字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS USUALLY LEADS TO POSITIVE THINGS FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE HOT. BUT THERE IS ONE MASSIVE DOWNSIDE BASED ON A MASSIVE STUDY THAT WAS DONE BY VARIOUS UNIVERSITIES WHICH INCLUDE HARVARD, UNIVERSITY OF LUVERNE, AND SANTA CLARA. THEY WANTED TO SEE HOW BEING PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE IMPACTS RELATIONSHIPS WHETHER IT BE REGULAR LOVE INTERESTS OR MARRIAGES. THEY FOUND A HUGE DOWNSIDE TO BEING HOT. >>THAT'S REALLY INTERESTING. >>THEY DID ABOUT FOUR DIFFERENT STUDIES TO COME UP WITH THESE CONCLUSIONS. HERE IS WHAT THEY FOUND. >> I'M NOT SURE I WOULD'VE BEEN IN THAT CATEGORY SO I FEEL A LITTLE GOOD ABOUT THOSE STUDENTS. AT LEAST MY MARRIAGE IS GOING TO LAST LONGER. TAKE THAT. >>THEN THEY LOOKED AT THE IMDB PROFILES OF VARIOUS CELEBRITIES AND THEY HAD PEOPLE RATE THE ATTRACTIVENESS, AND THEN LOOKED INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP HISTORY. HERE IS WHAT THEY FOUND. LET'S LOOK AT THE FINAL EXPERIMENT WHICH I THOUGHT WAS INTERESTING. >> DING, DING, DING, WE HAVE A WINNER. >> I'M SURPRISED HARVARD DID THE STUDY BUT WHATEVER. I THINK IT IS OBVIOUS. CHEATING RELIES SOLELY ON WHAT YOUR OPPORTUNITIES ARE. YOU CAN BE THE STRONGEST PERSON EVER, BUT THERE IS GOING TO BE A LOW IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AT SOME POINT. IF SOMEBODY IS TRYING TO RUB UP AGAINST YOU, WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO SAY NO? YOU SHOULD, BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T. >> IT IS THE OLDEST ADAGE THERE IS. HOW LIKELY ARE YOU TO CHEAT? DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH OPPORTUNITY YOU HAVE. AND IT DEPENDS STRONGLY ON IF YOU ARE A GUY OR GIRL. WHAT HE THINKS CELEBRITIES GET DIVORCED A LOT? BECAUSE THEY HAVE ALL THE OPPORTUNITY IN THE WORLD. IF YOU ARE RANDOM DUDE IN WICHITA, DO YOU HAVE HOT GIRLS THROWING AT YOU AT ALL TIMES? PROBABLY NOT. I AM A RANDOM DUDE IN THE MIDDLE OF LA. EVEN NOW WHEN WE HAVE A HIGHER PROFILE, NOBODY THROWS THEMSELVES AT ME. THOSE HOT GUYS, AT SOME POINT THEY WILL BREAK. >> THE INCREDIBLE THING ABOUT DAVID BECKHAM IS THAT HE HAS HAD A LONG AND SEEMINGLY HAPPY RELATIONSHIP. I FEEL LIKE HE IS MORE OF AN ANOMALY WHEREAS A LOT OF PEOPLE DO EXPERIENCE TEMPTATION. THINK IT MOSTLY HAS TO DO WITH OPPORTUNITIES AND YOUR SATISFACTION IN THE RELATIONSHIP. PEOPLE CHEAT FOR DIFFERENT REASONS. I THINK FOR WOMEN THERE IS A LOT OF ISSUES WITH HOW INVOLVED YOUR PARTNER IS, WHETHER OR NOT YOU FEEL EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED OR IF HE IS RESPONSIVE TO YOUR NEEDS. THOSE ARE THE TYPES OF THINGS THAT MIGHT CONVINCE A WOMAN IS WORTH CHEATING. WITH MEN, DOES SHE HAVE TITS. I'M BEING UNFAIR TO MEN, BUT NOT REALLY. >>ONE THING THAT LEADS MEANT TO CHEAT MORE ACCORDING TO THE STUDY IS IF THEIR WIFE IS GIVING THEM ENOUGH VALIDATION. THAT IS BOTH UNDERSTANDABLE AND SAD. THAT IS COMMON WHETHER YOU ARE A CELEBRITY OR NOT OR ATTRACTIVE OR NOT. YOU HAVE TO BE A CELEBRITY OR RICH BY THE WAY. SPEAKING FROM A PROBABILITY PERSPECTIVE IF YOU ARE MORE ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO GET MORE OPPORTUNITIES AND HENCE LIKELY TO HAVE SHORTER RELATIONSHIPS AND HAVE ONES THAT ARE MORE LIKELY TO BREAK UP. ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS YOU MENTIONED THERE, DECREASED EFFORT IN RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE. IF YOU ARE HOT YOU THINK I AM HOT I DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING HERE. WHAT IS HE GOING TO DO BREAK UP WITH ME? IT TURNS OUT NO, RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. >> AT LEAST WITH MARRIAGE I KNOW THAT IT TAKES WORK, CONSTANT WORK TO REMAIN INVOLVED IN EACH OTHER'S LIVES AND TO KEEP THE FIRE ALIVE. WE ARE HUMANS AND YOU CAN ONLY COOK A STEAK SO MANY TIMES OR SO MANY WAYS. SOMETIMES YOU WANT SOME SHRIMP OR SOMETHING DIFFERENT. YOU HAVE TO KEEP CONVINCING YOURSELF THAT YOU WANT STEAK, THAT IS RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE. >>I'M NOT SURE THAT IS THE ONLY RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE OR THE FOCUS OF THE STORY. BUT I DO SEE WHAT IS GOING ON A LITTLE BIT HERE. >> I WILL STOP MYSELF BEFORE I GET IN TROUBLE. I LOVE STEAK GUYS. LOVE IT. >> MAYBE THERE IS A SLIGHT COUNTER EFFECT OR MAYBE IF YOUR PARTNER IS HOT YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO STAY WITH THEM. BUT OVERALL THE JURY IS IN, A SLIGHT DOWNSIDE TO BEING ATTRACTIVE IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS MORE LIKELY TO END QUICKER. >> CAN WE EDIT OUT THE PART WHERE I TALKED ABOUT STEAK AND LOBSTER? >>NO. ONE MORE STORY. >>A STARTUP IN SILICON VALLEY IS OFFERING TO PAY ITS EMPLOYEES $10,000 IF THEY DE-LOCATE, MEANING IF THEY MOVE OUT OF SILICON VALLEY. THIS IS GREAT NEWS BECAUSE THE COMPANY DOES ALLOW ITS EMPLOYEES TO WORK REMOTELY. SINCE THEY ARE NOT REQUIRED TO LIVE THERE THEY WANT TO ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO LIVE WHEREVER THEY WANT AND THEY GET A $10,000 BONUS AS A RESULT. I THINK THIS IS SOMETHING A LOT OF AMERICANS ARE EXPERIENCING. FINANCIAL ADVISORS TELL YOU YOU SHOULDN'T SPEND MORE THAN 30% OF YOUR INCOME ON YOUR LIVING. BUT PEOPLE PAY MORE, THAT IS CERTAINLY THE CASE IN HIGH-PRICED AREAS LIKE SILICON VALLEY, LOS ANGELES, OR NEW YORK. I LOVE THIS BECAUSE IT ENCOURAGES PEOPLE TO MOVE AWAY AND HOPEFULLY IT WILL HELP LOWER THE COST OF THE HOUSING MARKET THERE IF MORE COMPANIES FOLLOW SUIT AND DO SOMETHING SIMILAR? >> IT IS A WEIRD HIT THIS GUY IS TAKING ON TO GET PEOPLE TO MOVE AWAY FROM HIM. A LOT OF COMPANIES ñ THIS COMPANY ONLY HAS 85 PEOPLE. IF THEY ARE ALL WORKING FROM HOME, WHAT DOES HE CARE IF THEY LIVED NEAR HIM OR 1 MILLION MILES FROM HIM? 1 MILLION MILES DOESN'T HELP THEM ANY MORE THAN IT HURTS HIM. >> I THINK THIS MIGHT BE AN EFFORT TO ATTRACT MORE TALENTED ENGINEERS AND EMPLOYEES. I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE DETERRED FROM WORKING SILICON VALLEY JOBS IF THEY HAVE TO LIVE IN THE BAY. IT IS EXPENSIVE AND WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO GO THROUGH MAKING A DECENT LIVING AND NOT BEING ABLE TO ENJOY IT. >> THAT MAKES SENSE, AND IT WORKED FOR HIM. 50 PEOPLE SAID CAN I PLEASE MOVE AWAY FROM YOU AS SOON AS THEY STARTED THIS. IF HE IS LOOKING TO RECRUIT BETTER, MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. REALLY NICE PR MOVE AND WORTH THE EXTRA $10,000. RANDOM PART THAT MADE ME BITTER AND JEALOUS, THE CEO IS 30 YEARS OLD. >>I KNOW. THAT IS THE CASE WITH MOST SUCCESSFUL CEOS IN SILICON VALLEY. THEY ARE SUPER YOUNG, YOUNGER THAN US, AND THEY ARE MILLIONAIRES. YEAH, IT SUCKS. THAT IS LIFE. >>THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU. GOD BLESS. WELL PLAYED ON THIS EFFORT AND IT HELPS PEOPLE IN SAN FRANCISCO. IT IS REALLY MENTAL THAT IF YOU MAKE $700,000 AND YOU CAN'T AFFORD THE RENT. WE HAVE GONE BEYOND THE MIDDLE CLASS GETTING CRUNCHED. IN PLACES LIKE SAN FRANCISCO EVERYONE IS GETTING CRUNCHED. >>I KNOW. IT IS GETTING WORSE IN LOS ANGELES AS WELL. THINK ABOUT IT. >>THINK ABOUT IT. I DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM THINKING ABOUT. >> I MEAN I CAN'T WORK REMOTELY. I CAN SKYPE IN AND DO THE SHOW. >>NO. I ACTUALLY WANT TO TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT THE PREVIOUS STORY. RELATED TO THIS STORY I WILL TELL YOU IN THE POST GAME ABOUT THIS CRAZY THING OUR HIGH SCHOOL DID FOR THE REALLY ATTRACTIVE GIRLS AND GUYS IN THE CLASS. WE DID A SLAVE AUCTION. OH MY GOD. THIS WAS BACK IN 1988 IN NEW JERSEY, WHEN IN THE WORLD WAS THAT SLAVE AUCTION AND WHY DID WE DO IT AND WHAT WERE THE RAMIFICATIONS AND DID WE THINK IT WAS A BIG DEAL OR NOT? I WILL TELL YOU THAT IN THE POST GAME FOR THE MEMBERS AT TYTNETWORK.COM/JOIN. BECOME A MEMBER, GET THE WHOLE SHOW, GET THE POST GAMES AND FIND OUT THAT STORY AS WELL.
B1 中級 美國腔 長期關係的煩惱?你可能太熱了。 (Trouble With Long-Term Relationships? You May Be Too Hot.) 148 12 Darren 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日 更多分享 分享 收藏 回報 影片單字