or even truly felt. There are feelings that exist in an ‘unprocessed’ form within

或了解自己。這些情緒都未被「消化過」。

us. A great many worries may, for example, remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifest

例如，憂慮可能存留在自身久久不散，並無限擴大

themselves as powerful directionless anxiety. Under their sway, we may feel a compulsive

演變為無止盡的焦慮。在負面情緒之下，我們急切地

need to remain busy, fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure

讓自己忙起來，所以不斷重複某些行為

we don’t meet what scares us head on (these might include internet pornography, tracking

這些行為可能是看色情片、不斷刷新社群頁面

the news or exercising compulsively). A similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt. Someone

或過度運動。這種逃避往往最後還是會感到傷痛。當你

may have abused our trust, made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we

被欺壓或背叛時，開始懷疑人性本善，並自尊心受創

are driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability.

卻不願面對，反而逃避情緒以及自身脆弱。

The hurt is somewhere inside, but on the surface, we adopt a brittle good cheer (jolliness being

雖然內心受傷，表面上，還是保持一種苦澀的笑容。(用笑容來掩飾悲傷)

sadness that doesn’t know itself), we numb ourselves chemically or else adopt a carefully

我們用化學來麻痺自己，或是用犬儒主義

non-specific tone of cynicism, which masks the specific wound that has been inflicted

玩世不恭行為逃避，反而將傷口越挖越深。

on us. We pay dearly for our failure to ‘process’ our feelings. Our minds grow unoriginal from

我們為「情緒消化」付出代價。情緒不再

a background apprehension as to their contents. We grow depressed about everything because

忠於自我。一直抑鬱著悲傷，因為

we cannot be sad about something. We can no longer sleep, insomnia being the revenge of

無法面對悲傷。睡不著覺、開始失眠，夜深時分

all the many thoughts we have omitted to process in the day. We need compassion for ourselves.

被日有所思之事糾纏。我們該關心自己的情緒。

We avoid processing emotions because what we feel is so contrary to our self-image,

我們拒絕負面情緒，因為它違背自身形象

so threatening to our society’s ideas of normality and so at odds with who we would

和普世價值背道而馳，而不想因此成為

like to be. An atmosphere conducive to processing would be one in which the difficulties of

眾人焦點。然而，身為人類，我們的悲傷情緒應該

being human were warmly recognised and charitably accepted. We fail to know ourselves not out

受他人溫馨包容與善心對待。不了解自己，並非因為

of laziness or casual neglect; it simply hurts a lot. Processing emotions requires good friends,

怠惰或無心之過，而是傷心欲絕。負面情緒需要朋友排解

deft therapists and ritual moments like Philosophical Meditation, in which our normal defences can

尋求諮商治療，或是靈性冥想等治療，讓防衛機制

safely be put aside and unfamiliar material ring fenced for investigation. The outcome

休息片刻，沉浸在探索自我的空間。勇於

of processing our emotions is always an alleviation in our overall mood. But first we must pay

消化情緒的結果，絕對是一種全面解脫。首先，我們必須有

for our self-awareness with a period of mourning in which we gradually acknowledge that, in

時時刻刻自我覺察所有情緒，分辨出

some area or other, life is simply a lot sadder than we would want it to be

哪些事情會讓自己感到悲傷。因為，人生不如意，十之八九。

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