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  • - Let's go ahead.

  • Kristen from Denmark.

  • Hi, honey, hi.

  • - Hi. How are you?

  • - I'm well as far as I know,

  • but not knowing the future, you know,

  • that keeps me well now, so...

  • - Yeah, I guess so.

  • - So, read what you wrote.

  • - Yeah, um, I wrote:

  • Dear Brian,

  • I have a question about the changes you made in your life.

  • You loved your ex-husband, yet you left him.

  • And then I put a parenthesis in and I said,

  • "Or did he leave you?"

  • You've got to love everything as it is,

  • yet, still, you have made changes.

  • I get confused as I am happy, content,

  • and haven't had a problem for a long time.

  • I still feel a need to change my life.

  • What am I missing here?

  • How do I know when its time to make changes,

  • when you can always find a way to love what is?

  • And am I not being true to myself,

  • as I can feel also fear of change?

  • - Yeah

  • - I even felt fear as I was writing you.

  • - Yeah, well I love that you have a happy life.

  • That's a beautiful thing.

  • And, I've noticed in my life and time,

  • in this illusion of time,

  • that there's nothing I can do for, you know,

  • it's like life changes.

  • It changes.

  • As the mind changes, life changes.

  • So, you don't have to change it.

  • It's going to change.

  • In time we get older, or our house burns,

  • or we move, or our spouse dies, you know.

  • Life changes, so you don't ever have to worry about change,

  • it will change.

  • And if you're happy for where you are,

  • you'll just continue to be happy.

  • Evidently, you're a, you've got a, um, uh,

  • a very, whatever your mind is, you're content.

  • I hear from you.

  • So, but as far as, it's like, like, loving what is,

  • to go back to a portion of your question,

  • I didn't change my life when I was, um,

  • it's like, I lived a yes to my own heart's desire.

  • That's how it was with Paul.

  • It's like people were calling,

  • and I, all of a sudden,

  • even though in the world I was married to Paul,

  • I found another partner, and it was my heart.

  • And so I became only answerable to that.

  • And anything that would stop me from living out of that,

  • was fear.

  • So I questioned -

  • - Yes

  • - What I believed on those judge your neighbor worksheets,

  • and there was nothing to stop me from following my heart,

  • love is a fearless state of mind.

  • So, I didn't change my life,

  • I lived a yes to my own hearts desire,

  • and I became married to that.

  • I had no reason, other than that yes,

  • to leave an amazing life with my husband.

  • As I continued to travel, that became too much for him.

  • And me rarely, very rarely, being home

  • and so, he, it became too much for him,

  • and he, beyond me, began to naturally,

  • make another life for himself,

  • and I'm very grateful for that.

  • It's what we do, you know, we...

  • He just did the right thing and I did the right thing.

  • And as a result of that, it was so beautiful,

  • he , he um, he had a most amazing life,

  • and he got to spend time with my grandchildren

  • that I didn't get to spend.

  • But, they didn't say, "Grandma, would you stay with me?",

  • you know, and other people would say, "I need help."

  • Anyway, following my heart,

  • so it was like that, sweetheart.

  • And it was change, something happened inside,

  • and, love is a fearless state of mind,

  • so, anything you're, any change you're afraid to make,

  • I would suggest a worksheet.

  • You put your fearful thoughts there, and,

  • and set yourself free to make change or not.

  • - Yeah, you're right, I should do that.

  • There is one thing, it's, it's just down to the small

  • everyday things I read in your book.

  • For example, one time when you were looking forward

  • to the snack you kept in the fridge.

  • And when you came home, your husband had eaten it.

  • And so you look at it,

  • it's a nice thing he got a joy out of it.

  • - Yeah.

  • - And still, you go to him and you say,

  • "Honey, next time, leave my snack alone."

  • And I was wondering, I stumble.

  • - Well, he will or he won't.

  • But it's like the caller before,

  • I can ask.

  • I'm not going to assume anything,

  • and I'm not going to fool myself

  • that, oh, I'm not spiritual if I say,

  • Leave my snack alone.

  • (laughter)

  • You know, there are, there is, there are no do's or don'ts.

  • This inquiry, for me, is about the end of suffering,

  • and, and, I can never make a claim to be free where

  • I'm not, and to me it's freedom to ask anything of anyone,

  • and then trust that they'll say yes or no.

  • - Yeah.

  • - And I, I, I love those. I love writing things like that,

  • because freedom isn't what we think it's going to look like.

  • It's just, it's just a natural flow of words,

  • and humor, and life that you're comfortable with.

  • And, always the recognition of, of

  • it's like I can afford to be happy.

  • I know that there is only,

  • this precious place of no past and no future.

  • So, the work give us that so solidly, eventually,

  • that we no longer have to guess.

  • It's, it's proven over and over and over and over.

  • It's always there.

  • It's always to be trusted.

  • It's unfailing and quiet.

  • - Yeah.

  • And as I trust, I also see in my mind how,

  • things will change eventually.

  • - Yeah.

  • - Of course.

  • - Yeah. Yeah.

  • So we don't even have to bring them about.

  • - No, that's my brain bringing them about.

  • - Yeah. Yes, Yes.

  • There's a lot of wisdom in that, a lot,

  • and a lot of peace.

  • - Thank you, very much, Katie.

  • - You're so welcome.

  • Thank you for your email, and your time with all of us.

- Let's go ahead.

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你如何知道什麼時候該做出改變? (How Do You Know When It's Time to Make Changes?)

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