Learning to love yourself more is one of the most powerful things you can do in regards to self-improvement.

關於自我成長，學會更愛自己是其中一個最有力量的方法。

It can fix things like low self-esteem, a strong need for validation from others, and also increase your levels of confidence.

它可以解決自卑、高度他人認可需求的問題，並也會同時增加你的自信心。

So today I'm going to show you exactly how to love yourself more.

所以今天我會告訴你究竟應該如何更愛自己。

I want you to think about someone that you really like.

我希望你想出一個你很喜歡的人。

It can be a celebrity, a family member, a friend, or even a fictional character.

可以是名人、家人、朋友、或甚至虛構的角色。

For the purposes of this video, I'm just going to use a celebrity that almost everyone likes as an example.

為了影片的目的，我將會舉一個大家幾乎都喜歡的名人當例子。

I'm going to use Keanu Reeves, the guy from the Matrix and John Wick.

我要舉的例子就是基努李維，那個演過捍衛任務和駭客任務裡的真男人。

Now what's so special about Keanu other than the fact that he doesn't seem to age?

除了看起來沒有變老之外，基努李維到底哪裡特別？

Why do people love him so much?

為什麼大家都這麼喜歡他？

Well, there's a couple of reasons, but personally what I like most about him is the fact that there's always some story of him going out of his way to help others out.

有滿多原因的，但我個人最喜歡他的原因：總是有不少關於他幫助別人的故事。

And what's so special about this is the fact that you never hear these stories from his mouth.

最特別的一點，是你從來沒有聽他親自開口說這些故事。

It's always some stranger on the internet who happened to be there, witnessing the good deed, that's telling you this story.

都是一些網路上的陌生人因為剛好在現場，並目擊到了這些善行，然後告訴你這些故事。

Which means that Keanu Reeves goes around doing good things all of the time without ever bragging about it.

也就代表基努李維經常在各地做善事，但從來沒有到處吹噓。

He doesn't do it for validation from other people.

他做這些從來不是為了得到他人的認可。

He doesn't do it for points on the internet or for the attention.

他從來不是為了提高網路聲譽或是博得他人注意。

He does it because he genuinely likes being a good person.

他做這些是因為他就是一個完完全全、真正的好人。

For example, just a couple of weeks ago, Keanu was on a public plane.

例如，就在幾週前，基努李維當時正在一個飛機上。

And for some reason, the plane had to do an emergency landing, which you can only imagine must be pretty scary.

基於某些原因那架飛機必須緊急降落，你可以想像那狀況一定很可怕。

Most of the people on that plane probably thought that they were going to die at one point or another.

當時在飛機上大部分的人大概都覺得自己一定會在這一秒或下一秒掛掉。

Luckily for everyone, the plane managed to land safely.

幸好，最後飛機安全降落。

No one was injured, but they landed about 100 miles away from their intended destination.

沒有人受傷，但他們停在一個離原本目的地 100 英里以外的地方。

So right after they land, instead of just calling a private taxi and going his own way, like most celebrities would, Keanu decides to charter a van.

所以當他們降落後，基努李維決定租一台廂型車，而不是像其他名人一樣叫一台計程車就走人。

He fills it with as many people from the plane as possible.

他盡可能地讓一起搭飛機的乘客擠上這台車。

He pays for the entire ride and has the van drive everyone for two hours to their intended destination.

他不僅付了車錢，還花了兩小時送每個人到他們原本要去的地方。

And for the entire ride, he's looking up fun facts about the place they landed in which was Bakersfield, California.

整趟車程，基努李維都在找一些關於他們降落的城市，也就是加州 Bakersfield 的有趣資訊。

And he's playing country music on his phone so that people feel more at ease.

他還用手機放鄉村音樂讓大家心情更舒暢。

Because again, these people just experienced an emergency landing on a plane.

一樣的原因，這些人剛經歷了緊急降落的事件。

So you can only imagine how stressed out and traumatized some of them were.

所以你可以想像他們有多恐慌和害怕。

And this is just one example.

而這只是其中一個例子。

There are tons of stories of him.

有太多關於他的故事了。

Picking up hitchhikers, hanging out with homeless people, giving up his seat on the subway, and just being an all around good guy.

讓別人搭順風車、和街友相處、地鐵上讓座，完全就是一個好人的代表。

But you never hear any of these stories from him, you always hear it from someone else.

但你從來不會聽到他自己講出這些故事，都是從別人那裡聽到的。

Now, why am I fanboying so hard over Keanu Reeves?

回到問題，為什麼我會是基努李維的鋼鐵基粉？

What does any of this have to do with learning to love yourself more.

這些事情到底跟更愛自己有什麼關係？

Well, if you think about it.

你想看看。

It's certain traits that make people so lovable.

讓一個人如此可親、可愛的就是他們的人格特質。

The reason I like Keanu Reeves is not because hes a celebrity or because I love the Matrix series.

我喜歡基努李維並不是因為他是一個名人或因為我很愛駭客任務系列電影。

I like Keanu because of this specific trait that he has, which again is doing good deeds without bragging about it.

我喜歡他是因為他的特質，也就是行善不留名。

And this is where the secret to learning how to love yourself lies.

這也就是學習更愛自己的秘訣。

All I would have to do is take this trait and add it to my character.

我應該做的就是將這項特質加入我自己的個性中。

And just like that, I would start loving myself more.

只要這樣做，我就會更愛自己。

If I started doing good deeds and never bragged about it, I would start loving myself more.

如果我開始做好事不留名，我就會開始更愛自己。

Because if you start incorporating the favorite traits of people that you admire and love...

因為當你開始將你喜歡或欣賞人們的特質融入自己......

If you take the reasons why you love them so much and add them to your self...

如果你將那些你愛他們的原因加到自己身上......

Guess what?

猜看看會發生甚麼事？

You'll start loving yourself more.

你就會開始更愛自己。

See, the reason we don't love ourselves is because we have traits that we don't like.

我們不愛自己的原因就是因為我們身上有些連自己都不喜歡的特質。

Maybe you think that you're lazy.

也許你覺得自己很懶。

Maybe you think you're socially awkward.

也許你覺得自己社交時容易尷尬。

Maybe you think you're not someone that others can depend upon.

也許你覺得你不是一個值得依靠的人。

If you're like me, and you don't like these traits in other people, but you have them in yourself, then of course, you're not going to love yourself.

如果你也跟我一樣，而且你討厭這些你有、別人卻沒有的特質，那當然你就不會愛自己。

Because you have so many traits about yourself that you dislike.

因為你具備太多連自己都不喜歡的特質。

All you need to do is fix this ratio.

你要做的就是修正比例。

Decrease the amount of traits that you dislike and increase the amount of traits that you like.

減少你不喜歡的特質，然後增加你喜歡的特質。

If you look up to someone because of their bravery, then all you have to do is start doing what you consider to be brave things like taking risks, speaking up for yourself, or standing up for others.

如果你崇拜一個人的勇敢，那你該做的就是做一些你覺得勇敢的事，像是冒險、為自己發聲或為他人站出來。

And you'll start loving yourself more.

然後你就會開始更愛自己。

If you look up to someone because of how hardworking they are, then all you have to do is start doing what you consider to be hard work, Like building habits, making progress in your projects, or hitting the gym, and you'll start loving yourself more.

如果你崇拜一個勤奮的人，那你該做的就是做一些你覺得跟勤奮有關的事，像是建立習慣、優化自己的專案或去健身房，你就會開始更愛自己。

If you look up to someone because they're a social butterfly, then all you have to do is start talking to more people or try to have deeper conversations, and you will start loving yourself more.

如果你崇拜一個社交能力強的人，那你該做的就是開始和更多人對話或是著和別人有更深入的對話，然後你就會更愛自己。

If you start incorporating the traits of people you look up to and like, you will start loving yourself more.

當你把崇拜或喜歡的人的特質融入自己，你就會開始更愛自己。

It's that simple.

就這麼簡單。

So the next time you see a celebrity or a friend that you admire, ask yourself this...

所以下次你看到一個欣賞的名人或朋友時，問問你自己......

What is it about them that I like so much?

我喜歡他們身上的哪一點？

And how can I add that trait to my own life so that I can learn to love myself more?

為了更愛我自己，要如何將這些特質加入我的生命中？

Now, if you're wondering what's the hands down best way to finding good traits to incorporate into your own life, the answer is by reading biographies.

現在，如果你想知道要如何最輕鬆的將這些好的特質融入到生命中，答案就是讀人物傳記。

By listening to the stories of some of the most successful people in the world and adopting their traits.

藉由聽世界上成功人士的故事並學習他們的特質。

Which brings us to the sponsors of today's video, Audible.

這也帶到了我們這個影片的贊助廠商 Audible 。

As much as I like reading books, I actually prefer listening to audio books on Audible.

我喜歡看書，但其實我更喜歡在 Audible 上聽書。

Mainly because Audible allows me to listen to books in places where I normally wouldn't be able to read.

主要是因為 Audible 讓我能夠在不能看書的地方隨時隨地聽書。

Such as when I'm working out, when I'm commuting somewhere, or when I'm doing my grocery shopping.

像是我在健身、通勤、或採買日用品的時候。

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到這個網站或者傳簡訊就能夠享受三十天的免費試用期，從今天開始閱讀人物傳記。

You'll get one free audiobook of your choice and 2 Audible originals from an ever changing list.

你會得到一本自選的聲音書和兩本 Audible 原創的書。

The biography I suggest you to check out is The House That Jack Ma Built.

我建議大家可以看看 The House That Jack Ma Built 這本傳記。

It tells the story of the humble beginnings of Jack Ma, the founder of one of the biggest and most successful companies in the world, Alibaba.

它述說了關於馬雲 (也就是全球前幾大成功公司，阿里巴巴的創辦人) 他艱困的出身和歷程。

There are a ton of traits that I admire about Jack, so I definitely recommend you to check it out so you can adopt some of those traits as well.

我欣賞他很多地方，所以我也非常大家去看看他的書。