you realize how boring is your life.

你會意識到你的生活有多無趣

These people are travelling the world every day, doing extraordinary things and making a lot of money,

這些人每天都在世界各地旅行，做著非凡的事、賺著大把的鈔票

their life looks more like a dream than a reality.

他們的生活看起來根本不像現實，而是像夢

Of course time to time we imagine ourselves in that position, enjoying the luxury life

當然有的時候我們幻想我們自己也在那樣的位置，享受著奢華生活

but then we realize that we don't have the courage or the confidence to do what it takes to build that kind of lifestyle

但我們才意識到，自己沒有足夠的勇氣或是自信去創造那種生活方式

so we get back to our normal life.

所以我們回到我們的尋常生活

In fact, we start believing that these people are simply born with such talents to achieve extraordinary things

事實上，我們開始相信這些人不過就是天生能夠成就大事

and it's not your fault that you were not born like that.

而自己天生沒有那種本領並不是自己的錯

But that's just an excuse we give ourselves so that don't feel that bad about ourselves.

但那只是我們拿來自我安慰的藉口

But the truth is that, if you go back in time, you will find that most of these people weren't

事實是，如果你回到過去，你會發現那些人大多數

as confident as they are today and had to struggle a lot to develop that kind of self confidence.

都不如今日有自信，而且是歷經了許多事才培養出自信

Because confidence is a skill that can be learnt like reading or writing

因為信心是一種技巧，能夠像閱讀或是寫作被訓練出來

and that's exactly what this video will teach you.

而這就是這部影片要教你的

But before that, let's understand how confidence works in the first place!

但在那之前，我們先來了解信心是如何運作的！

If I tell you to go to Starbucks and get yourself a cup of coffee, you wouldn't feel doubtful or scared to do that

如果我要你去星巴克買一杯咖啡，你一定不會懷疑，也不會感到害怕

because that's the normal thing to do when you get into the Starbucks,

因為到星巴克買咖啡是很平常的事

that's what everyone else does, so you will feel calm and peaceful doing that.

那也是其他人會做的事，所以你可以冷靜、順利地做到

But what if I tell you to jump onto to the table and sing your favourite song in the Starbucks,

但要是我要你跳到星巴克桌子上，然後在店裡唱你最愛的歌呢？

you will probably think twice before doing that because that doesn't seems (seem) normal,

你大概會開始多慮了，因為那看起來不正常

people would think that you are an idiot.

人們大概會認為你是白癡

That's not what smart and normal people do!

那不是聰明、正常的人會做的事！

That's what stupid people and you don't want to appear stupid.

那是傻子才會做的事，你不想要看起來像個傻子

So, if you pay a close attention to both of these scenarios, you will realize that confidence is a game of perceptions.

所以，你要是對照兩個情境，你會發現信心不過就是在於認知

If you would have thought that getting onto to the table and dancing is a normal thing to do,

如果你認為跳上桌子跳舞是一件很正常的事情

you wouldn't feel doubtful doing that exactly like ordering that cup of coffee.

你做起來就不會覺得懷疑，感覺就跟買咖啡一樣

You don't have to be smart, strong or famous to be confident,

你不需要變得聰明、強壯或是有名才能有自信

you just need to change your perspective towards doing unusual things.

你只需要改變自己對於不尋常舉動的認知

The only reason you are afraid to stand up and ask that question in the middle of your class

你在課堂中會害怕站起來發問的唯一一個原因

is because you think that your classmates would think that you are an idiot

就是因為你覺得你的同學會認為你是個白癡

since you don't know such an obvious thing.

因為你不知道這麼簡單的問題

But what if it's the most complicated thing to understand

但要是那其實是個很難理解的問題呢？

and no one in your classroom knows the answer! you would feel proud to ask that question!

而且班上沒有任何人知道答案呢？你就會對提出問題感到驕傲！

Because everyone will look at you and say - this guy must be smart!

因為每個人都會看著你，然後說 —— 這個人一定很聰明！

So a lot of times we are not confident is because we are afraid to appear like idiots!

所以很多時候我們之所以沒有自信，是因為我們害怕看起來像個白癡！

But what if being an idiot is a normal thing, in fact it is a normal thing

但如果當個白癡是件正常的事呢？事實上，這是很正常的

because the only reason humanity is progressing, is because we are doing a lot of stupid things and then learning out of them.

因為人之所以能夠進步，就是因為我們做了很多蠢事，然後從中學習

A lot of people whom we consider to be successful today have done things that seemed stupid at its time (like colonising mars).

很多我們現今認為成功的人們，在過去都曾做過看似白癡的事 (比如殖民火星)

So keep that in mind next time you are afraid to look like a fool!

所以當你下次害怕自己看來像個呆子時，記得這點吧！

Accept yourself the way you are, a human being, who is ignorant, who is weak,

接受你自己的模樣，你身為一個無知、脆弱的人類

who constantly needs to improve and learn.

隨時需要改進還有學習

So no matter what life throws at you, you will stay confident since you understand that's how life works!

所以無論人生給了你什麼困境，你都能夠保持自信，因為你明白人生本是如此！

Probably that's why Churchill said: "if you are going through hell, keep going!”

或許那正是為什麼邱吉爾要說：「如果你正經歷苦難，持續下去！」

And with every bold action you take, it starts becoming normal for you to do that

而且，隨著你做出每個大膽的行動，那些事情在你看來就會越來越正常

and eventually it becomes as normal as ordering a cup of coffee in a Starbucks.

最終那就會像是到星巴克點杯咖啡一樣正常

I am not trying to tell you that you have to make a complete fool out of yourself

我並不是在跟你說，要你去當個活脫脫的傻子

and do every stupid thing that comes into your mind.

然後去做你心裡想到的每一件蠢事

Sometimes overconfidence leads to horrible consequences.

有時候，太過自信也會導致恐怖的後果

The point is of course to think rationally before taking an action

重點當然是在於做一件事情前要理性地想想

but at the same time be fearless when you have to take a bold action.

但同時，當你做出大膽舉動時也要無所畏懼

In short, confidence is a state of mind, and with practice and patience

簡單來說，信心是一種心態，耐心地練習

you can be as confident as you ever dreamed about!

你就能像你夢想的一樣有自信！

and now it's your turn, what do you think?

現在輪到你了，你覺得呢？

What's the one thing you wanted to do but you haven't done it yet because you are not confident enough?

有哪件事是你很想做，但是因為不夠有自信所以從來沒做到的？

Let's share each other's secret in the comments below!

在底下留言分享彼此的秘密吧！

And as always, hit that like button if you have enjoyed this video

還有一如往常的，如果你喜歡這支影片請按個喜歡

and if you don't want to miss the next video, then hit that subscribe button and the bell besides it.

還有如果你不想錯過下一支影片，記得點選訂閱，開啟通知鈴鐺

thanks for watching and I will see you in the next one.

感謝收看，我們下回見