Something you've never told anyone

一些你從未告訴別人的事情

Think about how much of yourself you keep from other people

想想你自己有多少不曾告訴別人的事情

(I cheated on my husband during our honeymoon)

(我在度蜜月時, 對我的老公不忠)

What you shared is just a tip of massive iceberg

你與他人所分享的只不過是冰山一角

and it's the same with everyone around you

在你身旁的任何人都與你一樣

So why do we see people who keep secrets from us as dishonest

為何我們將保守秘密的人視為不誠實

(I love my daughter but I regret having her at 18)

(我愛我的女兒但我後悔在18歲時生下了她)

When we don't see ourselves the same way

卻不用相同的標準來看待自己

No matter how damaging

不管傷害多大

neuroscientists agree it's better to share your secrets

神經學家同意分享祕密是件好事

(I'm addicted to bad relationships.)

(我對不倫的關係上癮了)

Your brain is naturally wired to tell the truth

你的大腦會自然的傾向於訴說實話

When you keep a secret, your brain simulates how awful the reveal will be

當你保有秘密時, 你的大腦會模擬在揭露時會有多糟

(My girlfriend is transgender. Nobody knows but me.)

(我的女朋友是變性人。只有我知道這件事)

And floods with the rush of stress hormones

並排放出大量的壓力性賀爾蒙

This affects your memory, your sleep and your ability to fight off disease

這會影響你的記憶、睡眠甚至是你對抗疾病的能力

Studies have even shown that people with deep secrets

報告甚至指出相較於沒有秘密的人

perceive hills as steeper than people without them

有著深層秘密的人會認為懸崖較陡峭

(My father doesn't know how scared I am of him)

我的爸爸不知道我有多麼畏懼他

The larger the secret, the steeper the hill

秘密越大，陡峭程度越高

But once you divulge your secrets

但一旦你說出了你的秘密

you may find it's not as terrible as you thought

你會發現那不像你所想像得如此恐怖

(I sometimes leave money on a gas pump for people to find.)

我有時會將一些前放在汽油泵上，等待讓別人發現

Holocaust victims with long buried memories showed incredible health

心底有著痛苦記憶的大屠殺受害者證明了當他們開始分享他們的故事時

improvement when they started sharing their stories

為健康帶來了極大的幫助

And more they shared, the more their health improved.

他們分享得越多，對他們的健康越有幫助

The moment you reveal the secret

當你揭開秘密的那一刻

you loss a kind of power- a dark mysterious part of you is laid bare for others

你便失去了一種力量 - 你那神祕又黑暗的那一面將被赤裸裸地展現在他人面前

Because now, they've seen the real you

因為現在，他們已經看見真正的你

(my biggest regret is not picking up my dad's call the night before he died.)

(我最後悔的事情是沒在我爸爸過世的前一晚接起他的電話)

But maybe is not a lost at all

但或許這根本不是一種損失

maybe that hill isn't so steep

或許懸崖並非如此的陡峭

maybe the only power you lost is

或許你唯一損失的力量

when your secret had over you know

是當秘密覆蓋了你所知道的一切

(I don't think anyone is normal.)

我不認為有人是正常的

So what's your secret?

那麼你的秘密是什麼?