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20 Signs you are Emotionally Mature
1. You realise that most of the bad behaviour of other people really comes down to fear
and anxiety - rather than, as it is generally easier to presume, nastiness or idiocy. You
loosen your hold on self-righteousness and stop thinking of the world as populated by
either monsters or fools. It makes things less black and white at first, but in time,
a great deal more interesting.
2. You learn that what is in your head can't automatically be understood by other people.
You realise that, unfortunately, you will have to articulate your intentions and feelings
with the use of words - and can't fairly blame others for not getting what you mean
until you've spoken calmly and clearly.
3. You learn that - remarkably - you do sometimes get things wrong. With huge courage, you take
your first faltering steps towards (once in a while) apologising.
4. You learn to be confident not by realising that you're great, but by learning that
everyone else is just as stupid, scared and lost as you are. We're all making it up
as we go along, and that's fine.
5. You forgive your parents because you realise that they didn't put you on this earth in
order to insult you. They were just painfully out of their depth and struggling with demons
of their own. Anger turns, at points, to pity and compassion.
6. You learn the enormous influence of so-called 'small' things on mood: bed-times, blood
sugar and alcohol levels, degrees of background stress etc. And as a result, you learn never
to bring up an important, contentious issue with a loved one until everyone is well rested,
no one is drunk, you've had some food, nothing else is alarming you and you aren't rushing
to catch a train.
7. You give up sulking. If someone hurts you, you don't store up the hatred and the hurt
for days. You remember you'll be dead soon. You don't expect others to know what's
wrong. You tell them straight and if they get it, you forgive them. And if they don't,
in a different way, you forgive them too.
8. You cease to believe in perfection in pretty much every area. There aren't any perfect
people, perfect jobs or perfect lives. Instead, you pivot towards an appreciation of what
is (to use the psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott's exemplary phrase) 'good enough.' You realise
that many things in your life are at once quite frustrating - and yet, in many ways,
eminently good enough.
9. You learn the virtues of being a little more pessimistic about how things will turn
out - and as a result, emerge as a calmer, more patient and more forgiving soul. You
lose some of your idealism and become a far less maddening person (less impatient, less
rigid, less angry).
10. You learn to see that everyone's weaknesses of character are linked to counter-balancing
strengths. Rather than isolating their weaknesses, you look at the whole picture: yes, someone
is rather pedantic, but they're also beautifully precise and a rock at times of turmoil. Yes
someone is a bit messy, but at the same time brilliantly creative and very visionary. You
realise (truly) that perfect people don't exist - and that every strength will be tagged
with a weakness.
11. You fall in love a bit less easily. It's difficult, in a way. When you were less mature,
you could develop a crush in an instant. Now, you're poignantly aware that everyone, however
externally charming or accomplished, would be a bit of a pain from close up. You develop
loyalty to what you already have.
12. You learn that you are - rather surprisingly - quite a difficult person to live with. You
shed some of your earlier sentimentality towards yourself. You go into friendships and relationships
offering others kindly warnings of how and when you might prove a challenge.
13. You learn to forgive yourself for your errors and foolishness. You realise the unfruitful
self-absorption involved in simply flogging yourself for past misdeeds. You become more
of a friend to yourself. Of course you're an idiot, but you're still a loveable one,
as we all are.
14. You learn that part of what maturity involves is making peace with the stubbornly child-like
bits of you that will always remain. You cease trying to be a grown up at every occasion.
You accept that we all have our regressive moments - and when the inner two year old
you rears its head, you greet them generously and give them the attention they need.
15. You cease to put too much hope in grand plans for the kind of happiness you expect
can last for years. You celebrate the little things that go well. You realise that satisfaction
comes in increments of minutes. You're delighted if one day passes by without too much bother.
You take a greater interest in flowers and in the evening sky. You develop a taste for
small pleasures.
16. What people in general think of you ceases to be such a concern. You realise the minds
of others are muddled places and you don't try so hard to polish your image in everyone
else's eyes. What counts is that you and one or two others are OK with you being you.
You give up on fame and start to rely on love.
17. You get better at hearing feedback. Rather than assuming that anyone who criticises you
is either trying to humiliate you or is making a mistake, you accept that maybe it would
be an idea to take a few things on board. You start to see that you can listen to a
criticism and survive it - without having to put on your armour and deny there was ever
a problem.
18. You realise the extent to which you tend to live, day by day, in too great a proximity
to certain of your problems and issues. You remember - more and more - that you need to
get perspective on things that pain you. You take more walks in nature, you might get a
pet (they don't fret like we do) and you appreciate the distant galaxies above us in
the night sky.
19. You recognise how your distinctive past colours your response to events - and learn
to compensate for the distortions that result. You accept that, because of how your childhood
went, you have a predisposition to exaggerate in certain areas. You become suspicious of
your own first impulses around particular topics. You realise - sometimes - not to go
with your feelings.
20. When you start a friendship, you realise that other people don't principally want
to know your good news, so much as gain an insight into what troubles and worries you,
so that they can in turn feel less lonely with the pains of their own hearts. You become
a better friend because you see that what friendship is really about is a sharing of
vulnerability.
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