And in this super short video I'm going to be sharing with you the 5 signs that a dude you might have just started dating is seeing other women.

在這支超級短的影片中，我要和你們分享五個關於妳最近剛開始約會的對象可能偷吃的徵兆。

Keep watching.

繼續看下去。

The first sign is that you're not in a committed relationship with him.

第一個徵兆是你們之間的關係並沒有承諾。

If he hasn't said the words that, I'm not seeing anyone else, then don't assume he isn't.

如果他沒有說出「我沒有同時在和其他人約會」的字眼，那就不要自己假定他沒有。

Chances are, nowadays, if a guy is not in a committed relationship with you then he's probably dating and talking to lots of other women.

在現今的這個時代，如果一個男人和妳之間的關係沒有承諾，那他很可能也同時和許多其他女人談心和約會。

Just like you should be talking to other guys as well.

就像你也該和其他人聊聊天一樣。

It doesn't mean you have to be sleeping with a ton of other guys. It means that you should be talking to other guys and keeping your options open.

這不代表說妳要和很多不同的男人睡，而是說妳應該也要和其他人聊一聊並且保持選擇的開放性。

Then of course, once you both declare that you are in a committed relationship, then it becomes exclusive.

當然，一旦你們雙方都宣告將要進入有承諾的感情關係中，那麼就應該對彼此專一。

The second sign is that he won't hang out with you on the weekend.

第二個徵兆是他不會在假日時約妳出去。

Let me tell you sexy confidence ladies something right now.

現在讓我來告訴妳們一些事情。

You do not want to be the Tuesday night rotational girl.

妳不會想當那個只擁有他星期二晚上的女孩。

I repeat, you do not want to be the Tuesday night rotational girl.

我再說一次，妳不會想當那個只擁有他星期二晚上的女孩。

If he's only hanging out with you during the week and then he disappears on the weekends, then chances are, he's going out and meeting new girls to fill his dating pipeline.

如果他只在平日跟妳出去、假日就消失不見，那麼有可能他的約會記事本裡填滿了許多與其他新女孩約會的行程。

And you are the Tuesday night girl.

而妳就是被填在星期二那一格的女孩。

Don't be that Tuesday night girl.

不要變成那個只擁有星期二夜晚的可憐女孩

Number three, is he freaks out even if you go near his phone.

第三點，就是妳一靠近他的手機他就抓狂。

Let me look it up on Yelp.

讓我看看你的 Yelp.

No!

不！

Sketchy dudes are sketchy about their phones because that's where sketchy shit takes place.

不可靠的男人總是死守著自己藏有很多可疑訊息的手機。

But, ladies, please, don't be the NSA hacking into his phone to see what he's doing.

但女士們，請不要把自己當國家安全局的探員駭入對方的手機看他在幹嘛。

If you're not in a relationship with the guy, you don't have a right to know what he does with his phone.

如果你和這個男人沒有交往，那妳就沒有權利知道他用手機做什麼事。

And if you are in a relationship with a guy, and you can't trust him enough not to go ahead and snoop and go through all his text messages, then it's time to reconsider the relationship.

又如果妳有在和某個人交往，而妳對他的信任感不足以讓你壓抑偷窺他手機和看完所有對話紀錄的慾望，那麼妳也該重新考慮一下這段感情關係了。

Number four is his answer is always "maybe," and he never really wants to commit to any plans.

第四點是他的答案總是「也許吧」，而且他永遠沒有想要向妳承諾任何計畫。

If he's only saying maybe to you, then he's actively searching for some other girl to say yes to him.

如果他只對妳說「也許吧」，那麼他就是正在積極尋找另一個會對他說「好」的女孩。

And then when she says no to him, he says yes to you.

而當那個女孩對他說「不」的時候，他才有可能對妳說「好」。

And finally, number five, is that you're always accusing him of seeing other girls.

最後，第五個徵兆就是當妳一直不停地指控他有和其他人約的時候。

Listen, relationships require trust, and if you constantly don't trust him and keep nagging about him seeing other women, then he's not going to put up with that shit.

聽著，關係的建立需要信任，而如果妳一直不相信他並碎念他和其他人約會的這件事，那他就不會想要繼續忍受這段關係。

So the moral of the story is, if you're just talking to the guy in a casual situation...

所以這個故事告訴我們，如果妳只是在一個非正式的場合和這個男人聊天的話......

Then you know what?

猜猜該怎麼做？

Assume he's seeing other women.

直接假設他也同時正在和別的女人約會。

If you're not happy with that situation, sit him down, have a conversation that he needs to be committed or you move on.

如果你對這個狀況不滿意的話，和他坐下來好好談一談，確認到底是他要給妳承諾還是妳要離開他繼續往前走。

Finally, if you are in a committed relationship, it's going well, and he hasn't given you any reasons not to trust him, then you've got to trust him.

最後，如果妳正處於一段穩定關係中，而這段關係也很順利、他也沒有任何讓妳不相信他的理由，那妳就必須相信他。

And if you enjoyed this video and you have questions like this that always come up in your dating life, I would definitely recommend you check out my Unity program right here where you can ask me any question in our private forum.

如果妳喜歡這個影片而且總是有很多關於感情生活的問題，我會推薦妳去看看我的線上課程，妳可以在裡面直接透過私人表單問我任何問題。

You can get early access to videos just like this up to 4 to 6 weeks in advance.

而且妳還能提早四到六週看到我們的最新影片。

You can join my monthly coaching call.

妳可以加入我的特訓專線。

And even get a weekly text from me with your dating homework each and every week.

甚至每個禮拜都能收到我的簡訊和約會作業。

You can check that out right there.

你可以在那裡找到所有資訊。

And, of course, don't forget to head on over to SexyConfidence dot com.

當然，不要忘了前往 SexyConfidence.com 網站。

You can click on that link right there, where you can sign up for my email list and get more videos just like this every single week.

妳可以點那裡的連結，到網站註冊會員並看更多像這樣的影片。

And, finally, please, if you enjoyed the video, please give it a like on YouTube. That really helps me out a lot.

最後最後，拜託，如果妳喜歡這支影片，可以按喜歡，這對我們的幫助很大。

And don't forget to share it with a friend of yours who might need to hear this.

並且別忘記分享給妳所有需要這個影片的朋友。

And of course, hit that subscribe button so you can get notifications on YouTube to watch the video the moment it comes out.

當然，記得按下訂閱鈕，這樣就能在影片上傳時得到通知。

Thank you so much for watching, and I'll speak to you soon.

感謝妳們的收看，我們下次見。

Bye bye.

再見。