How can you stop being shy when you speak English?

到底什麼時候才敢不害羞地開口說英文呢？

Let's talk about it.

讓我們來聊聊吧！

I recently got an e-mail from a student that said, "I'm usually a sociable person, but when I speak English, something happens, and all of a sudden I feel shy, what should I do to stop feeling shy?"

我最近收到學生的 email 寫道：我是個善於交際的人，但每當要我說英文時，我突然會覺得很害羞，到底要怎麼做才能擺脫害羞的感覺呢？

Well, today I want to answer this student, and I also want to help anyone else who feels shy when they speak English.

因此今天我想回答這位同學的問題，也想幫助那些在說英文時會感到害羞的學生喔！

I want to give you three tips to help you stop feeling shy.

我想給你們 3 個小妙招，讓你們擺脫害羞感。

The first one is something that you can do right now.

第一個妙招你們可以馬上實行。

It is to relax and take a deep breath.

就是放鬆並深呼吸。

We're going to take a deep breath all together right now.

我們現在一起深呼吸吧！

Are you ready?

準備好了嗎？

I want you to inhale slowly and then exhale slowly.

我希望你們緩慢地吸氣、吐氣。

Are you ready?

準備好了嗎？

I'm going to do it with you.

我會跟你們一起做喔！

This is going to help you relax.

這會幫助你們放鬆。

Ready?

準備好了嗎？

Did that feel good?

感覺還好嗎？

I hope that that simple breath helped you to relax.

我希望這樣簡單的呼吸法可以幫助你放鬆。

I recommend doing this three, four or five times in a row so that you can feel more and more comfortable and more relaxed.

我建議連續做個三、四到五次，你就能感到更加舒服與放鬆。

My second tip is to talk with someone who you trust.

我的第二個小妙招就是講給你完全信賴的人聽。

Someone who will accept you even if you make mistakes.

就算講錯也能包容你的那種人。

Because when you're learning a language, you're going to make mistakes.

因為當你學習語言時，你一定會犯錯。

It's normal.

這很正常。

This is part of learning, learning anything.

這是學習的一部份，不管學什麼都一樣。

So I recommend talking with someone who isn't your boss, who isn't someone in authority, but a friend or a kind teacher, or a speaking partner, somebody who you trust.

所以我建議不要講給老闆或該領域的權威聽，應該找朋友、親切的老師或練習口說的朋友，一個你能夠信賴的人。

This will help you with, number 1, relaxing, and by talking one on one you'll be able to focus on the conversation and you'll be able to speak with confidence, because it's one person who you trust.

這將會幫助你，第一，放鬆，且一對一對話可以讓你更專注在會話並充滿自信地對談，因為聽話者是你信賴的人。

My final tip is to ask questions when you have a conversation.

我的最後一個妙招是在對話的過程中發問。

When you ask someone questions, they are the one who's going to be talking a lot.

當你發問時，對方會變成是說最多話的一方。

So if you ask questions that start with, "W-h," who, what, where, when, why, the other person will need to talk a lot.

所以如果你用 Wh 問句來發問：誰、什麼、哪裡、何時、為什麼，而對方需要說更多話來回答。

For example, if you saw someone who's an English speaker and you asked them, "What are you doing next week?"

例如，當你遇到英文母語者時，你可以問他們：「你下週要做什麼？」

They're probably going to say, "Oh, I'm going to school and then I'm going to do this and then I'm going to do that."

他們應該會說：「喔，我要去上學，還要做這個、做那個。」

They're going to talk more, and then you can use their answer to ask more questions.

他們會談的比較多，而後你可以用他們的回答再去問更多問題。

"Oh, who are you going to see?"

「喔，你要跟誰見面呢？」

"When are you going to go there?"

「你什麼時候要去那邊？」

And by asking questions, you are controlling the conversation.

透過發問，你正主導著對話的走向。

And I think when you feel like you're in control, you can feel more confident, because if you're waiting for the other person to ask you questions, it feels helpless, like you don't know what's going to happen next.

我認為當你覺得自己能夠掌控對話走向時，你更能感覺到自信，因為如果你等著其他人向你發問，這真的會讓人覺得很無助，因為你不知道別人會問什麼問題。

So I recommend asking questions in a conversation to help you feel confident, and it's great because other people, people in general, love to talk about themselves and what they're doing and what they're passionate about.

所以我建議在對話中主動發問，這可以讓你建立信心，且這是很棒的方法因為對方或大部分的人都喜歡談論關於自己的事情，關於自己做的事或他們熱愛的所有事物。

So when you ask questions, you're caring about them and you're helping yourself feel less shy and more confident.

所以當你發問時，表現出關心他人的同時你也幫助自己降低害羞感與建立信心。

I hope that these three tips, taking a deep breath, talking with someone you trust, and asking questions will help you to feel less shy in conversations.

我希望這三個小妙招：深呼吸、與自己信賴的人聊天和主動發問能夠讓你在對話的過程中降低害羞感。

I know that this is a big deal, because speaking English might be a completely new thing for you.

我知道這不是一件容易的事，因為開口說英文對你來說可能是全新的挑戰。

So at the beginning you're going to feel shy.

所以一開始你一定會覺得很害羞。

You're not going to feel completely confident.

你無法感到全然的自信。

So I want to give you these three tips to help you get to the next level, because speaking is the only way to improve.

所以我想要給你這三個小妙招，幫助你進入下個階段，因為口說就是進步的唯一方式。

Just do it.

做就對了！

And now I have a question for you that I would like you to answer in the comments below.

那現在我有個問題想問你們，請在下方的留言區回覆喔！

My question is, what is a good "W-h" question that you could ask someone when you're talking with them?

我的問題是：當你與他人交談時，你可以用 Wh 問句問對方什麼問題呢？

That was tip Number 3, to ask questions, especially, "W-h" questions.

那是第三個妙招：發問，特別是使用 Wh 問句。

Because if you ask, "Do you like this?"

因為如果你問：「你喜歡這個嗎？」

"Do you want this?"

「你要這個嗎？」

You're not going to get detailed answers, only "yes," or, "no."

這麼問的話你不會得到深入的回答，只有「是」或「不是」而已。

So in the comments below let me know what question is a great question to ask in a conversation and you can read each other's questions.

所以在下方的留言區告訴我什麼樣的問題是在對話時可以提出的好問題，你們也可以看看其他人的回覆喔！

Thanks so much and I'll see you next time.

非常感謝你們，我們下次見囉！

Bye.

再見。

If you enjoyed this video, be sure to download my free e-book where you can learn five steps to becoming a confident English speaker.

如果你喜歡這部影片的話，記得下載免費的電子書，它提供五個步驟讓你自信地開口說英文。

You can share it on Facebook, upgrade the listening audio version, and don't forget to check your e-mail to get the free e-book.

你可以在臉書分享、升級聽力版本，也請不要忘記去信箱收取電子書喔！

Let's see what it is.

我們來看看這是什麼。

All right.

好的。

Here is the free e-book.

這是免費的電子書。

You can download yours today.

你今天就可以下載屬於你的一本囉！

Just click on the link and it will be in your e-mail within a few seconds.

只要按一下連結，在幾秒鐘之後它就會傳送到你的電子信箱了。

Thanks so much for learning with me.

謝謝你們跟我一起學習喔！

Bye.

再見。