。因此，這句話對別人來說其實

say to someone, okay? Now, if the person that you're trying to instill

是非常有影響力的。如果想要提高自信的人

confidence in is yourself, you can also use these on yourself, okay? You can say, "I know

是你自己，你也可以將這些話套用在自己身上。你可以說

I can do it, or I have confidence in my abilities, or I have faith in myself, or I believe in

「我知道我做得到的」、「我相信自己的能力」、「我對自己有信心」，或「我相信我自己」

myself." Okay? Sometimes we have to do a little bit of self-talk to make ourselves -- to give

有些時候我們需要跟自己對話，

ourselves the strength to do something or to face a challenge, okay? All right.

給自己力量去完成一件事或面對一個挑戰。

Now, if you want to show your appreciation of someone, you could use some of these simple,

再來，如果你想要對一個人表達欣賞，你可以使用這些簡單

yet powerful phrases, okay? "I trust you." Okay? Again, three simple words, but really

卻很有力的句子，例如「我相信你」，再次重申，這四個字「我相信你」雖然簡單，但是

powerful. "I trust you." When you say to someone, "I trust you", you're saying to them that,

真的很有效。當你對別人說「我相信你」時，你正在表達：

"I believe that you are honest, that you are loyal", okay? "I trust you."

我相信你是一個誠實且忠誠的人，所以你說「我相信你」

Next one, "I respect you." Very powerful. When you say, "I respect you" to someone,

下一個很有力的句子是，「我尊重你」。當你對別人說「我尊重你」時，

you're saying, "I have an appreciation for your value, your behavior, the choices you

你正在向他表達：我對你的價值觀，你的行為，你人生中所做的選擇

make in your life." Okay? Next one, "I admire you." Okay? When you say

感到敬佩。下一句話「我欣賞你」。當你對別人說

to someone, "I admire you", it means that you believe they have a lot of strength or

「我欣賞你」時，那代表你相信他們擁有毅力或是

strengths that you admire -- the things they have achieved in their life, and how they

很多你欽佩的優點，例如他們已經達成的人生目標還有

have achieved them, or that they face difficulties in a very confident way, all right? Without

他們怎麼達到目標的過程，或是他們在面對困難時展現自信的一面。

giving up. So you say, "I admire you." All right?

這時候你就可以說「我欣賞你」，有問題嗎？

And of course, the last one is perhaps the most powerful of all, which we can't use in

當然，最後一句應該是以上介紹的說法裡最有效的。雖然這句話不能應用在

every context, but we can use it in more contexts than you might think. Of course, you can say

所有的狀況裡，但是我們還是可以在你能想到的多數情況下使用它。當然，你可以

to someone, "I love you." Okay? You can say that to a spouse or a partner, all right?

對一個人說「我愛你」，你可以對你的伴侶或另一半說，

You could also use it in a family context, right? Parents can say to their children,

你也可以對你的家人說，是吧？父母可以對他們的小孩說

"I love you. You're so beautiful. You're wonderful." Right? You can use it between brothers and

「我愛你，妳好漂亮，你好棒」兄弟姊妹之間可以說這樣的話，

sisters. You can also use it with friends, "I love you." Sometimes the tone of voice

朋友之間也能說「我愛你」。有時候，說「我愛你」的語氣

changes between when it's a romantic "I love you" or when it's a fraternal or friendly

會因浪漫的情感，兄弟的情感或好友間的情感而有所改變

"I love you". But it's also very powerful. Somebody feels very encompassed and very accepted

無論是哪種情感，這句話都是非常有影響力的。當我們對別人說「我愛你」時，

when we say that, okay? All right. Now, the last little clue, to make any of

這會讓他們覺得被關心與接納。再來要告訴你們一個小撇步，

these sentences which I've explained here more powerful, try to use the person's name

這可以讓我剛剛介紹的那些話語產生更強烈的影響。那就是試著在句尾加上對方的名字。

after that. So imagine if someone says to you -- and your name is John -- "I know you

現在，假裝你叫約翰，並想像一個人對你說「我知道

can do it, John." Okay? So if you just add the person's name after that or before that

你可以做到的，約翰。」如果你在一句話之後或之前加上那個人的名字，

-- sometimes after it is good because then, they've heard what you have to say. "I have

建議有時候加在後面會比較好，因為他們會清楚地知道你對他們說了什麼。例如

faith in you, Mary." "I believe in you, Maria." Okay? Why do we -- why does that make it more

「我對你有信心，瑪莉。」、「我相信你，瑪莉亞」為什麼加了名字在句子之後

powerful? Because everybody loves the sound of their own name. So when you use these phrases

會讓整句話更有影響力呢？因為大家都喜歡聽到別人叫自己的名字，所以當你將名字

and expressions with the person's name, it will make it even more personalized and even

連同句子一起使用時，會讓你的表達方式更人性化

more effective. Okay? So this is a special kind of lesson to help

也因此更有效。這是一門教你用特別的方式

you learn of simple words. But simple phrases can sometimes go a long way. Okay?

去表達簡單語句的課，簡單的句子其實也可以發揮很大的作用

If you'd like to do a quiz on this to practice this, go to our website at www.engvid.com.

如果你想要針對這主題自己做個小測驗，你可以到我們的網站 www.engvid.com 看看

And good luck with your English. Bye, for now.

也祝福你們的英文能持續進步！先這樣，再見！