Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's a very difficult thing to deal with.

不論你是提分手或被甩的人，這都是很難面對的事。

It might feel like you'll never make it out of the heart-shattering sadness.

你可能會覺得再也走不出心碎的悲傷。

But you will.

但你最終會的。

Here are 5 things you can do to help put yourself back together after a breakup.

這裡有五個方法幫助你在分手後重整自己。

Number one: experience it.

第一，好好感受。

The only way to really get over a breakup is to deal with it.

走出分手的唯一辦法就是去面對它。

Don't distract yourself.

不要讓自己分心。

Let yourself feel the emotions, one at a time.

讓自己去感受那些情緒，一步一步來。

There will be good times, and there will be bad, but the most important thing is to give yourself time.

一定有好有壞，最重要的是給自己一點時間。

If you feel like crying, cry.

如果想哭，就哭出來。

Crying has a bad reputation but it's extremely therapeutic.

哭哭啼啼給人感覺不太好，但卻非常有療效。

Crying isn't losing control, it's gaining it back through owning your emotions.

哭泣不代表失控，是透過掌控情緒慢慢拾回自己。

Number two: focus on yourself.

第二，專注於自己。

After being the second half of a couple for a while, we tend to forget what it feels like to be on our own again.

成為兩人關係的其中一半，久了我們常常忘記做回完整的自己是什麼感覺。

Be your own person.

好好做你自己。

Do whatever you feel like doing.

做任何你想做的事。

Try thinking about you and only you for a little bit to regain that awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone's significant other.

試著多想到你自己，以重獲自從進入一段關係後就失去的獨立感。

This can be done in a number of ways.

可以透過以下幾種方式達成。

Treat yourself to something nice, like a delicious dinner or a day out and about.

對自己好一點，例如吃一頓美味的晚餐或放自己一天假。

Maybe take the time to reevaluate your health goals, or even set personal goals for yourself.

也許花時間重新檢視你的健康計畫，或設立自我目標。

Indulge a little.

放縱一點點。

Buy yourself a nice outfit or something you've had your eye on.

買給自己一身好的行頭，或一些你想要的東西。

Get your favorite food or a bottle of wine and enjoy it with, or without friends.

享受你最愛的食物或酒，有或沒有朋友陪都可以。

Take time to remind yourself of who you are.

花點時間提醒自己你到底是誰。

Number three: try new things.

第三，嘗試新事物。

Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons?

你不是一直想要上吉他課嗎？

Take a yoga class?

上瑜珈課？

Finally read that book you bought three years ago.

終於可以讀那本三年前買的書。

Well, now you have the time.

你現在有時間了。

Find a new hobby or take a class you've been wanting to take.

找到一個新的嗜好或上你一直想上的課。

You'll get out more, meet new people and, most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.

你會更常出門、遇見新的人，最重要的是忘掉討厭的前任。

Number four: reach out to family and friends.

第四，多與家人和朋友相處。

Friends and family are around for a reason.

朋友和家人的存在是有原因的。

You know all those times you've had to console your loved ones when they've been in a rough place?

當你在乎的人身陷低潮的時候，你花了不少時間安慰他們。

Now it's time for payback.

現在是得到回報的時候。

True friends are people who love and support you, no matter what.

真正的朋友無論如何都會愛你、支持你。

You deserve their time and attention and shouldn't be afraid to reach out and ask for it.

你值得他們的時間與注意，不要害怕開口找他們。

Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents, and siblings.

周末時，聯絡你的父母、祖父母或兄弟姊妹。

Too often, we take family for granted, so this a great chance to sneak in some home cooked meals and show your family that you care.

我們常常將家人視為理所當然，所以現在是時候偷帶一些家庭料理回去，並向家人表示你的在乎。

Not only that, consider volunteering to help others.

除此之外，也可以自願幫助他人。

This also lets you go out and meet new people.

這可以讓你踏出家門、認識新的人。

You'll make new friends, and, possibly, a new love interest.

你會認識新的朋友，有可能會有新的對象。

Number five: move on.

第五，前進。

It's not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends, but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person.

兩人分手後還想做朋友是很正常的，但最重要的是，你可以和那個人保持距離。

If that means taking a month-long vacation to New Mexico, so be it.

如果這代表為期一個月的新墨西哥之旅，那就去吧。

Don't text, call, or email them.

不要打電話或傳郵件給他們。

What you both need at this point is space.

你們這時候最需要的是空間。

Breakups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal.

分手造成情感傷口，如果一直和前任保持聯絡，你永遠不會給自己時間療傷。

After the healing process, go out and meet new people.

走過療傷過程，多出門走走、認識新的人。

There's some truth to the old adage: the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

俗話說的好，走出失戀的最好方法就是走進另一段感情。

Join Tinder, or some other dating and go out.

辦個 Tinder 帳號，或來場約會出去走走。

You're sure to meet someone new, someone you can connect to on a deeper level.

你一定會遇見新的人，一個和你有更深共鳴的人。

Breakups are difficult, but they aren't the end of the world.

分手很難熬，但這不是世界末日。

In fact, they're the start of something new and better.

事實上，它們代表新的、更好的事物的開端。

What do you think of these tips?

你覺得以上這些方法如何？

Share your thoughts and any tips you have on dealing with breakups below.

在下面留言告訴我們你的想法，或任何你度過分手的方式。

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別忘了要按讚，並訂閱我們的頻道。

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