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自我變革指南 (A Guide to Self Transformation)
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- One of the strangest and most tantalising ideas in psychotherapy is that of the repetition compulsion. This tells us that as a result of certain traumas that have not been properly understood and unpicked, we will be inclined to keep putting ourselves back into – and in effect repeating – difficult situations from the past that run counter to our emotional needs in the present. So, for example, we may be tempted to keep falling in love with people who make us suffer by being distant or cold, muddled or chaotic. Or we might constantly wind up in jobs where we try to please a tricky boss but then we are rejected by them and eventually dismissed. But there is a nuance here. We are not generally simply hunting out an awful situation and then attempting to repeat the whole of it. What we are doing is trying to find a story familiar enough for us to be drawn to it and then what we are attempting to do is to give it a different ending. So, for example, we might want to find someone who is as distant as our mother but this time we want to take her to therapy, we want to have long dialogues with her, help her to see her wounds and act as her protector and her guide. Or we want to find the same sort of angry man as our father was but this time, rather than cowering under the sofa, we want a chance to be able to get to the root of their rage, to appease it and then ensure that they will treat us well. We are seeking in adulthood for a second chance to rectify a traumatic dynamic that our unavoidable childhood weaknesses meant that we were never originally able to fix. What does it mean to give a story a better ending? It means bringing all the resources of adulthood to bear on the difficulties of an emotionally compromised childhood.
心理療法中最奇特、最誘人的觀點之一就是 "重複強迫症"。這告訴我們，由於某些創傷沒有被正確理解和剔除，我們會傾向於不斷把自己推回到過去的困境中，實際上是重複過去的困境，而這些困境與我們現在的情感需求背道而馳。例如，我們可能會不斷愛上那些讓我們痛苦的人，他們疏遠、冷漠、渾渾噩噩或雜亂無章。又或者，我們可能會在工作中不斷討好刁鑽的上司，但卻遭到他們的拒絕，最終被解僱。但這裡有一個細微的差別。一般來說，我們並不是簡單地尋找一個糟糕的環境，然後試圖重複整個環境。我們所做的是試圖找到一個熟悉到足以吸引我們的故事，然
