Yes, self-esteem is great, but even more than that I love hanging out with my homies.
So when I go on Facebook and I see that they have all hung out without me, I get sad.
Sometimes my feelings of being left out are totally justified.
Why wasn't I invited to the family reunion?
And sometimes they're not.
Why wasn't I invited to your bachelor party?
You're not a dude.
I get so worried about being like excluded from something or forgotten about that sometimes I try to pre-emptively get myself invited into things.
Oh yeah, I heard about this really cool place in Malibu where you can do Go-karts.
Oh my god! That sounds like so much fun!
We should do, we should all go together like, as friends and hang out and do that.
Let's do it!
Why don't we put it on the books right now?
Like I have Tuesday night free, what about you guys?
Get out your phones.
Look at your schedules.
Let's make a plan!
But then I realize how stupid this is because none of my friends are gonna intentionally exclude me from anything.
Like if they don't invite me maybe they just don't think its my jam or maybe it was a mistake.
I know these things can happen, people just forget.
Cause I forgot 2 days ago.
I was throwing a party and my friend heard about it and messaged me and she was like, "Hey, I heard you were having this party and I'm not invited. Totally understand if you don't want me there but I think you just forgot about me?"
And she was right.
I totally did and I felt so bad and I apologized and invited her but it kind of change the way I think about it, you know.
I was like oh now instead of feeling sad and left out when people forget to invite me to things.
I'm just going to plan as many activities as possible, so then I'm constantly hanging out with people as much as I can stand them.
Is this good advice?
I don't know, but it's really working for me right now.
I'm Anna Akana.
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