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  • There is a lot of dating advice out there that doesn't make sense to me.

    在我看來,外界有許多約會建議都是不切實際的。

  • Always make sure you're the one to text him less.

    記得你必須是回比較少的那個人。

  • So if he sends you two texts you send him one.

    所以要是他傳給你兩條訊息,你就回一條。

  • And if he sends you one text you send him one word answers.

    如果他傳給你一條,你就回一個字。

  • If he's getting distant then you just tell him that he's being clingy and that you need space.

    如果他開始疏離你,你就告訴他,他實在太黏你了,你需要自己的空間。

  • You just always have to reverse psychology them.

    對付他們你就是要欲擒故縱。

  • Here's a series of books of canned responses for every possible scenario organized alphabetically by topic of discussion.

    這系列書教你面對任何可能情況該要有的反應,討論內容主題按照字母順序排列。

  • Thank you.. Yeah

    謝謝你 ......。

  • I will... um.. get right on that.

    我會 ...... 嗯,拿來參考的。

  • There's articles and books and movies and blogs and videos all based purely on the concept that there is a right way to date someone.

    許多文章、書籍、電影、部落格和影片,都是純粹立基在一個觀念上,以為有一套約會的不敗守則。

  • That there is a correct combination of texts and words and behaviours that will make somebody fall in love with you without you losing your power.

    以為只要傳特定的訊息和文字,有特定的行為,就能夠不費吹灰之力地讓別人愛上你。

  • I think this is bullshit.

    我覺得這都是胡扯。

  • And I mean don't get me wrong . I'll admit when I was fifteen I would read Cosmopolitan and Seventeen magazine and follow their advice to a "T."

    別誤會我,我必須承認在我十五歲時,我也會讀《柯夢波丹》和 Seventeen 雜誌,並且把他們的建議奉為圭臬。

  • He's gonna call me now. He's gonna call me now. He's gonna call me now.

    他就要打來了,就快了,馬上就要打來了。

  • Now. Now. He's gonna call me now. He's... *gasps*

    馬上就要。他馬上就會打給我。他 ...... 。*倒抽口氣*

  • *phone ringing*

    *電話鈴響*

  • Hey Michael! I'm so sorry. I was just in the shower... All naked and stuff.

    嗨 Michael !抱歉,我剛剛在洗澡 ...... 全身光溜溜。

  • What's up chicken butt?

    怎麼啦想我啦?

  • But I realized that all of this advice is based on the flawed premise that love is a game and people are prizes to be won.

    但我認為,所有這些建議都是建立在一個有缺陷的前提下:愛是一場遊戲,人心就是贏得的獎品。

  • And when I would follow these rules and inevitably get to know a person better and become emotionally invested in them.

    而當我遵照這些規則,不免對一個人有比較深的認識,並且將自己的感情投入其中。

  • I would realize way too late. Wait! We're not actually compatible.

    我才會發現都太遲了,我們其實並不適合彼此。

  • Yeah so I just like walked out.

    對啊,所以我就直接走人。

  • Wait... You just left without paying?

    什麼 ...... 你沒付錢就走了?

  • Look if they're not going to give me the bill on time then I'm just gonna go.

    如果他們沒有及時把帳單給我,我就會走人。

  • Bye! *chuckles*

    掰啦!*咯咯笑*

  • I remember when I was in like my late teens, early twenties I had like this really long conversation with my grandma where I was just like confused and angry about love and marriage and dating and I just felt like there were so many rules you had to follow

    記得在我二十歲出頭時,我和我奶奶有一次很長的對話,那時候我對於愛情、婚姻、和約會都有許多困擾和憤恨,我只覺得怎麼有這麼多要遵守的規則。

  • And I had so much anxiety about doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing.

    我很擔心自己會做錯事、說錯話。

  • And she was like "Anna Kay. The only dating advice you will ever need is to just be yourself."

    我奶奶回答「 Anna Kay ,你唯一會需要的約會建議,就是做你自己。」

  • Because that way if someone falls in love with you, they're falling in love with you.

    因為這樣一來,如果某人愛上你了,愛上的就會是你本人。

  • And not this idea that you've presented.

    而非你呈現出來的形象。

  • It's a lot of work to maintain an idea over a long period of time.

    要長期保持形象是一件相當費神的事。

  • It's quite easy to keep being yourself.

    做自己卻很簡單。

  • And her advice, though very simple, and straightforward and seemingly obvious really stuck with me.

    她的建議雖然非常一般、直白,甚至看來顯而易見,但卻跟著我直到今天。

  • As like a no bullshit way to see who's weirdness vibes with your weirdness.

    不是開玩笑,這是個方法來找到與你氣味相投的人。

  • Because if you're the kind of person who says whatever is on their mind.

    因為要是你是哪種心裡想什麼就說什麼的人。

  • No matter how inappropriate or dark.

    不論想法多奇葩、黑暗。

  • Your date's gonna either laugh and like it or they're gonna think that it's awkward and never call you again.

    你的約會對象不是聽了大笑,就是覺得尷尬,再也不打給你。

  • But either way, you didn't hold back an aspect of your personality that you otherwise might've suppressed for some time.

    但不論什麼結果,你都沒有對自己有所保留,不然你可能要壓抑好一陣子。

  • I think it's much better to just be upfront with who you are and what the other person is signing up for.

    我覺得比較好的方式就是對自己和對對方坦率。

  • And if they like it - great!

    如果對方喜歡,太棒了!

  • And if they don't - cool! Move on and find somebody else.

    要是不喜歡,沒關係,找尋下一個人選。

  • And when you finally do they'll like you for you.

    當你找到對的人,他們會喜歡真正的你。

  • Instead of this carefully curated construct that you've spent so much time building for them.

    而非愛上你為了他們小心規劃的形象。

  • I'm Anna Akana. Stay right here for a sponsored message.

    我是 Anna Kay 。別離開,贊助訊息在後頭。

  • Thank you to SquareSpace for sponsoring today's episode!

    感謝 SquareSpace 贊助今日的節目!

  • Squarespace has beautiful award winning templates.

    SquareSpace 有美麗的樣板。

  • And an all in one platform so there is no installs, patches or upgrades ever.

    和一個多合一的平台,無需任何安裝或升級。

  • They have 24 hour customer service and if you're looking for a domain, they have a simple and unique setup experience.

    他們有全天候的客服,若是你想架設網站,他們提供簡單、獨特的配置服務。

  • You can make any kind of website on Squarespace.

    你可以在 Squarespace 架設各種網站。

  • Whether you're an artist, a photographer or just a lover.

    無論你是一位藝術家、攝影師,或純粹是一名愛人。

  • Go to squarespace.com to start your free trial today.

    今天就前往 squarespace.com 開始你的免費試用。

  • And use the offer code ANNA for 10% off at checkout.

    來日結賬用折扣碼 ANNA 可享 10% 優惠。

  • Squarespace.

    Squarespace。

There is a lot of dating advice out there that doesn't make sense to me.

在我看來,外界有許多約會建議都是不切實際的。

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