I wanted to tell you a story,

我要告訴你們一個故事

something that happened to me at Vidcon last June.

是在去年 6 月我參加 YouTube 舉辦的 Vidcon 大會時發生的

So I got into my hotel pretty late,

有一天我回到旅館已經很晚了

went to say hi to a couple of youtubers that I know,

遇到幾個認識的youtuber

and we're down socializing in this main area,

大夥就在大廳閒聊

and this woman walks up.

然後這個女人就出現了

She's friends with a couple of these people

她是那群人裡面某些人的朋友

so I introduce myself, say hi,

於是我向她說嗨並且做自我介紹

and the conversation continues.

然後我們繼續交談

And at one point, out of nowhere,

聊著聊著很突然地，莫名其妙地

she just starts to attack me.

她開始言語攻擊我

"You think you're hot shit, don't you,

「妳以為妳很屌，對不對

with that big baggy sweater,

故意穿著鬆垮的毛衣，

like you don't give a fuck."

裝出一副對什麼事都不屑的樣子」

"You know the only reason people like you

「妳自以為長得可愛

is because you're a cute girl, right?"

大家就會喜歡妳，對不對？」

At this point, I'm just shocked.

當時，我整個人都驚呆了

I was like : "Yeah, I'm gonna go now."

我當下想：「好吧，我該閃人了」

I went back to my hotel room,

我回到旅館的房間

called Nate and just cried.

打電話給奈特並且忍不住放聲大哭

I didn't understand why this women who I just met,

我實在無法理解為何一個我剛認識的女人

who was super popular on Youtube,

一個 YouTube 網紅

knew nothing about me,

根本不認識我

would have such animosity toward me.

竟然對我說出這麼敵意的話

When I was growing up, pretty much all my friends were guys,

在我成長的階段，我的朋友幾乎都是男生

I really distanced myself from women,

我刻意地和女人保持距離

thought that they were catty and shallow,

我認為女人是陰險而膚淺的

got a little older and realized :

等我長大了才認知到：

"Oh my God! I'm a sexist!"

「天啊！我是個性別歧視者！」

I realized that I felt like I was in competition with other women,

我發現我自認為活在和女人競爭的狀態之中

competition to be the prettiest, to be the smartest,

要成為最漂亮的，最聰明的

have the most friends, whatever.

交友最廣的，任何事都要爭第一

I think that, at least in some ways,

我認為，至少在某些方面要這樣

my experience at Vidcon and my feelings about women growing up

我參加 Vidcon 大會與我對女性反感的情緒與日俱增

are related.

是有關聯的

They both come back to a phenomenon that I'm going to call :

這些都源自於一種情結，我稱之為：

girl hate.

女人的仇恨情結

Girl hate is tearing fellow women down

女人的仇恨情結只為了一些瑣碎且毫無根據的理由

for petty and unwarranted reasons.

將女性族群撕裂

It's thinking that you're the only woman

這就好像說你是唯一的女性

who likes to read or plays sports, or plays videogames,

喜歡閱讀或運動、或玩電腦遊戲

because all the other women are too busy

因為其他的女性都是

being catty, overly emotional drama-queens.

陰險狡猾，小題大作而且情緒化的人

Girl hate is :

女人的仇恨情結就像是：

"Oh my God, I would never wear that much make-up."

「天啊，我再也不要化濃妝了。」

"She tries so hard, it just makes her look desperate."

「她那麼拚，只是讓她看起來很絕望。」

"You think you're hot shit, don't you?"

「妳自以為很屌，是嗎？」

It's a willingness to backstab and humiliate.

這是一種想陷害和羞辱他人的意念

It's being hypercritical of each other,

互相批評

degrading each other's bodies,

貶低對方

and carrying a bitterness toward fellow women.

對女性同胞帶來痛苦

From birth, women are bombarded with messages

打從出生開始，女性就飽受一些訊息的轟炸

that tell them their worth is tied to how they look.

這些訊息告訴她們，她們的價值和外表兩者息息相關的

In order to be important, valuable and worth loving,

為了要成為重要，有價值，值得愛的人物

you have to look hot.

你必須看起來像是個辣妹

The right hair, the right body

時髦的頭髮，曼妙的身材

The list goes on.

還不只這些

But it doesn't end with your body.

擁有臉蛋身材還不夠

You also need to be fiercely intelligent

妳還需要非常聰明

so that people don't think that you're a bimbo.

才不會被認為只是個花瓶

And don't forget to show just the right amount of emotions

別忘了還要適度表達妳的情感

so they don't think you're a cold bitch or overly emotional.

這樣才不會被認為冷血或做作

Oh, and make sure you pick out the right wardrobe

噢，妳還要確保穿著得體

because you don't wanna be a prude or a slut.

因為妳不會想被叫假掰或是蕩婦吧

And while you're at it,

當這些都搞定了以後

make sure you find a high-powered career

妳還要有一份高尚的職業

that will also allow you to be the perfect mom.

這才能讓妳成為一個賢妻良母

No pressure or anything.

我不是要給妳壓力哦

It creates this deep-seated expectation within ourselves

這些要求使我們心中產生了一種根深蒂固的期待

to be perfect.

期待自己成為完美的化身

It's a little voice in the back of your head that says:

有一個微小的聲音總是在妳背後說：

"You're not good enough!"

「妳還不夠好！」

It isn't any wonder then

這沒什麼好奇怪的

that there is an atmosphere of competition amongst women

女性之間存在著一種競爭的氛圍

that sometimes results in feeling bitter,

有時會讓人感到痛苦

frightened, tearing down others to raise yourself up

害怕，打擊別人來成就自己

No suprises here.

在這裡可是司空見慣

How do we end this madness?

我們要如何終結這種愚蠢的行為？

Ending girl hate requires all of us

要終結女人的仇恨情結就必須大家能清楚自我認知

to recognize when we're girl hating.

自己是否有這種行為

What's the difference between girl hate

妳因為某人很爛所以討厭她與女人的仇恨情結

and just hating someone who sucks?

兩者間有什麼差異呢？

Girl hate usually isn't deserved.

女人的仇恨情結通常是不值得的

Of course, it's easy to justify the negative feelings

當然，要將妳對別人的這種負面情緒合理化

you might have for someone,

是很容易的

which is why ending girl hate

這也是為什麼要終止女人的仇恨情結

also requires us to be honest with ourselves,

需要我們誠實面對自己

to really examine why we feel the way we do about someone.

真心地檢視為什麼我們對某人會有那樣的感覺

The hope is that by becoming more honest and self-aware,

希望藉由真誠的自我檢視和認知

that we can cultivate a world of girl love!

我們可以培養出一個女人相愛情結

Girl love is supporting each other,

女人相愛情結是相互扶持

it's hoping to see each other succeed,

希望彼此都能成功

it's fighting together against some bullshit

它是一起對抗一些狗屁倒灶的事

instead of fighting amongst each other.

而不是互相爭鬥

Girl love is saying :

女人相愛情結告訴我們：

"Fuck these unrealistic expectations!

「去他的這些不切實際的期待！

You don't have to be perfect.

妳不需要是一個完美的人

And neither do I!"

我也不需要！」

Girl love is recognizing the positive in each other

女人相愛情結是認識到彼此陽光的一面

and building strong relationships off of it.

並且相互建立堅強的情誼

When I started to bring girl love into my life,

當我開始將女人相愛情結帶進我的生活後

not only did I feel more confident,

不僅我變得更有自信

but I also made a bunch of female friends

我還交到一大票女性朋友

and realized how kick-ass women are!

並且領悟到了什麼才是不起的女性

I'm sure for some of you, that sounds kind of silly,

我很確定妳們之中有些人，會認為我講這個主題有點無聊

especially if you're not a woman,

尤其如果妳不是身為女性更會這樣認為

but for me, you know, it was kind of a big thing.

但對我而言，這是很重要的

Anyhow, I just thought I'd share some of my experiences.

總之，我只是想和大家分享我的經驗

I love y'all very much,

我好愛妳們

and I will be back with a new video soon.

我很快會為妳們帶來更多的影片