ask that question, one, because it's the topic of a lot of emails that I've gotten over the

問這個問題，一，因為它'是很多電子郵件的主題，我'已經得到了在過去的

last several weeks and months, but, two, because this has a huge impact on the charisma that

持續幾個星期和幾個月，但是，第二，因為這有一個巨大的影響的魅力，這

you exude when you are making a first impression, because I can give you all of the perfect

當你給人留下第一印象時，你會散發出來，因為我可以給你所有完美的

tips to make a great smile, how to hold eye contact, but if when you get asked that question,

技巧，使一個偉大的微笑，如何保持眼神交流，但如果當你被問到這個問題。

what do you do? And you don't have a hobby that you're really engaged in, and you don't

你做什麼？你沒有真正從事的興趣愛好，你也沒有。

love your work, and all that you can muster is "Ah, you know, I'm an accountant." It doesn't

愛你的工作，和所有你可以必須是"啊，你知道，我&39;是一個會計師."它不&39;。

matter, any of that body language stuff, that is going to get sub-communicated.

事，任何一個肢體語言的東西，都會得到次溝通。

The fact that you are not engaged and excited about your life and what you spend your time

事實上，你對你的生活和你所花的時間沒有參與和興奮。

doing, comes through loud and clear. So, figuring out the things that you're passionate about

做的事情，通過響亮而清晰的。所以，弄清楚你所熱衷的事情'。

and incorporating them into your life, either professionally, or just as a hobby, is a critical

並將其融入到你的生活中，無論是在職業上，還是作為一種愛好，都是一個至關重要的問題。

part of being charismatic. So, what I want to offer you today is an actionable thing

魅力的一部分。所以，我今天要給大家提供的是一個可操作的東西。

that you can do. Get a piece of paper. Write it down. I've got four questions for you that

你可以做的。找一張紙。寫下來。我有四個問題要問你 I've got four questions for you that

will help you to identify the type of things that you need to be engaging with more in

將幫助你識別出你需要更多參與的事情類型，在。

your life, because these things are your passions, and these are going to attract people to you

因為這些東西是你的激情，而這些都會吸引人們對你的關注

when you talk about them.

當你說到他們的時候。

So here's the first question. The first question is: What can you spend your time doing that

所以這裡'是第一個問題。第一個問題是：你可以用你的時間做什麼？

when you're doing it, you lose track of yourself, and you lose track of time? Maybe it just

當你'做的時候，你失去了自己的軌道，你失去了時間的軌道？也許它只是

turns out that it's 3:30 in the morning and you just opened your eyes, you're like "How

原來，它的3:30在早晨，你剛剛睜開眼睛，你'像"如何。

the heck did I spend the last 8 hours doing this thing?" Go ahead and write a list of

我花了8個小時來做這件事？

things down, and don't be judgmental here. If the answer, one of them is video games,

事情下來，不要'在這裡判斷。如果答案，其中之一就是電子遊戲。

go ahead and write this down. We're not trying to find something that's commercially viable.

繼續寫下來。我們並不是要找到商業上可行的東西。

We're trying to find the things that take you into "flow," because if you're in flow,

我們正在努力尋找能帶你進入"流動的東西，"因為如果你&39;在流動。

that means that you are so hyper engaged with that thing that you care, you're passionate,

這意味著，你是如此超常地投入到那件事情，你關心，你'熱情。

right? So, that's very important. Number one, what makes you lose track of time in yourself.

吧？所以，這'很重要。第一，是什麼讓你在自己身上失去了時間的蹤跡。

Number two: What sort of activities in your life do you spend money to participate in?

第二條在你的生活中，你會花錢參加什麼樣的活動？

And I know that, for me, one of the things was, and this didn't seem very important at

我知道，對我來說，其中一件事是， 這似乎不是很重要的在

the time, but I was going out all the time. I was going to bars, I was paying covers,

的時間，但我是出去所有的時間。我是去酒吧，我是支付封面。

I was paying taxis. If you'd look at my bank statements, a huge percentage of my money

我在支付計程車。如果你看我的銀行報表，我的錢的很大一部分

was in going to places where I could meet people, interact, and, maybe, meet a girl

是在去的地方，我可以滿足人們，互動， 也許，遇到一個女孩。

that I like, right? So that was something that I was hyper engaged in. Think to your

我喜歡，對不對？所以那是我超投入的東西。思考到你

own life. What sort of events do you spend your own hard-earned money to participate

自己的生活。你花自己的血汗錢參加什麼樣的活動？

in. That means that you care enough to invest.

中。這意味著你足夠關心投資。

The third question: What area of your life do you fear judgment in, right? Is there an

第三個問題。你在生活中的哪個領域害怕被審判，對嗎？是否有

area where you have a backlog of work, whether it's songs or poems, or any piece of art or

你有一個積壓的工作領域，無論是歌曲或詩歌，或任何藝術作品或

business or whatever it is that you're afraid to share with other people, for fear of being

業務或任何它是你'不敢與其他人分享，因為害怕被。

judged. This means that you care about it tremendously. It's core to your identity,

判斷。這意味著你非常關心它。它'是你身份的核心。

and, so, you will work hard to be excellent at it. When I look back at my own life, writing

並且，所以，你會努力成為優秀的人。當我回首自己的人生時，寫作

was the clear winner. Ever since I was a kid, I've been writing. I've been taking creative

是明顯的贏家。自從我還是個孩子，我'一直在寫作。我一直在採取創意

writing classes every chance I got, but I was very scared to publish in any sort of

我一有機會就去上寫作課，但我非常害怕在任何形式的刊物上發表文章。

school newspaper or blog or anything. And that was because it was core to who I am, right?

學校的報紙或博客或任何東西。那是因為它是我的核心，對吧？

If somebody didn't like my writing, I thought that would tear me apart. Of course, that's

如果有人不喜歡我的寫作，我想那會把我撕碎。當然，那's

not the case, but look for that area. What are those things that you're afraid to share?

並非如此，但要尋找這個領域。哪些事情是你'不敢分享的？

That means that it is really important to you and you work to be good at it.

這說明它對你真的很重要，你要努力做好它。

And, of course, number four: What makes your heart race, right? What things in your life

當然，還有第四條。是什麼讓你心跳加速，對嗎？在你的生活中，什麼事情

do you have that when you engage in that activity, your heart rate literally elevates. And as

你有，當你從事這種活動， 你的心率從字面上提升。而作為

I look back on my own life, one of the very clear things for me was social interaction.

我回顧自己的人生，對我來說，有一點非常清晰，就是社會交往。

I was a very shy kid. Whenever I'd meet someone new, that would kind of make me anxious, but

我是一個非常害羞的孩子。每當我遇到一個新的人，那會有點讓我焦慮，但... ...

particularly, for someone that I wanted to be my friend, or if it was a girl that I like,

特別是，對於一個我想成為我朋友的人，或者是我喜歡的女孩。

man, my heart rate would just shoot through the roof. So, reflect on your own life. What

男人，我的心率就會射穿屋頂。所以，反思你自己的生活。什麼？

sort of things do you have? And, again, start _ . You can write scary movies, skydiving,

你有什麼樣的東西？而且，同樣，開始_。你可以寫恐怖電影，跳傘。

whatever it is. But start to go down that list and make a list of things that actually,

無論它是什麼。但開始順著這個清單，列一個清單，其實。

genuinely excite you, and you know it because your body is responding, right?

真正讓你興奮，你知道這一點，因為你的身體正在響應，對不對？

So when you have this list of these four things, hopefully, you'll have some commonalities

所以，當你有了這四件事的清單，希望你'會有一些共性。

in there. And the whole point of this exercise is to tease out the things in your life that

在那裡。而這個練習的重點就是要把你生活中的事情挑出來。

you care about, but that you might be hiding from yourself, because a very, very common

但你可能會對自己隱瞞，因為一個非常非常普遍的問題是

phenomena in today's world is that we have these things that are core to our identity.

當今世界的現象是，我們有這些東西是我們身份的核心。

In my case, it was this writing; it was social interaction, but that we're afraid to share

在我的情況下，它是這種寫作；這是社會交往，但我們&#39；害怕分享

with the rest of the world, because it is so important to us. We're afraid to make it

與世界其他地方，因為它對我們是如此重要。我們害怕讓它

our profession, or even just a hobby, right? If you were to write about it on a blog, in

我們的職業，甚至只是一種愛好，對嗎？如果你把它寫在博客上，在。

the internet, or engage with it in some other way. So go through this list, right? See if

互聯網，或以其他方式參與其中。那就去看看這個名單吧？看看是否

there are commonalities, things that are so important to you, things that you legitimately

有共同點，事情是如此重要，對你來說，事情，你合法的。

care about that you can get more involved in. And the reason is not just for yourself,

關心的，你可以多參與。而原因不僅僅是為了自己。

because, of course, that's going to improve your quality of life. But when you meet other

因為，當然，這將提高你的生活品質。但是，當你遇到其他

people, you need to bring in enthusiasm and an energy to that question, "What do you do?"

人，你需要帶著熱情和能量去回答這個問題，"你是做什麼的&quot。

And, right now, if all you have going is a job that you're not super into, and friends

而且，現在，如果你有去 是一個工作，你'不是超級成，和朋友。

that, you know, you like, but you're not crazy about, and hobbies that, you know, football

你知道，你喜歡，但你不瘋狂， 和愛好，你知道，足球。

on Sundays, that is not going to help you connect with the kind of people that you want

禮拜天，這並不能幫助你與你想要的人建立聯繫。

to have in your life. When you're passionate about something, you will attract other people

以在你的生活中擁有。當你對某件事情充滿熱情時，你就會吸引其他的人

into your life that have similar passions, and, they, maybe, in some cases, have passions

進入你的生活，有類似的激情， 而且，他們，也許，在某些情況下，有激情。

that are completely divergent, but the intensity of those passions attract one another.

是完全不同的，但這些激情的強度相互吸引。

So, I hope that you found this exercise helpful. I hope that you follow through, and if you're

所以，我希望你覺得這個練習對你有幫助。我希望你能貫徹執行，如果你'。

still interested in more on first impressions, we've actually set up another video that has

仍有興趣在更多的第一印象，我們'''其實已經設置了另一個視頻，已

the four emotions that guarantee you can make a good first impression on anyone, anytime.

四種情感，保證你可以隨時隨地給任何人留下良好的第一印象。

And these are things that if you imbue into this answer of what do you do, you take these

而這些東西，如果你把這些灌輸到這個答案中，你做什麼，你就把這些

four emotions, and you can put them into your answers. What do you do? Where are you from?

四種情緒，你可以把它們放到你的答案中。你是做什麼的？你是哪裡人？

You are going to absolutely smash your first impressions. It will be amazing. So, if you

你絕對會打破你的第一印象。這將是驚人的。所以，如果你

want to see what those four emotions are, go ahead, click the link that will pop up

想知道這四種情緒是什麼，請點擊會彈出的鏈接吧

here. It's going to take you to another page where you can submit your email, and then,

這裡。它會帶你到另一個頁面，你可以提交你的電子郵件，然後。

you will get that video. Of course, if you found this helpful, please, below, comment,

你會得到那個視頻。當然，如果你覺得這對你有幫助，請在下面，評論。

what did you find in your answers. I'm very, very curious to see, and hold yourself accountable

你的答案中發現了什麼。我'我非常非常好奇，想看看，並對自己負責。

to following through in some way. If you have any questions, feel free to write those in

以某種方式貫徹執行。如果您有任何問題，請隨時將這些問題寫在

the comments. I'm going to be alternating between Charisma breakdowns, and videos like this,

的評論。我'要交替進行魅力分解，和這樣的視頻。

where I answer viewer questions, and, lastly, if this is the first time that you're on my

在那裡，我回答觀眾的問題，最後，如果這是第一次，你&#39；我的。

channel, and you've not yet done so, subscribe. We've got new videos like this every single

頻道，你'還沒有這樣做，訂閱。我們已經得到了新的視頻像這樣的每一個

Monday, and Charisma breakdowns of celebrities, showing charismatic body language, eye contact,

週一，以及名人的魅力分解，展現魅力的肢體語言、眼神交流。

all sorts of things to help you be more charismatic and confident in your everyday life. So, I'm

各種各樣的東西，以幫助你在日常生活中更有魅力和自信。所以，我'm

Charlie, I hope that you've enjoyed this video, and I will see you in the next one.

查理，我希望你'喜歡這個視頻，我們下一個視頻見。