Name: 如何做一個真實的人，不在乎別人的看法--6個技巧 (How to Be Authentic and Not Care What Other People Think - 6 Tips)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T09:15:39.000Z
Duration: 9 min 38 s
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Hi, It's Linda Rainer, career strategist and creator of standup and get hired, guiding you to pursue the career that you're meant to.

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So in today's video, I want to talk to you about the Tropic of Authenticity and not caring about what other people think, especially when it comes to making your own career choices.

So if you're someone who wants to have a meaningful and fulfilling career, one that you're excited to get up for every morning, then you definitely want to pay attention to this video and the tips I have to share.

So why is it important to be authentic when it comes to your career?

Well, I mentioned the first reason, and that is to have a meaningful, fulfilling and exciting career that you actually want to get up for every morning.

The second reason is so that eventually you don't ever have the regret of not going after the career that you really wanted to.

So, Ronnie, where is the author of the book The Top Regrets of the Dying?

And she was a former palliative care nurse where she looked after patients who were in their last 12 weeks before death.

And she had a lot of interactions and conversations with these patients and the number one regret Waas.

I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself and not the life others expected of me.

We don't ever want to one day be on our deathbeds and literally tell ourselves I wish I didn't listen to what other people expect it of me and just listen to myself.

This is the opportunity for you to start listening to yourself in the way to do that is Seymour of your authentic self, and I'll guide you through that.

All right, so here are six reminders that I've come up with for myself that worked for me, that will also hopefully help you to stay grounded and authentic on a daily basis.

Tell yourself I have preferences and I'm not afraid to embrace them.

So for me, for example, if there's something that I don't agree with her I don't like, then I'm not gonna pretend that I do agree with it or that I do like it.

And if there's something that I really like or that I prefer that I'm excited about, then also enthusiasm towards it.

And if I'm indifferent towards something, then I'll be indifferent.

What I'm promoting is to not suppress your feelings.

Just be completely honest and transparent with who you are.

People are gonna be attracted to you in your career in your business because of the fact that you're naturally authentic because of the fact that you're honest and you're genuine.

On top of that, it's important to know what your preferences are.

Meaning what you like, what you don't like, because if you don't have any idea that you're never gonna find a career that matches what you truly genuinely want, so get clear on what your preferences are and embrace them and express them freely.

Reminder number two Tell yourself I listen to my gut trusting in that inner voice that intuition of yours is actually vital in order to have an authentic career.

I know that that's true for myself because whenever you're faced with the decision to make a choice that you have to make.

If it's to switch into another industry or if it's to start your own business and you're not sure of how to do it or you know what steps to take next.

Listening to that inner voice, we'll give you the answer, and I know that it's worked for me.

So, for example, whenever I'm faced with a decision to make in my business, I need to really process it.

What I'll do is I'll set aside some quiet reflection time.

So all grab a journal, grab a piece of paper and literally all just start writing down the ideas, thoughts, the feelings that I have regarding this specific decision that I have to make.

So you know, it's about really allowing yourself the opportunity to process how you're feeling and really to understand what it is that you really want.

And from there, the right choices will be made and the decisions will come.

So as long as you can learn to tap into that gut feeling that inner voice of yours, then you know that your authentic career is really within reach because you're taking the right steps to getting towards it.

Having boundaries means that you're aware of your own energy and your own energetic space.

And it also means that you value your energy and you're not willing to dream yourself by constantly giving toe others in order to even have the energy to be authentic with yourself and with other people, you need to be aware of your own energy.

So if you're constantly saying yes and you're constantly giving, giving, giving without even thinking of yourself in return and you're absolutely gonna be drained, and that means that you're gonna have nothing left, no piece of energy left in order to be true to who you are and give yourself what you need.

So it's extremely important to set and declare boundaries, and you communicate that with those around and you're not doing this in an aggressive, pushy, bossy way.

That's all about honing in on your own inner power and being true to yourself and knowing what you can handle on what you can't.

And I know that this will be really key in helping you to develop and find and create the authentic career that you're looking for.

When someone asks you, what do you want in your ideal life or career?

A lot of you may say, Well, the easy answer is you know, I don't know what I really want.

And sometimes people use that as a cop out.

You may use that because you really don't know and therefore use one end the conversation so you'll say, I don't know.

But if you keep using that as your reply to what do you really want in your life?

Imagine that you were stranded in the middle of the ocean and there were two lifeboats that you had to get on there was wth e I don't know boat.

And there's wth e I'm gonna figure it out.

Vote the I don't know, boat literally just spins in circles, goes round and round in the middle of the ocean and then be I'll figure it out.

Boat actually head somewhere, doesn't know where it's gonna go.

Steps laid out, however, it is willing to move, it's willing to move forward, and it's willing to figure it out.

So which boat do you really want to be on?

You know, honestly, where are you sitting at right now?

And if you tell yourself you know what I want to get on that I want to figure it out.

So once you're in that boat, then now ask yourself what is one thing?

Just one thing that you know you want from your ideal career or life.

If it's to say, I know I want to work for myself, orphans to say, I know I want to be part of a great team or if it's to be part of a bigger social cause, a bigger purpose than great.

Take that first clue and start working with it, and then start taking the steps as you're on that boat to keep moving forward and keep heading into the direction of where you eventually will want to be when you need to start telling yourself, You know what?

But I know bits and increments of it, and I'll start to piece the puzzle together.

I'm willing to take it one step at a time.

Tell yourself I have fears and I expressed them.

Instead of allowing those fears to really live and possess you and overtake your entire life choices, it's time to really put them down on paper when you can actually write them down.

As plain and simple as they are, you'll realize that fears are nothing other than just scary thoughts.

Thoughts that you've allowed yourself to believe because when you can acknowledge and understand your own fears, you can understand other people's fears because truthfully, as humans, we all have very similar fears.

You know they may look slightly different in shape or form, but the underlying reason for why they exist is the same.

And so when you can connect with other people from that point of view, that's only gonna help people to connect with you better, and you are able to understand others as well.

And that will hopefully help you with building that business and crew that you will absolutely love.

I am willing to discover and let go of useless thoughts or beliefs and embrace ones that serve me and lift me up.

You need to realize and acknowledge that you are constantly evolving and you're constantly changing and that you're open to constantly evolving and changing at the same time.

And if you can start to acknowledge the useless thoughts that sometimes running your head, that are stopping you from going after what you really want and replacing them with more uplifting thoughts and more encouraging thoughts and really being motivated and positive about your journey, that's part of the process of becoming authentic, part of the process of being genuine and being honest with who you are and yourself in with others.