to a career in life you'll truly enjoy and in today's video I'm going to teach

的職業生涯，你會真正享受和在今天'的視頻我'要教

you four key steps on how to improve your communication skills whether you're

你的四個關鍵步驟，如何提高你的溝通技巧，無論你是'。

talking to just one person or a whole group of people and so that you can feel

與一個人或一整群人交談，這樣你就能感覺到自己的能力。

natural at ease and confidence

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as a career strategist I've had the honour of being able to help numerous

作為一名職業戰略家，我有幸能夠幫助眾多的人。

professionals land their dream job offers and so if this is something that

專業人士獲得他們夢想中的工作機會，是以，如果這是個什麼東西，那就是

you're interested in working with me one on one I can definitely give you details

你'有興趣和我一對一合作，我一定可以給你詳細介紹。

about that at the end of this video in my line of work where I work with

關於這一點，在這段視頻的結尾，在我的工作行，我的工作與

corporate professionals and help them to advance their careers a common topic of

企業專業人員，幫助他們推進事業發展的共同話題。

discussion is communication if you struggle with communication then this

討論就是溝通，如果你在溝通上有困難，那麼這是你的問題。

may also be you where you're in a situation where you're talking to people

也可能是你在哪裡你'的情況下，你'的人說話。

and you find that the conversation is very unnatural it's forced and it

你會發現，談話是非常不自然的 它是被迫的，而且它

doesn't really go anywhere and you find that the other person is struggling to

並沒有真正去任何地方，你發現對方是掙扎在

hold their interest in you and you feel that there's something wrong with you

保持他們對你的興趣，你覺得有'的東西你錯了。

because of the way that you're communicating to them and this can

因為你與他們溝通的方式，這可以

easily happen in a situation where you're at a let's say networking event

很容易發生的情況下，你'在一個讓我們'說網絡活動。

and you have to talk to a group of strangers where you just feel awkward

你要跟一群陌生人說話 你只是覺得尷尬

you feel unnatural and you're not able to really develop any connections with

你覺得不自然，你'不能夠真正發展任何連接，與

anyone so today I'm going to teach you four steps that will really help you to

任何人，所以今天我'要教你四個步驟，將真正幫助你到

improve your communication skills whether you're in a social setting or in

提高你的溝通技巧，無論你是在社會環境中還是在

a professional setting and so that you can feel more confident and at ease step

在專業的環境中，讓您更有信心，更放心地走下去。

number one listen intently now I know what you're thinking how can

第一，仔細聽我說，我知道你在想什麼，你怎麼能這麼做？

communication be about listening when really it's about talking you assume

溝通是關於傾聽的，而真正的是關於談話的，你假設

that to improve your communication skills it's really about your ability to

要提高你的溝通技巧，它真的是關於你的能力。

speak right well yes and no the key thing about communication is that if

說的對不對，對不對，溝通的關鍵是，如果是

you're able to listen intently to the other person and you're able to hear

你'能夠專心地聽對方說話，你'能夠聽到

what they're really saying beyond the words that are coming out of their

他們真正說的是什麼超越了他們的話語，是出來的。

mouths you're gonna be able to have more value to add to the conversation because

嘴，你會能夠有更多的價值添加到談話，因為。

you're gonna be able to say something that is beyond what it is that they're

你'要能說的東西，是超越它是什麼，他們'。

just talking about at a surface level listening intently doesn't just mean

只是說在表面上專心致志地聽，並不只是意味著。

using your ears and hearing what the person is saying it's really being able

用你的耳朵和聽到的人在說什麼它真的能夠

to get a sense of what they're feeling it's being able to get a sense of really

感受到他們的感受，能夠得到一個真正的感覺

what they're trying to express and wait maybe what they're not trying to express

他們想表達的東西和等待也許他們不想表達的東西。

as well so it's really about using your intuition as well being able to read a

是以，它真的是關於使用你的直覺以及能夠閱讀一個

person hear the words that are coming out of their mouths but also hear what

嘴裡說著什麼，但也聽到了什麼。

it is that they're really try to mean when they're talking about that

它是，他們真的嘗試的意思，當他們'說起這一點。

and whenever you can really do this exercise where you're really extending

和每當你可以真正做到這一點的練習，你真的延長

yourself in a way that you're really listening and paying attention to

你自己的方式，你'真的聽和注意到

someone they can feel that off of you and automatically they feel that you're

一個人，他們可以感覺到，從你和自動他們覺得你'。

more engaged with them and they're more likely to share and to talk to you and

更多的參與他們，他們&#39；更有可能分享，並與你交談，並。

to feel comfortable around you and that is a key part to being a good

在你身邊感覺很舒服，這是成為一個好的關鍵部分。

communicator step number two respond with phrases that relate to what that

溝通者的第二步 用與之相關的短語來回應。

person is talking about you can start off with phrases such as that's

的人在談論你可以開始與短語，如that's

interesting because I can relate because that's true

有趣的是，因為我能體會到，因為那是真實的。

because starting your conversation with these types of words shows that you're

因為用這些類型的話開始你的談話，說明你'。

interested and engaged in the other person and so if you want people to be

有興趣，並參與到另一個人，所以如果你想讓人們是。

engaged and interested in you when you're communicating with them you first

當你與他們交流時，你首先要參與並對你感興趣。

have to give that energy saying things like that's true because etc etc etc

要付出的精力說這樣的話'是真的，因為等等等等。

shows that you can relate and you can validate what the other person is saying

表明你能感同身受，你能驗證對方所說的話。

and that is what as human beings we're all looking to do to be validated to be

而這正是作為人類的我們'都在尋找做的驗證是

heard by other people and to feel connected to those that we're talking to

被其他人聽到，並感覺到與那些我們正在談論的人聯繫在一起。

step number three to improving your communication skills tell stories after

提高溝通能力的第三步 講完故事再講

the because part of your conversation tell a story that relates to what that

因為你的談話的一部分，告訴一個故事，涉及到什麼。

person is talking about the story obviously has to have a point and it has

的人在談論的故事顯然有一個點，它有。

to be something that is in relation to what you guys are discussing as I always

是什麼東西，是在什麼你們正在討論的，因為我總是。

say a good story follows the same pattern as a movie think of any good

都說好故事跟電影一樣，想一想有什麼好的故事？

movie you've watched and when you can break it down there are actually three

電影你'看了，當你能分解它其實有三個

key parts to the movie and I call this SAR an acronym that stands for situation

電影的關鍵部分，我把這個SAR稱為一個縮寫，代表著情況。

action and results the majority of the movie is made up of this situation the

行動和結果的大部分電影是由這種情況下的

setting up of the story getting to know the characters their stories their

故事的設置 瞭解人物，他們的故事，他們的故事

situations the things that they're dealing with the issues that they're

他們正在處理的問題的情況下，他們'的事情，他們'。

having to go through and the situation the setting that they're in the second

有去通過和情況 他們在第二的設置

part of the movie is the action where the good guy fights the bad guy so

電影的一部分是行動的地方 好人戰鬥的壞人，所以。

you're actually seeing what are the steps that that guy is

你'實際上看到的步驟是什麼，那個傢伙是。

taking or that girl is taking to resolve the initial situation or the problem

採取或該女孩正在採取解決最初的情況或問題。

that they're dealing with and the third part of the movie is the shortest in

他們正在處理的和第三部分的電影是最短的在

length and it's simply the conclusion or the result what ended up happening when

它的長度和它的簡單的結論或結果最終發生了什麼，當

you can learn to tell your stories using this type of structure it's going to

你可以學習使用這種類型的結構來講述你的故事，它'要

make the other person feel more engaged more interested in you and in your story

讓對方感覺更投入，對你和你的故事更感興趣。

and it's going to help you to prove the point that you're trying to make as well

它將幫助你證明你的觀點，你'試圖使以及。

and finally step number four to improving your communication skills

最後是提高溝通能力的第四步。

practice this is something that so many professionals seem to overlook when

這是許多專業人士似乎忽略的事情，當

they're going to any networking event or meeting people for the first time and

他們'去任何網絡活動或滿足人們的第一次，並

they know that they're gonna have to meet these people and talk to these

他們知道，他們'要去必須滿足這些人，並與這些交談。

people and that is to practice practice ahead of time what you're going to say

的人，那就是提前練習練習你'要說的話

if you had an important presentation to do at work you wouldn't just walk into

如果你有一個重要的演示文稿，在工作中，你不會只是走到

the meeting and just be unprepared and talk on the fly you would want to

會議，只是在沒有準備的情況下，你會想在飛行中說話。

practice ahead of time well in other professional and social settings it also

在其他專業和社會環境中提前練習好，它還可以

doesn't hurt to practice ahead of time you want to have your stories ahead of

不'傷害提前練習 你想有你的故事的前面

time prepared so that when you do go ahead and communicate them they're more

時間準備，所以，當你做前進和溝通他們，他們'更

fluent they're more fluid and they come off more naturally without thinking

流暢，他們更流暢，他們更自然地脫口而出，不需要思考

through and developing your stories you won't succeed in your communication so

通過和發展你的故事，你不會成功在你的溝通，所以。

work on your communication skills by practicing on your own time and then the

通過自己的時間練習來鍛鍊自己的溝通能力，然後再由自己的時間來練習

next time that you have to go into a group meeting or group conversation or

下一次，你必須進入一個小組會議或小組對話或。

just a one-on-one conversation you'll be able to communicate in a more natural

只是一對一的談話，你將能夠在一個更自然的溝通。

and confident way so there you have it my four steps on how you can improve

和自信的方式，所以你有它我的四個步驟，如何你可以提高。

your communication skills whether in a group or individual setting now if

無論是在小組還是個人環境中，你的溝通技巧現在如果

you're someone who's been searching for a job for a while you've been looking

你'的人誰'的一直在尋找工作一段時間你'的一直在尋找。

you've been going on interviews but you just haven't been successful and you

你一直在去面試，但你只是沒有成功，而你

realize that you need one-on-one professional help

意識到自己需要一對一的專業幫助

then feel free to reach out to me head on over to my website lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired

然後隨時聯繫我到我的網站lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired。

feel free to read through the page fill out the

請隨意閱讀網頁，填寫表格

application form and if I feel or my team feels that we're a potential match

申請表，如果我覺得或我的團隊覺得我們是一個潛在的比賽。

then we'll reach out to you directly and we'll take it from there if you like

然後，我們'會直接聯繫你，我們'會從那裡，如果你喜歡。

this video then please give it a thumbs up subscribe share it with you

這個視頻，然後請給它豎起大拇指訂閱分享給你。

friends thank you so much for watching and I will see you next time

朋友們，謝謝你們的觀看，我們下期再見