I just feel like I can be my truest self.

我只覺得可以做真實的自己

Oh Pedro, I love you. - I love you too.

噢 Pedro，我愛你 - 我也愛妳

That's me, eating a sandwich alone in the bushes.

這是我，一個人在草叢裡吃著三明治

My name is Selorm and for a while now,

我是 Selorm，目前

being single has kind of been apart of my identity.

單身是我最近的感情狀態

I know what you're thinking,

我知道你在想什麼，

"How does a charming, radiant, bombshell of a woman

「為什麼一個像我這樣迷人、陽光、驚奇

"like me have trouble finding a man?"

的女人找不到男人？」

That's exactly what my mom says

以下是我媽說的

literally every day via text.

她幾乎每天都傳簡訊來

When it comes to dating in LA,

說到在洛杉磯約會

meeting people gets kinda weird.

見面好像有點奇怪

There's online dating apps but they're also very weird.

有交友軟體但他們也很奇怪

In order to meet someone,

為了要認識更多人

I have to learn to talk to people in the real world.

我開始學習如何跟真實世界的人說話

So I did what any normal gal would do,

所以我做了大家都會做的事

I hired a love coach.

我雇用一個愛情教練

A distractingly hot love coach.

一個帥到不行的愛情教練

You are going to be my love coach.

你要當我的愛情教練

I'm honored that you chose me.

很榮幸被你選中

You were the first person who popped up on Google.

你是在 Google 第一個搜尋到的人

That's it, that's how you chose?

是嗎，你是這樣選擇的？

That's really it.

那是真的

No research.

沒有其他研究

What exactly happens when one hires

當一個人雇用人生愛情顧問時

a love life strategist?

實際上會發生什麼事？

I've been making videos for years

我製作影片已經有好多年了

about ways to help your love life

關於如何幫助人們追愛

and your confidence at the same time.

同時增加自信

There are too many people that are single

有太多單身的人

and not happy with being single.

單身而不快樂的人

So my whole philosophy is,

因此我整體的哲學是

Okay, firstly let's figure out

好，我們先搞清楚

how we can be happy no matter what happens.

不論什麼事發生，我們要如何保持快樂

But also let's figure out how to create more choice.

但同時我們也要了解如何創造更多選擇

When women say, "I'm old fashioned,

當女人們說：「我太古板了，

I don't make the first move."

我不想先有第一步。」

I say, "Well then you don't know what old fashioned is."

我說：「那你不知道什麼才叫古板。」

Because old fashioned is 100 years ago,

因為所謂的古板是一百年前，

a woman walking past a guy and dropping her handkerchief

一個女人走過一個男人，丟下她的手帕

and the guy sees it and he says,

然後男人看到了，說：

"This is an extraordinary opportunity to be a man."

「這是個當紳士的大好機會。」

Picks up the handkerchief, he walks it over to her

撿起手帕，他走向她

and he says, "Madam, you dropped this."

然後說：「女士，妳掉了這個。」

And she says, "Did I?"

然後她說：「噢，有嗎？」

And they have a conversation.

然後他們有了對話

But he thought that was his idea.

但他覺得這是他的主意

In this day and age, you have to figure out

在這個世代，你必須搞清楚

how to drop the handkerchief.

如何掉手帕

It's clever. I'll just carry

這很聰明。我就帶著

some handkerchiefs on me and just throw them out.

一些手帕然後丟出去

Always carry a handkerchief.

記得隨身攜帶手帕

You mentioned that you're gonna be putting me through

你提到你這週要讓我嘗試

some mini challenges this week.

一些小挑戰

From what you told me,

從妳告訴我的

being in a new environment would be good

在一個陌生的環境會很好

and meeting some new people.

然後認識一些新的人

But also learning how to do

也學習一些

a few new things when you're there.

新的事物，當妳在那裡的時候

A nice thing you can do in terms

一件很棒的事你可以做

of dropping the handkerchief

像是掉手帕的概念

is just ask someone a favor.

是請求他人的幫助

You say to a guy,

你告訴一個男的

"I could really use your help with something."

「我真的需要你的幫忙。」

And it won't feel to him like you approached him.

然後不會讓他覺得妳刻意接近他

Instead it will just feel like he's doing the polite thing.

反而是讓他覺得他在做很有禮貌的事

Okay.

好

So I went off into the busy streets of Hollywood

因此我進入好萊塢忙碌的街道

with a not so hidden camera

帶著一個蠻顯眼的相機

to see if any of these gentlemen callers

看看有那個自稱紳士的人

would answer my questions.

可以回答我的問題

Excuse me? Could I use your help?

不好意思，我可以請你幫忙嗎？

I'm looking for something, my phone just died.

我正在找東西，但我手機當掉了

Unfortunately while I was out there, I realized

不幸的是我發現

that once someone does you a favor,

當一個人給予幫助時

they kind of feel the need to leave and walk away.

他們感覺想要趕快離開

Which meant that I had to find some way

意思是我必須找其他辦法

to keep the conversation going,

讓對話繼續

which I was not very good at.

是我所不擅長的

What else do I ask people?

我還問了其他人什麼？

Which way do I go?

我該往那裡走？

They're like, "That a way."

他們像這樣「那個方向。」

Who bye.

「那個誰掰掰。」

After getting rejected

在被蠻多人在好萊塢

by pretty much everyone in Hollywood,

拒絕後

I moved to a coffee shop,

我移動到一間咖啡店，

where it was a little easier to start conversation.

比較容易開啟話題

I decided I was going to talk to a man

我決定要跟一個男人講話

who was reading newspapers in the corner.

他在角落看報紙

And I proceeded to do the most awkward dance around the room

我開始在那裏跳最尷尬的舞

to find a way to talk to him.

試圖跟他說話

I found a way to start a conversation

我找到一個開啟話題的好方法

by grabbing the newspaper he was reading

拿著他正在閱讀的報紙

and asking him if it was any good.

然後問他是否有任何好看的東西

And it actually started a long

這真的在我們兩個之間開啟了一個

and interesting conversation between the two of us.

又長又有趣的話題

Matthew was right, by asking a favor,

Matthew 是對的，請求他人的幫助

I was able to break the wall and engage in conversation

我可以跟一個陌生人

with a perfect stranger.

破冰、對話

Success.

成功

When you are talking to a guy,

當你在跟男人講話時

touch is really important.

觸碰是非常重要的

They don't even necessarily register it consciously,

他們甚至會不太記得

but they'll register more of a connection with you

但你會比他們最後一次對話的人

than the last person they spoke to.

讓他覺得更有印象

People wonder why it's so hard to kiss someone

人們好奇為何親一個人這麼困難

at the end of a first date

在第一次約會的最後

because the whole date we didn't touch.

因為整個約會過程我們沒有觸碰

And then all of a sudden I'm supposed to lean in

然後突然有一刻我應該要彎下腰

and then bridge this mile long gap.

然後銜接這麼遠的距離

If we've been doing that during the date,

當約會做這樣的事

then it's much easier for us to feel closer together.

我們就會更容易感覺更靠近對方

So my mission to you is touch someone

所以我給妳的任務就是觸碰他人

in the first 60 seconds.

在前六十秒內

That just sounds so weird.

這聽起來超怪

Okay, so this one is a challenge for me.

好，這對我來說是個挑戰

Anyone who knows me knows that I'm not exactly

所有認識我的人都知道我不善於

a sensual toucher.

碰觸他人

I notice that a lot of the times when I touch someone,

我發現當我觸碰他人的時候

I give them this weird pat on the back,

我會給他一個這樣超怪的輕拍

like they're a kid

好像他們是一個剛打出全雷打

that just scored a home run in little league.

的小孩一樣

Matthew was not a fan of this.

馬修根本不吃這套

Okay, that was the worst thing

好，這是可能是你做出

you could possibly do.

最糟的事

You did that to me and I'm a guy you like,

如果我是妳喜歡的人

I wouldn't think you liked me.

我不會覺得妳喜歡我

A light touch on the arm.

輕輕碰觸手臂

Like, "Oh my God, you have to hear about this."

像是「天啊，你一定聽聽這個。」

Just that touch there

就這樣碰一下

will serve you a thousand times better

會好上幾千倍

than the old arm slap.

跟你剛剛老派的輕拍比

I managed to stop slapping people on the back,

我試圖克制自己不要輕拍別人的背

but instead I do this thing where I'd rest

而是讓自己把手

the back of my hand on their shoulder,

放在別人的肩膀上

kind of like a, "Okay, I touched you, that works."

感覺是「好，我觸碰了你，成功。」

This was definitely not a successful challenge for me.

這對我來說不是一個成功的挑戰

One of the things that makes me scared,

其中讓我害怕的是，

is if I think I'm gonna have to walk up to someone,

我要走向一個陌生人

start a whole conversation, and then stay there.

開啟全部的話題，還要留在那裡

Instead, here's something you can try.

事實上，這裡有幾件事你可以試試

I call it, "Two Hit Theory."

我叫它「二次出擊理論」

Let's say I go to the bar and order a drink.

假設我要酒吧點酒

You could be standing next to me

你站在我旁邊

and I go, "Hey, how are you?"

我說：「嘿，你好嗎？」

And you are, "I'm fine."

你說：「很好」

And I go, "Great. I hope you're having a great night."

然後我說：「太棒了，我希望你有個美好的夜晚。」

Maybe I cheers you, and then I walk off.

或許我跟你乾杯後然後離去

But the great thing about that is when you leave,

但最棒的是，當你離開時，

you now seem much more approachable to that person,

你對那個來說是更可接近的

because you already approached them.

因為你已經觸碰他們了

Okay, so this was probably my favorite challenge

好，所以這大概是愛情教練給我的挑戰中

that the love coach gave me.

我最喜歡的

All I had to do was say hi to a guy,

我要做的只有跟一個人說嗨、

walk away and then go party, and they come to me.

離開，然後去派對，他們就會來找我

We're at an Irish bar.

我們在一個愛爾蘭酒吧

There are no cute boys.

沒有小鮮肉

Over the weekend, I went to a bar

整個週末，我去了酒吧

and a rooftop party at my friend's house.

還有我朋友家的頂樓派對

Both great places for me to try the Two Hit Theory.

兩個都是讓我嘗試「二次出擊理論」很好的場合

Thank you, I asked him what drink he was getting,

謝謝你，我問他拿了什麼酒

it was genius.

太聰明了

It was a great approach.

很棒的出擊

He's gay. Yeah, only problem was.

他是同志，對，唯一的問題

Look, everyone is gay.

看，大家都是同志

A few hours went by and the men just simply weren't coming.

幾個小時過後，沒有半個男人找上我

But it was fine, I was having a great time

但沒差，我很享受

and I wasn't really worried about that.

我不是很擔心

(gong rings)

(鏘)

Oh my God.

我的天

Okay, I'm not gonna lie, I thought a lot of the stuff

好，我沒有在說謊，我想了很多有關

that the love coach was saying

愛情教練說的話

was just kind of like not really relevant to my life,

都跟我的人生沒什麼關係

but there was this guy leaning against the bar

但有一個背對吧台的男的

that I thought was really cute.

我覺得他很可愛

So I decided to try that whole thing

所以我決定嘗試所有的事

where I go up, say hello, and then just walk away.

我上前打招呼，然後就走了

And so I did it but I didn't really expect

所以我不是很期待

anything to happen.

會有任何事發生

By the time I'm walking to the car with my friends,

當我要跟朋友一起去牽車時

he kind of chases me down to my friend's car

他追過來我朋友的車

and he's like, "Hey, can I get your number?"

然後說：「嘿，我可以要你的電話嗎？」

And I was like, "What?"

然後我心想：「啥？」

I'm sorry, that doesn't always happen.

我很抱歉，這種事真的不是每次都會發生

I don't know, I guess overall confidence works.

我不知道，但我猜是自信發揮了功效

I'm gonna go to bed now.

我現在要去睡覺了

(money clanking)

(叮噹)

Now the last thing,

現在最後一件事，

what I want you to do is create a happy hour.

我要你設立一個「放鬆時間」

Someone you wouldn't normally invite for a drink.

找那些你通常不會邀請他們喝一杯的人

You say to them, "Me and a couple of friends

跟他們說：「我跟一群朋友

are having drinks, I'm inviting a couple of people,

想要喝一杯，我正在找人，

you're welcome to join."

我們很歡迎你。」

That doesn't even have to be a guy you like, by the way.

另外，他們也不需要是你心儀的對象

It could be a woman.

可以是女生

It could just be someone that is an acquaintance

可以是認識的人

but you feel like they could actually become a friend.

但妳覺得可以進一步當朋友

So the party was on.

所以派對開始

I invited some friends

我邀請了一些朋友

and asked them to invite their friends.

然後請他們邀請自己的朋友

But I didn't tell anyone

但我沒有告訴任何人

that I was going to be using love coach tactics on them.

事實上我要在他們身上使用愛情教練的戰略

So the goal for the day

所以任務當天

initiate conversation by using the two hit theory

最初的對話用的是「二次出擊理論」

or asking a favor.

或是請他們幫忙某事

And touch someone within the first 60 seconds.

然後在前六十秒觸碰他們

Bye. Can I take a slub shot?

掰。我可以試試嗎？

Oh yeah, sure.

可以啊，當然

Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool.

酷酷酷酷酷酷

So you have to get this in the hole?

所以要把這個丟進洞裡？

Yeah, she almost made it.

耶，她快做到了

Is this pizza good.

這披薩很讚

I haven't tried it yet.

我還沒試過

Hey could I sit right here?

嘿，我可以坐這裡嗎？

Of course.

當然

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

謝謝、謝謝、謝謝、謝謝

Oh. Never mind, I suck at this.

噢，算了，我卡關

(laughing)

(笑聲)

I don't mean to make you feel bad for eating.

我不想讓你覺得吃得心情不好

Instead of taking pictures of the animals,

與其拍動物的照片

they were like let me take a picture real quick.

不如拍我比較快

Yeah, just put me in a cage.

對，把我放在籠子裡

You're gonna be okay.

你會很好的

You're gonna be okay, guys.

你會很好的，大家

We're all gonna be okay.

我們都會好好的

You look so confused.

你看起來超困惑

Oh yeah, sorry. You're just like,

對，抱歉，你就像

"I don't understand any of this."

「我什麼都不懂。」

I've had this once before.

我有過這種經驗

And I got food poisoning the next day.

隔天我就食物中毒了

(laughing)

(笑聲)

From this place? - Yeah.

在這裡？ 對

So if I get sick, you're gonna bring me Pepto Bismol

所以如果我生病了，你就要給我必舒胃錠

and all that stuff?

還有其他東西？

If you get sick don't blame me.

如果你生病了，不要怪我

Just sue them.

告他們

We should exchange numbers or something like that.

我們應該要交換一下電話號碼之類的

Just in case - We should exchange numbers

以防萬一 我們應該交換號碼

just in case, just in case.

以防萬一、以防萬一

(money clanks)

(叮噹)

I think all of these challenges are really useful.

我認為這些挑戰都超有用的

But they're all just about getting out of your comfort zone

但這些都只是讓你踏出舒適圈

and finding ways to talk to new people.

然後找到認識他人的方法

I started to notice a lot of moments

我開始注意到很多時候

when walking down the street where I meet new people

我走在路上遇到人們

and I wanna talk to them.

我會想要跟他們說話

What this helped me realize is

這幫助我了解到

that everyone really wants to make conversation.