unless the parent is protecting and preventing at every turn

除非家長處處保護，處處防範。

and hovering over every happening

目不轉睛

and micromanaging every moment

和微觀管理的每一刻

and steering their kid towards some small subset

並引導他們的孩子走向一些小的子集。

of colleges and careers.

的高校和職業。

Our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood,

我們的孩子最終會過上一種清單式的童年。

and here's what the checklisted childhood looks like.

而這裡'的清單上的童年是什麼樣子的。

We want to be sure they go to the right schools,

我們要確保他們能上對學校。

but not just that,

但不僅如此。

that they're in the right classes at the right schools,

他們在正確的班級在正確的學校。

and that they get the right grades in the right classes

而且他們在正確的班級裡獲得正確的成績。

in the right schools.

在正確的學校。

And when they get to high school,

而當他們到了高中。

they don't say, "Well, what might I be interested

他們不說，"好吧，我可能會有興趣的東西

in studying or doing as an activity?"

在學習或做為一種活動？

They go to counselors, and they say,

他們去找心理諮詢師，他們說。

"What do I need to do to get into the right college?"

"我需要做什麼才能進入合適的大學？&quot。

And then when the grades start to roll in in high school,

等到了高中，成績開始滾滾而來。

and they're getting some B's

和他們得到一些B'的。

or, god forbid, some C's,

或者，上帝保佑，一些C'的。

they frantically text their friends and say,

他們瘋狂地給朋友發短信，說。

"Has anyone ever gotten into the right college

"有沒有人考上合適的大學？

with these grades?"

與這些成績嗎&quot。

And they're withering now

而他們現在正在枯萎

under high rates of anxiety and depression,

在焦慮和抑鬱症高發的情況下。

and some of them are wondering,

而其中一些人卻在想。

will this life ever turn out to have been worth it?

這一生會不會變成值得？

Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it.

好吧，我們家長，我們家長很肯定這一切都值得。

We seem to behave--

我們的行為似乎...

It's, like, we literally think they will have no future

這就像，我們從字面上看，他們將不會有未來

if they don't get into one of these tiny set of colleges

如果他們不進入這些微小的一組學院的之一

or careers we have in mind for them,

或我們為他們設想的職業。

or maybe, maybe we're just afraid

或者也許，也許我們只是害怕。

they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends

他們不會有一個未來，我們可以向我們的朋友吹噓

and with stickers on the backs of our cars.

並在我們的車後貼上貼紙。

Yeah.

是啊。

[Applause]

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