爸爸問題，聚會和抗衰老玻璃管？| 應對你的假設 (Daddy Issues, Partying and Anti-Aging Glass Tubes?!?! | Addressing your Assumptions)

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hi guys welcome back to my channel today I'm shooting from this beautiful rental
house we are just in between homes from our
old to the new we're still waiting for it to get ready for us
and yes I'm shooting from here looks like a good change of scenery I'm not
gonna lie so today I decided to do and assumption videos I know that there's so
many people out there that have a certain idea of me or things that they
assume about me so I thought it would be fun to just post this question on my
Instagram stories and to get a bunch of random assumptions and to really choose
kind of the best of all of them and to answer and to kind of I guess put the
record straight is that who said get put it but you put
the record straight you get it straight you set the record straight and set the
record straight okay got the questions and I'm just gonna get into it question
number one I assume that you have so many ex-boyfriends I would say that I
had two previous like serious relationships before Gary the rest was I
was kind of dating here and there mostly because the nature of my work I was
traveling a lot and I couldn't really maintain a long-term relationships but
one the first serious relationship was like a year and then the second was two
years and then I met Gary that's it you prefer spending money on designer bags
than shoes no I would say that it's even for me there's not a lot of shoes that I
feel are kind of staples like I kind of got my staples in my closet and I'm not
the kind of person who spends a lot of money on like very trendy shoes like
something crazy so yes I would prefer to spend my money on bags because I feel
like that's the one accessory that just transforms an outfit for me so I love my
collection that I built three you have OCD
I actually don't surprisingly unless I do and no one told me but I don't feel
like I have no cd for you wouldn't have had another
kid if you didn't have as much help around you that is correct I know my
limits I do not portray myself to kind of be and you know I do it all by myself
and I don't think it's realistic I don't think it should be expected from women I
knew that I want to build my career and children are a lot of work a lot of you
young girls don't even know like it's so much work and stay-at-home moms are the
hardest working people in the world and I just kind of knew what I need and want
to make myself happy and I think you have to be very self aware and real
having the children it's the easy part it's the raising them and making sure
you're not extending yourself financially and just like all these
things so there's a lot of things that you have to think about before you bring
children to the world okay next question you are shy when you meet someone you
don't know I wouldn't say I'm shy I would say that I'm more of a reserved
person so something that I don't do is just kind of have emotional diarrhea
about my life and who I am and what I do and where I'm going and you it's funny
enough there's quite a bit of people that do that I've noticed and I don't
know if it's because they want to feel a connection with someone or because they
just kind of have no one else to talk to but I don't do that I'm pretty reserved
and I kind of keep my distance but I'm very open and very outgoing you fight
about your kids upbringing that is incorrect who actually Gary and I are
pretty aligned with the way we want to raise our kids I mean we obviously have
a lot of discussions about it and we always voice our opinions but we always
kind of find I mean we have the same base of morals and values so we always
find kind of a solution for whatever kind of issue is in front of us and
that's going to keep happening I think that communicating about this is very
important because we do want to seem like a very strong front in front of our
kids because three boys there's got to be control in this house you used to be
insecure growing up yes that is very very correct and I do talk about it
a lot and I think why I talk about self-love and and self-care so much is
because it's something that you know my journey and with this started not that
long ago and you know a lot of people assume that you know you love yourself
and you care about your 7 you have this strong like confidence and self-esteem
especially if you you know look a certain way and that's not true I think
that a lot of us are battling this you know self doubt and insecurities and
self-esteem issues and a low self-image and self-respect I think all of us cited
in one way or another so that's kind of why it is probably the biggest message
that I want to bring to the world through my content so yes I I just know
how much I've changed and how many doors I opened for myself once I started
really appreciating Who I am and being self aware of Who I am and learning you
know about my strengths and weaknesses and it's still a journey by the way I'm
still not all the way there you are a messy person I am messy yes I think that
it's something that goes really against my Virgo nature I love when things are
clean but I just feel like I'm a little bit all over the place am I gonna lie
and thank God that Gary is the same because otherwise it would be a really
really bad combo no it is a bad combo like there's a it's always messy in our
house we're such small children so we kind of put the blame on them you get
mad easily I actually don't I feel like I'm pretty
like I've learned how to breathe properly and just kind of let it go I'm
trying to remind myself in situations where I get really frustrated that you
know those are things that don't really matter and they don't worth the energy
and my nervous system to go down because of it so I really try to stay as calm as
I can and most of the time it works and there are times that it doesn't at all
because life tests you every single day but I think that it's something that I'm
always kind of trying to be aware of conscious
and work on it but I would say that naturally I don't get angry really fast
you have never had short hair before I actually have I had a short hair before
but it was my mistake it's not something that I wanted so I went to get a haircut
and I had really long hair like I have now and I just said that I want
something to feel fresher and I guess hairdresser decided but that means let's
chop 90% of her hair so I came out with basically like a long bob and I hated it
and I felt so weird and I had no personality for like months until my
hair started growing back so never again you are pregnant to the know I had a
baby four months ago you never thought you would be the successful at this age
I think it depends what your definition of success is for me I'm super happy
where I'm at at life but I know that there's so much for me to still learn
and become I am grateful for all the circumstances and situations that happen
to me that just kind of helped me to get where I am but I also know that you know
I've worked hard and I'm dedicated and I have a really really good work ethic
which I did not come to me easily so I think that I always kind of knew that I
am gonna find something of my own and push on it I never really had like an
age thing it's not like now when we have social media and we see like these 24
year olds there are CEOs and selling companies for 100 millions dollars like
I didn't have that comparable for myself growing up so I think that it's much
more stressful today for young people because there's so much of this like
success around them but for me success is just to really feel good about Who I
am what I do and to be excited and happy with what I do and passionate about it
so I feel really happy now you were very wild and a partier as a teenager
especially during your modeling days yes that is correct I used to party a lot
because there was nothing else to do we would go out all the time
and you know for a teenager I mean being 1617 in Paris or Japan or wherever
there's especially if you're a model I mean there are literally clubs that just
you know you don't have to pay to get people or drinks or dinner or anything
like that because they want to attract models to their club so we were totally
taking advantage of it I have some amazing memories of just girls that were
my roommates throughout the years in different countries and we would like
party all the time I was over it pretty early in my life you're lactose
intolerant no not correct no I'm not actually I
think it's because in the Russian culture we are so used to so much dairy
in everything so I am NOT your relationship with your mother wasn't
always as good as it is now I think that's something that my mom did that
was so helpful for both of us was she was never really babying me she never
really portrayed the world like perfect you know good place always she was very
real and honest with me which I think was very good at times it was a little
much because at times as a single mother I think that you know you become kind of
a best friend with your child especially in my teen years you know we were she
was going through divorce and things like that so I think that that was a
little tough for me at times cuz I just wanted her to be my mom and not treat me
as her friend and tell me all these things because those are like work
grown-up heavy stuff but I also know that I was the closest thing to her and
she needed someone at that time so I would say that at that time when I was
about 16 and she moved to Canada and I was kind of doing my own thing living on
my own I got a little more disconnected from her she never did she was always
super invested she would call me 15 times a day but for me I was kind of
like going through a time where I needed to figure out who I am and you know as a
person as an individual so I kind of disconnected myself and because she was
physically she was so far away it was very easy for me to kind of separate
from kind of that my family so I did that and I do that
for about two three years and then I had enough of it and I figured out who I am
on my own you know without having my mother and father tell me who I am so
then when I moved to Canada we kind of got reconnected and became really close
and I mean now that I am a mother and I have kids of my own
we're beyond close because not only do I understand all the sacrifice and
everything that she went through but it's just I am a grown-up now so I get
it and now we were like best best friends and she could tell me anything
because I'm a grown-up kid and I get it you spend one hour a day putting on and
removing makeup no I think that it takes me about 15 to 20 minutes to put on
makeup and I would say maybe 15 minutes to take it off and that's what my
skincare routine I'm really quick you have to be quick when you have kids
because you have no time you never get depressed this is something really
interesting I feel like I've never really been like it was never this big
issue in my life I never battled like serious depression or anxiety like a lot
of other people do that I'm really happy that today mental health and mental
issues you know it's encouraged to talk about it and to ask for help I think
it's so important I never really went through a phase where I got to a point
where really just needed help a lot of the kind of down times that I was going
through in my life were you know when my parents got divorced or when I was
really lonely in the beginning and working and just like throughout ten
years I mean hormonal II were all over the place but I always kind of found an
outlet if it's to writing or you know socializing or talking to my friends but
yeah I can say that I have these like really really dark times in my mind that
I remember next question you have daddy issues / you want to have a strong
relationship with your biological father so the first part of the question you
have daddy issues I I'm sure I do because that's something
that was always kind of weird and unstable in my life although I have a
stepfather that was with me from the age of five to 16 and he was you know a real
father but yeah I think that I'm slowly as you know life goes on I'm slowly kind
of reaching deeper and deeper and touching those issues that I have and a
lot of those issues were kind of solved when I met my biological father do I
want to have relationship with him no because I don't know that person I mean
he's my biological father but I they got divorced when I was 2 months there was
really nothing it was really nice to see all these similarities and mannerism and
like physically that we look alike but I don't have like a hole that I need to
fill in my life so that's the reason why I kind of didn't pursue maintaining that
relationship regarding the daddy issues that's something that you know I'm still
working on it I'm sure I have it maybe that's why I married an older man as
well like I just you know that protection and that maybe I lagged
growing up having like a man figure in my life I don't know it's it's a heavy
subject there's a lot of things that I feel like small nuances that I recognize
you never feel and secure about your appearance that's not true at all I
think that every woman for some reason we are kind of programmed to feel always
insecure about something I think that it's you know this comparison thing that
we do to ourselves especially now with social media I'm working on it and I'm
getting much much better I like I got so much better than I was even five years
ago I'm like on a different level now I just I feel more comfortable in my skin
I you know I just I like myself more and I think it shows and I'm not trying to
be someone that I'm not so I think that really helped me to just be more
confident and secure and the way I looked and the way I act you have a
favorite kid no that's like the biggest nono question to ask a parent there is
no a favorite kid no happen you had to grow up really quickly
yes definitely I had to grow up really quickly because I left the house really
young and I started working young and I kind of just started the grown-up life
much much younger so it really accelerated the whole process for me and
I was just telling like we we had dinner with the girls from Valera and the other
night and I was just telling them like I never had a teenage experience really I
mean I left high school I was 15 like the traditional structure of high school
was still at the finished high school but I was doing it on a program that
where I study by myself and I just show up for exams so I never really had that
experience if it's socially or any of like prom like any of those events it
never really happened to me so yeah definitely had to grow up pretty fast
but I think it's also something that I chose for myself I mean I decided to
pursue the modeling career and I decided to start traveling and living in
different countries and cities in the world and no one made me I just knew
that you know that's kind of my journey and I chose that journeys you don't
spend that much time with Maximus it's funny because I saw like maybe one or
two comments throughout the videos on YouTube about like the fact that I don't
spend time with Maximus so I mean I have to be really honest as any mother of
more than one child with every child especially when the other ones are a
little older and require more like attention mentally you yes the third
child basically kind of raises itself I definitely don't spend as much time
with Maximus as I spent with Jake because it was just Jake and I but I'm
trying my best I mean I'm trying to be as present as I
can I think for Maximus and I we spend a lot of time together at night I put him
to sleep I'll give him a bath or you know at night when you accept to eat
I'll feed him but yeah during the day I'm either with the boys with their
activities or I'm working but I'm trying to like remind myself how fast the baby
stage goes and that I need to be more present
and I mean yes you always have that guilt and you try to do your best and I
try to do my best you didn't want kids before you met Gary before I'm not Gary
I never even thought about kids like I was really young I was at a different
stage in my life I didn't even think about kids you never thought you would
have this much support from your fans I have to say my social media community
like my online community just makes me believe that there's so much goodness in
the world and there's so many amazing beautiful minds out there and I think
that's the best gift that it gave me because you know we can get so cynical
about life reading the news or just like meeting bad apples on our way in life
and I think that just being exposed to these intelligent strong awesome women
that have similar interests like mine it's really really great and I'm super
super thankful for that and on days where I just feel like I just can't do
it anymore that's what keeps me going you were popular in high school
definitely not popular I don't even think people knew I went to high school
with them I don't even know if I was in a yearbook
I was so invisible you guys I had like one or two friends and I was just like
sitting in the corner with them listening to like emo music yeah that
was it no one really knew who I was or what I was about really so I was not
popular in high school you don't see Gary that much and that leads to you two
not being as in love as you show it I actually see Gary a lot especially now
where you know he's very involved at valeri Inc and we work together all the
time I love spending time with him it's definitely a different dynamic when you
work together I love it I really love it I feel like we just communicate so much
better and I learned so much from him we have all these like visions and ideas of
how we want to do everything and to build our lives and it's awesome that we
can both do it and work towards that goal so I can definitely say that I love
him now then I love them when we got married
I think that with life you know having our children and going through
difficulties as a couple you just learn to appreciate your partner so much more
and that love is just so much more deeper and so much more substantial so I
really really love him you never eat junk food that's not correct
I love junk food and I definitely eat it especially with small kids that just
there's always french fry somewhere I'm not sure why but I do try to balance it
with having green smoothies and with taking my supplements and you know being
conscious of making better choices you never swear I love swearing
I love swearing so much and Gary is like hates when I swear and I feel like it's
also so out of character for me but I don't know I love it but I don't anymore
because Gary doesn't like it and there's kids around so I mean I don't want my
kids to tell at school how mommy talks you sleep in a glass tube to prevent
aging how did you guys know are you spying on me no for real what's a glass
tube and where do I buy it you hate getting comments about you and your
husband's age difference um I think that I expected it's already like it doesn't
really bother me anymore I feel like it will always be you know this juicy thing
to talk about and I'm cool with it that's cool so if people ask me or you
know and I have legit like people that DM me about it just really want to know
like how is it and and I'm super open about it and you know though I don't
mind anymore you regret your nose job um I don't know if I regret it I think that
as I mentioned in my no joke video in case you guys didn't watch I'll put it
here as I mentioned in the video I don't know if I would have done it again
knowing what I know today or just you know knowing that it would have fixed my
issues that I had with myself but I wouldn't say like I regret it when you
first met Gary you knew he was the one when I first met Gary I didn't I don't
actually remember him much because I when I met him it was when I just
arrived to Canada so that was the first time I met him but I would say that I
knew he was the one probably like the third or fourth time we met you wished
you had a girl honestly I love being a boy's mom I'm obsessed with my boys and
if we decide to have more kids and they're all gonna be boys I'll be super
happy it would be nice to have a girl but I mean as long as I have healthy
happy children I'm I have no complaints Gary is your first love yes definitely
Gary is definitely my first love because what I thought was love before was very
different than what I think what love is now so yes Gary is my first love you
love public speaking' and you're super confident is this a joke I hate public
speaking and I'm so so not confident and it scares the hell out of me
and I just also had you know actually I think like a week or two weeks ago I had
an opportunity to speak in front of audience of just like business students
and it was so terrible and so embarrassing and I completely failed at
whatever I was supposed to do but I'm happy that it happened because it not
only that you know the worst thing that I thought can happen happen and I
survived and life goes on so that's number one
I think that sometimes we you know lose perspective about things so not only did
it remind me that of that but it also showed me that you know this is
something you need to really really work on and to improve because doesn't come
naturally to you so get to work I think that because I put kind of all my
intentions and thought about that because I really want to get better at
it I have these opportunities coming my way and there's actually a big
conference that's happening in March which is basically about women and
leadership and it's also from a university and there's gonna be lots of
people and they want me to be one of the speakers for 45 minutes I am freaking
out I'm so scared I can't even tell you I'm so scared but I'm gonna use my work
ethic and my dedication really hard on this one and I'm gonna try to be really
prepared and just do my best and I'll probably have to take a little shot
before I go onstage I'm so scared I can't even talk about it
oh my god I assume you are a workaholic yes I think so
I think that I do really really love what I do and I love my work and I feel
so happy to have this and thank God that I have my kids because I think they're
the ones you're bringing that balance into my life they kind of remind me
sometimes to pull back and to you know put work aside and just focus on this
and I love working you're just not working when you do something that you
love it's that simple there's like the saying if do what you love and you won't
have to work a day in your life the right you never been dumped oh I have I
ever been dumped here I definitely I think I had like two guides that broke
my heart I mean it wasn't like this dramatic thing but they dumped me and
one was completely like just ignored my existence so it happens you're not a
person who deals with daily anxiety so actually funny enough that kind of
brings me back to how there was the assumption about depression and I
mentioned that I never like growing up I never dealt with I need this you know
deep heavy depression or anxiety but I have to say that I feel like there is
definitely more anxiety present in my life now I think it's just because
there's so many things going on and I just get really really overwhelmed
sometimes and I think that's why a lot of people today deal with anxiety the
world is so much faster there's so much more information there's so many things
coming your ways yes I definitely I can easily say that there are moments of an
xiety throughout my day almost every single day but for me I just learned to
first of all kind of backtrack and focus at the one thing that I need to do right
now and not think about the rest of the things and just kind of take it one task
at a time and not overwhelm myself definitely something that I'm still
training myself to do and that's it Gary is your sugar daddy okay what's the
definition of sugar daddy I need to know sugar daddy definition a rich older man
who lavish his gifts on a young woman and returned for a company or sexual
favors so no he is not a sugar daddy because we are married he doesn't need
to buy me gifts to have my company or sexual favors but yes I mean it's not
what yes I mean it's not a secret gary is older than me and he was well-off
when I met him but you can't build a life based on that I don't think people
realize it but marriage and kids I mean it takes to be with someone and to you
know kind of decide to build a life for that person takes a whole lot more than
just gifts to do it but yeah I'm definitely feel like a lot of people
assume that you never get drunk I actually honestly now after having
babies and my tolerance is basically non-existent I one glass of wine and I'm
like you haven't spent a day in prison no I have not that's correct no prison
for me you actually have a fourth son called Luigi yes that is correct I do we
adopt at him two weeks ago when Jake no no Jake when Benjamin just wouldn't let
go of this whole Luigi part of the family thanks but to you all is more
I'm Mario's mom so yeah we're just part of a family now you compare yourself a
lot to others that's definitely something that I stopped doing and super
happy about that I used to do it a lot it consumed so much of me and yeah I I
slowly kind of let it go and started working on it and I can really say that
I'm gonna in a place where I don't really compare myself to others I don't
think that I would say that I'm completely never do it anymore I think
that you still do and it's natural sometimes it's even a good thing to do
like a good exercise to motivate yourself you know and to kind of pump
you up to get you going on something that you want to achieve so I still do
that but I try to not do it where you know it becomes a connective thing that
makes me feel bad about myself or that I'm not good enough or pretty enough for
this enough that's definitely the self-sabotage thing that I stopped doing
you struggled with an eating disorder / were anorexic no I never had an eating
disorder or I were having an Iraq SIA never had that I was always naturally
skinny and petite in general so I was skinny and my mom always tried to over
feed me because I was so small but I never had like specifically eating
disorders problem if you had a daughter you would be more strict with her than
your sons I don't think so I think that in general the way I view you know
raising kids is that yes they do need discipline and they need order but I
also love giving them the space of expressing themselves and figuring out
their voice I would do the same if I had a girl for sure you wish Gary wasn't
bald actually I saw a picture of Gary with hair maybe we can attach one here
and I did not like it and I straight-up told him if I would have Matthew with
hair I would have never liked this this would have never happened so yay for
baldness a couple last questions so you are not a jealous life that is correct I
think that I'm not a jealous wife because
No my husband like I know Gary and I know that he is the most respectful and
honest person and I just know that I have no reason to worry at all if I ever
felt like I had a reason to worry I probably wouldn't marry him because I
don't want to spend my energy and you know thinking about these crazy things
in my head like I rather build my Empire and last question I assume you don't
cook at all funny assumption um I used to cook a lot especially after nutrition
school I was also not really working so I had time to kind of experiment in the
kitchen the kitchen was never like my thing like I never loved cooking it was
never a thing for me my mom on the other hand is amazing you can literally have
potato and an egg and she'll like create the most amazing gourmet meal ever
I so don't have that I like cooking sometimes it depends on my mood
but honestly I just not my thing it's really not like it's really important
for people to know what they're good at and just concentrate on it and cooking
is just not it and I'm super happy that we live at a time where there's
companies like I actually that's what we have at home we have this meal delivery
company where they I choose the recipes and then they send you all the
ingredients and the recipe and then you make it so it's all fresh it's made at
home but I don't need to come up with the recipes and I don't need to think
about how to make them everything is pretty like straightforward so that's
how I roll in this house and that's it these are all the assumptions that you
guys send our way and the ones that we thought would be interesting to share
with you I hope that answered or cleared some of them and they'd said you guys
thank you so much for watching and if you have any other assumptions you let
me know I'm here on YouTube answering your questions hit me up in the comment
section love you guys and have an amazing day
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