Name: 【TED】戴維德．布魯克斯: 你應該為哪個奮鬥——你的簡歷還是你的頌詞？ (David Brooks: Should you live for your résumé ... or your eulogy?)
Uploaded: 2014-08-24T11:58:22.000Z
Duration: 5 min 2 s

So I've been thinking about the difference between

the résumé virtues and  the eulogy virtues.

寫在簡歷的美德跟寫在悼詞中的美德的區別

The résumé virtues are the ones you put on your résumé,

which are the skills  you bring to the marketplace.

which are deeper: who are you,  in your depth,

what is the nature of your relationships,

are you bold, loving, dependable, consistency?

你是否勇敢、有愛心、值得信賴、持之以恆？

大部分人中，包括我在內，會覺得

that the eulogy virtues are the more important of the virtues.

悼詞中的美德比其他形式的美德更重要。

But at least in my case,  are they the ones that

但是依我看來，它們是我最常想到的嗎？

I think about the most?  And the answer is no.

So I've been thinking about that problem,

and a thinker who has  helped me think about it

is a guy named Joseph Soloveitchik, who was a rabbi

他的名字是約瑟夫 .斯洛維奇克，一名猶太神學家

who wrote a book called "The Lonely Man Of Faith" in 1965.

他在1965年寫了一本書，名字叫《孤獨的信仰之人》

Soloveitchik said there are two sides of our natures,

斯洛維奇克講述說每個人都有兩個特性

一個是亞當第一，另外一個是亞當第二

亞當第一是追逐名利，有野心的

He wants to build, create, create companies,

Adam II is the humble side of our nature.

亞當第二代表著人性中謙遜的一面

Adam II wants not only  to do good but to be good,

他不僅僅想做好事，而是想做好人，

that honors God, creation and our possibilities.

敬重神明，這大千世界跟我們的無限可能。

Adam II wants to hear  a calling and obey the world.

亞當第二想要傾聽並服從內心的召喚。

Adam II savors inner  consistency and strength.

亞當第二欣賞內在的堅持與力量。

亞當第一會關心事情如何運作，

亞當第二會問”我們為何在這裡"。

Adam II's motto is "love, redemption and return."

亞當第二的座右銘是“愛，救贖與給予”

And Soloveitchik argued  that these two sides

of our nature are  at war with each other.

我們生活在永久的自我對峙中：

between the external success and the internal value.

外在的成功跟內在的價值是衝突的。

And the tricky thing,  I'd say, about these

而對我而言最難以捉摸的事情，

The external logic is  an economic logic:

外在的邏輯是顧全經濟效益的邏輯:

input leads to output,  risk leads to reward.

輸入帶來輸出，冒險引導出獎勵。

is a moral logic and  often an inverse logic.

是一種道德的邏輯，常常不合乎常理。

You have to surrender  to something outside yourself

You have to conquer the desire to get what you want.

In order to fulfill yourself, you have to forget yourself.

為了滿足你自己，你要去忘掉你自己

In order to find yourself,  you have to lose yourself.

為了找到你自己，你要先去迷失你自己

We happen to live in a society  that favors Adam I,

我們當今生活在一個對亞當第一有利的社會中，

And the problem is, that turns you into a shrewd animal

問題是，這讓人變成了精明的動物，

and you become a cold,  calculating creature

然後人們變成了一種冷酷，會算計的生物，

不知不覺的就變成了一個平庸的人：

between your desired  self and your actual self.

You're not earning the sort of eulogy you want,

You don't have an emotional sonorousness.

在那些需要花一輩子去經營的任務中，

that would take more than a lifetime to commit.

I was reminded of a common response through history

建造一個扎實的亞當第二的方法。

sometimes to a precious  time in their life,

and often, the mind  gravitates in the past

some sin committed,  some act of selfishness,

你忽略其他人的時候,淺薄的時候

trying to be a people-pleaser,  a lack of courage.

Adam I is built by  building on your strengths.

Adam II is built by fighting  your weaknesses.

which you've committed over and again through your life,

and you fight that sin and you wrestle with that sin,

是在我們與我們的弱點戰鬥時建立而成

and out of that wrestling,  that suffering,

then a depth of character is constructed.

how to confront it,  and how to combat it.

We live in a culture  with an Adam I mentality

summed up the confrontation, the fully lived

"Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime;