每日口說挑戰如何停止討好別人？(How to Stop Being a People Pleaser)

*Before 30, I was a complete people pleaser. Getting 30, I still want to make people satisfied but also set out my principle of boundaries. ( it’s sensitive and needs nerves to talk about age...)

Here are seven questions to ask yourself to see you’re a people mountain pleaser:

1. Do you find yourself pretending you agree with everyone?

2. Do you often feel that you’re responsible for how others feel?

3. Do you apologize to others all the time?

4. Are you afraid of conflicts or of bothering other people?

5. You can’t say NO to others.

6. Do you feel uncomfortable when someone is mad at you?

7. Do you try to act like the people around you so you can fit it?

* To fit in: 合群，融入

Blunt: Being straight to the point.直白唐突的

It is a blunt fact that we humans are polluting our planet at an accelerating speed.

Blunt（鈍的） also refers to something is not sharp.

A blunt knife. A blunt pencil.

Putting it bluntly, I’m not buying it.直接了當的說了，我不買帳。

To put it bluntly, it is out of my price range.

The synonyms of brutal are harsh, cruel and heartless.

A brutal siteㄧ個殘忍的畫面
A brutal dictator ㄧ個殘暴的獨裁者
A brutal lessonㄧ個血淋淋的教訓

Brutal also can be saying what you think without trying to consider other’s feelings.

Brutal honesty(過度的直白）rarely works when it comes to communication.

To be brutally honest/frank, you look funny in that dress.

Poignant（辛酸苦楚的）, meaning a very sharp feeling of sadness or regret.

Music and old pictures have the power to evoke poignant memories（引起我們憂愁的回憶） making us sentimental for the time long gone（讓我們感傷已逝的時間）.

The defector(叛逃者）poignantly recalls （愁悵的想起）these days back in North Korea.

先討好自己吧！



Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.

☺Putting it bluntly, we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.
講白點，我們可以稱那些鄉愿的人是騙子。這種說法聽起來很苛刻，但鄉愿的人說謊其實是有苦衷的。
【心得】老實說，大多數的人都說想聽實話，但實際上又承受不了實話的重量。真正的溝通高手，會把謊話說得很誠懇；實話說得很委婉。
■bluntly [ˋblʌntlɪ] 鈍地；遲鈍地；直率地
■brutal [ˋbrut!]殘忍的，冷酷的；野蠻的；粗暴的；嚴酷的，苛刻的；獸性的
■poignant [ˋpɔɪnənt]令人痛苦的，酸楚的；辛酸的，慘痛的；切中要害的；強烈的

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Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.

#年紀大了的「發懶」症狀之一：連討好別人都嫌麻煩啊...
#但是基本的禮貌還是要有好嗎？to 那些不讓別人先下車、急著搶上公車的叔叔阿姨大哥大姐們...

Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.

I always want to sleep...



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Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.

說穿了，我們可以說「好好先生」是個騙子。這聽起來很過分，但「好好先生」卻為了痛苦的理由而撒謊。

句子選自此影片 : 如何停止討好別人？(How to Stop Being a People Pleaser)

* Seven questions
1. Do you often find yourself pretending to agree with everyone?
2. Do you often feel that you are responsible for how other people feel ?
3. Do you apologize to others all the time?
4. Are you afraid of conflicts or of bothering other people?
5. You can't say no to others.
6. Do you feel uncomfortable when someone is mad at you?
7. Do you try to act like the people around you so you can fit in(融入)?

1. _
* blunt [blʌnt] (adj.) 直率的；直截了當的；鈍的
- be straight to the point
- It's a blunt fact that we humans are polluting our planet and accelerating speed.
+ 這是一個無法迴避的事實，我們人類正在污染我們的星球並加快速度。
- A blunt knife. => it's blunt.
+ 鈍掉的刀
* bluntly ['blʌntli] (adv.) 直言不諱地
- Putting it bluntly, I'm not buying it.
+ 坦白說，你說服不了我。
- Putting it bluntly, it is out of my price range.
+ 說白了，這超出了我的價格範圍。

2. _
* brutal ['brut!] (adj.) 殘忍的
- it means cruel or violent
- synonyms: harsh and heartless
- A brutal site, A brutal dictator, A brutal lesson.
- saying what you think without trying to consider others feelings. => 無情。
- Brutal honesty rarely works when it comes to communication.
+ 在溝通方面，過渡直白的說法很少奏效。
* brutally ['brut!i] (adv.) 殘酷地
- to be brutally honest, to be brutally frank
- To be brutally honest, you look funny in that dress.
+ 說實話，你穿這條裙子看起來很有趣。

3. _
* poignant ['pɔɪnjənt] (adj.) 令人痛苦的，酸楚的
- poignant meaning of very sharp feeling of sadness or regret.
- Music and old pictures have the power to evolve poignant memories making us feel sentimental for a time long gone.
+ 音樂和舊照片能激起人酸楚的回憶，讓我們緬懷已經失去的時間。
* poignantly ['pɔɪnjəntli] (adv.) 令人辛酸地
- The Defector poignantly recalls his days back in North Korea.
+ 脫北者痛苦地回憶起他在朝鮮的日子。

Putting it bluntly we could say that the people pleaser is a liar. It sounds brutal, but the people pleaser is lying for poignant reasons.
#I can't lie ◔⊖◔
https://youtu.be/dAE7uOO_4v4

今天主題也是做自己好自在嗎?偶而偽善一下也未必不好

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#speed challenge for day 7!
#謝謝michelle 每次都帶暖心的小技巧^^

Thanks Michelle and every friend~
Seven questions ! ......Q_Q
# 美式跟英式t的差異 Thank you Michelle ^^