hello there

some of us we can hear our inner voice speaking loud and clear

we use it to make decisions and we can do it quickly

for the rest of us this really isn't the case

we can't hear our inner voice so we don't know what we want we don't know what we need

we don't know what we think we don't know how we feel

so for those of us who feel that way

it's critical for us to learn how to listen deeply within ourselves for that inner voice

so that the whisper of our inner voice can become a scream

so how is it that this voice within us became silenced?

it became silenced because other people didn't listen to it

when we came into this life they disregarded our inner voice

they made us not listen to it but listen to them instead

so as a result this voice got fainter and fainter and fainter and suppressed more and more

until we could no longer hear it

it was replaced by other people's voices

the inner voice comes to us primarily through sensation,

through motion and through thought

it doesn't often come to us audibly even though it can take that form

you hear the inner voice a lot

it's the you that talks to you inside your own head or inside your own heart or inside your own body

you just don't realize that this is in fact your inner voice

this inner voice is our self, our soul

what some people call our true self

talking to us about ourselves and about the world all day every day

some people call the inner voice intuition

because it is an inner knowing, an inner seeing, an inner believing

not listening to the inner voice leads the body to try to communicate in other ways

through things like stomach aches and headaches and illnesses and even disease

not to mention the universe will magnify the inner voice through your external reality

so you can no longer run from your own real truth

which is less than comfortable

I don't want you to think that the inner voice is always pure

because it is in fact distorted

is distorted by our shadows, the things that we're unconscious of

is distorted by our beliefs, our experiences

it is also made up of the aspect of us that is eternal, that is untouched, that is completely clear

the aspect of us that we associate with pure intuition.

our inner voice will reflect

exactly what is real about us at this moment

both in a state of purity and a state of impurity it will reflect the fact that we are both

shadow and light so I'm not really concerned with you discerning between the two

because both are real

obviously the more conscious, the more aware, the more shadow work you do

your inner voice will become purer and purer and purer as a more accurate representation of who you really are

now here's something really important

most people in the field of wellness and spirituality

are gonna tell you that it's important to ignore the inner voice that judges, that criticizes,

that's constantly making a commentary and a negative one, usually on the external life

and to only pay attention to the inner voice that has good things to say

but I completely disagree

because both aspects of your inner voice represent what is real about you in the current moment

and if you ignore the inner voice in you that is constantly making a negative commentary of everything in your life

the rest of your inner voice will be suppressed as well because it is part of the very same thing

whether it's saying something negative or saying something positive,

it is your inner voice that is talking

when you hear this aspect of your inner voice

the one that's constantly making a negative commentary

that's an indication that your inner voice is trying to pull your attention towards an aspect of you that desperately needs attention

because the quality of your attention is pure unfiltered consciousness which is the thing that heals

so it's like drawing your attention to a wound

when you focus on these unhealed or unconscious aspects of yourself that the inner voice is trying to draw your attention to

only then when you work through those things and give those things attention

can the aspect of your inner voice that operates from a space of complete clarity and empowerment actually speak to you

so i am going to boldly tell you that even if you were to do absolutely no shadow work whatsoever

it would still be critical for you to listen to your internal voice no matter what it says

coz it still represents what's real about you right here and now

now I'm not telling you to believe that what your inner voice says is true

I'm just asking you not to disbelieve it either

I'm asking you instead to see whatever the inner voice says as valid and as important

something can be valid even if it isn't necessarily true

something can be important even if it isn't necessarily true

when we are not connected to the inner voice we are in a state of unconsciousness

effectively we're in self-denial

our inner voice could be screaming I hate that person but on the surface we might say, oh I really like him

or our inner voice could be saying i wanna be a singer but on the surface we may say

I wanna do whatever makes sense to me

you know like it's really important for me to just you know be secure I guess in life

and so I'm gonna go take that job in accounting

we go against our intuition

sometimes the disastrous ends

our inner self is always communicating with us about its truth

we need to begin to listen otherwise we have nothing real to work with

for example there's nothing that we can actually do shadow work on if we're not willing to admit that something like that exists

all of you have experienced this

when you walk up to somebody when they're triggered and they say, "no I'm fine. I don't know you're talking about"

even though they're obviously upset

until we listen to the inner voice and say yeah, you're right, i actually feel upset

there's nothing we can do about it, we're dead in the water

so how do we go about listening to the internal voice?

step one - we take all of our attention off of the external world and we place it instead entirely in the internal world

I want you to imagine that your skin separates an inner universe from this outer universe

pretend they're two separate universes

you are going to take all of your attention and place it on the internal universe

if you need to close your eyes to do this, feel free

step 2 - you're going to pay attention to the sensations that are happening in the internal universe

you're gonna be completely unconditionally present with them

you're going to observe them like they're a unique sensory experience

step 3 - you're going to make your interaction with this sensation much more real and tangible

especially for your mind so your mind can comprehend it

for example, if the sensation that I'm experiencing in my body was a color, what would it be?

if it was a texture, what would that texture be?

is it moving or is it still?

if it was a shape what would it be? then take it further.

if this sensation where an image, what would the image be?

step 4 - you're going to mentally engage with this image

which is a translation of the sensation taking place within the internal world

as if the sensation itself is a separate being or thing

that can talk to you about itself which is really talking to you about you

step 5 - you're gonna begin to ask it questions

any question you feel like asking is a good question to ask

ask it questions about itself and about its perspective about you

questions like, what are you?

what do you represent?

why are you here right now?

what do you want me to know?

what do you want me to do?

what is the truth that I don't want to admit to and express right now?

if I were to tell the absolute truth in this situation and weren't afraid to do so, what would the truth be?

step 6 - you're going to listen to the answers that come as a result of those questions

it doesn't matter whether you get the answers audibly or whether you just get them in terms of a sense of knowing

or whether you see the answers

however those answers come to you, you're going to engage with

you're intuitively going to take this process wherever you feel like it needs to go

no matter what answers you receive or how you receive them

this is the inner voice communicating with you

this is you hearing the inner voice

step 7 - have a conversation with yourself now that you've asked this aspect of yourself this inner voice these questions

I don't need to teach you how to have a conversation

you will intuitively know exactly how to do that

how to respond to the image that has come to you that is representing this internal truth

you will know what I asked as a result of the answers that you get from the inner voice

and you can let the process naturally unfold from there

talking to yourself internally is you having a conversation with your inner voice

there is no right or wrong way to do this

when you are feeling a strong emotion such as when you're triggered or feel inspired,

the inner voice is calling for you to listen

don't ever think that if you don't know the reason why you feel the way you do that there isn't a reason

but even if the inner voice isn't actively calling for your attention and calling for you to listen

it's really important for us to listen anyway

what we do with our own inner voice is the same as we would do with a romantic partner

if we had a partner, it doesn't matter whether they were triggered or feeling super super happy

we wouldn't wait for that circumstance to come up, we would go check in with them

we would take time to essentially, during the day, say hey how are you?

how's it going? how do you feel today? what do you want today?

if you're not sure what your inner voice is saying,

i want you to be really really patient with it

delay making decisions

I want you to be able to give it time to completely fully express itself to you

so that when you take actions as a result of listening to your inner voice

all of you can be in alignment with that movement

if you try this process and the inner voice doesn't talk to you or isn't communicating to you

you're getting no impressions from your internal world, i also need you to be patient

what's happening is that you suppressed your inner voice and ignored your inner reality for so long

that that aspect of you that's wounded by the fact that you've done that is testing you

it's basically saying,

why the hell should I believe that you're gonna do this now?

I don't want to talk to you,

you haven't listened to me for so long

what's to say you're not just gonna go back to ignoring me again?

so if you got this type of inner voice,

it's a session for you to be even more present.

continue coming back and continue coming back

no matter how long it takes, no matter how many times you have to do it

until it begins to trust you enough to talk to you

chances are if this is how your own inner voice is interacting with you

it doesn't trust you because you have an abusive pattern with responding to yourself

so what I want you to do to understand the steps for how to address your own emotions

is to watch my video titled "the emotional wake up call"

the tonality that i use in that exercise is the way I want you interacting with your own inner voice

practice connecting with your heart

your inner voice speaks loudest through your heart

to understand how to do this I want you to watch my youtube video titled "how to connect with your heart"

but what's important to know is that your inner voice can speak through any aspect of you

your inner voice can speak through your mind,

it can speak through your heart, it can speak through your fingernails,

it can speak for your pancreas, it can speak on behalf of any aspect of you

why can it do this? because your inner voice represents the real you

with enough practice, you're not gonna have to shut off your senses to go find your inner voice

it's not gonna be a whisper, it's gonna to be a yell

so instead of going to find it to listen so deeply to it it's going to come up to meet you

in fact it's gonna become unavoidable

as you're engaging with the external world you will literally hear your internal voice all the time

and then you can be an expression of that truth and reality within yourself

it's not gonna be a mystery what you think and how you feel and what you want and what you don't want

that being said expression has a really really critical way to get the inner voice to go from quiet to loud

it became quiet because we suppressed it we essentially sent the message that, guess what?

my parents or my caregivers or my school teachers or my peers are right about me

my voice doesn't matter