Teenagers sometimes wonder

青少年常常疑惑

They only tell us we shouldn't become sexually involved

"大家都只告訴我們不應該跟性扯上關係

but they never tell us the limits.

但是他們從不告訴我們到底有哪些安全界限"

What are the limits?

究竟有哪些安全界限呢?

The problem of this question is...

這個問題點在於...

that some people think that they identify some certain limits

有些人以為他們知道這一些安全界限

that they can still get as close as to the limits as possible

所以認為他們能夠盡可能地遊走在安全限制的邊緣

and still be okay.

而不用擔心

but like rowing down a river, without knowing about a waterfall ahead

但是就好像在小河上划船， 你並不知道前方是否會有激流

Trying to get close to the limits is NOT a very smart idea.

試圖要靠近安全界限 不是 一個聰明的主意

Consider this analogy.

想想看這個比喻

The story has told a military pilot had flew his airplane in a forest area.

這個比喻提到有個空軍飛行員開著飛機飛進了森林區

Now the military had a rule that says pilots should not fly their planes close to the trees.

現在空軍有個規定 "飛行員不得將飛機開靠近有樹的地方"

It's pretty obvious why.

很明顯我們都知道為什麼.

When you arrive, and you will crash the air plane.

因為你可能會造成飛機失事

So a sailor tries to see how close to the trees he could get.

所以飛行員需要去了解他能夠多靠近那些樹木

This pilot sets a rule for himself.

所以飛行員會為自己設立一條規定

that he will stay at least 500 fts above the trees.

通常他們會保持在有樹木的地方上空至少五百呎高

In this way, he kept himself much safer.

如此一來，他能保證自己比較安全一些。

Just as a pilot can crash to the trees,

正如同飛行員會在有樹木的地方失事

we know that our emotion damages and other problems

我們也知道在婚姻以外發生了肉體的親密關係時

come from sharing physical intimacies outside of marriage.

會造成感情的傷害與其他問題

So instead of trying to ask what are the limits,

所以我們不試著去問到底安全界限在哪

we should follow standards that will keep us safe.

我們反而覺得我們應該遵守能確保我們安全的標準

For the strength of Youth provides this valuable standard.

鞏固青年 為我們提供了一項珍貴的標準

Before marriage, do not do anything to arouse the powerful emotion

在結婚以前, 我們不要做任何

that must be expressed only in marriage.

有可能會挑起只能在婚姻內能表達的強烈情感的事

In addition to For the Strength of Youth,

除了 鞏固青年以外,

listen to specific things we should not do.

也該聽聽我們不應該做的事情有哪些

It says,

有以下幾點,

Do not participate in passionate kissing.

不要激情熱吻

Lying on top of another person.

不要躺在另外一個人的身上

Touch the private sacred parts of another person's body

不要碰觸他人的私處

with or without clothing.

不管有沒有穿上衣物都不行

Or allow anyone to do that to you.

也不要讓任何人對你做以上的任何一件事

Now those things are like flying in the trees.

這些事情就好比在樹林中飛行

They all might be like flying 500 fts above the trees.

他們就都好像是在樹林上方五百呎高飛行的規定

Here is one idea that could be helpful.

這裡有個可能有用的想法

Only do things you will feel comfortable doing

只做那些在你父母親面前

in the presence of your parents.

你不會感到不自在的事情

For example, a 15-year-old could ask.

例如，十五歲的孩子可能會問

"Is it okay for me to hold hands?"

"我們牽手這樣恰當嗎?"

But maybe the question should be

但也許問題應該是

"Will I hold hands in front of my parents?"

"我會在我父母面前牽手嗎?"

You can set standards that will help you to stay pure.

你可以建立能幫助你保持純潔的標準

Elder Richard G. Scott said,

李察‧司考德長老說,

"Firmly established personal standards

"穩固地建立個人標準

choose a time of deep spiritual reflection

選定一個你沒有任何壓力

when there's no pressure on you.

並且能夠深深思考靈性

And you can confirm your decisions

且能藉由聖靈的啟發

by impressions that will come to you from the Holy Ghost.

讓你能確認你的決定的時間

Decide then what you will do and

之後再決定為了表達感覺，你會做的事

what you will not do to express feelings.

以及你不會做的事

The spirit will guide you.

聖靈會帶領你

Then do not vary from those decisions

之後就算誘惑來臨時

no matter how that may seem when the temptation comes."

都不要改變這些決定"

Consider talking with your parents to leaders

你可以跟你的父母一起找領袖

about your standards and seek their additional guidance.

談談關於你的標準並且尋求他們額外的指引

Pray and ask Heavenly Father

祈禱並向天父求問

about the standards you have set for yourself.

關於你為你自己所設立的標準

When you feel the Holy Ghost confirm your standards,

當你感覺到聖靈確認你的標準時,

you have greater power to live them.

你就會有更大的力量去遵從這些標準

Now let's review what we have discussed.

現在，我們複習一下我們剛剛談到的

Prophets have clearly taught us how to stay sexually pure.

先知已明確的教導我們如何保持性的純潔

They have given us this standard.

他們已經給予我們這項標準

Before marriage, do not do anything to arouse the powerful emotion

在結婚以前, 我們不要做任何

that must be expressed only in marriage.

有可能會挑起只能在婚姻內能表達的強烈情感的事

Just as the wise pilot keeps himself far from the trees,

正如同聰明的飛行員會讓自己遠離樹木,

we should not get close to sin.

我們也不該靠近罪惡.

You can pray and talk with God

你能祈禱並且向神訴說

about personal standards you set for yourself.

你已為自己所設立的標準

Take the time you need to really be guided by the Spirit.

花一些時間讓自己能夠真正的獲得聖靈的指引

Once you set clear standards, never deviate from them.

一旦你建立明確的標準, 就絕對不要偏離

And don't let what has happened in the past control your future.

並且不要讓過去已發生的事情掌控你的未來

If you straighten the past, you can return.

只要你整頓過去, 你必能回歸真道

In a world that's full of temptation,

在這一個充滿誘惑的世界中,

it can be challenging to stay virtuous.

要一直保有品格會是一件相當具有挑戰性的事情

but it's worth it.

但這值得付出一切努力

When you obey God's commandments with sexually pure,

當你遵守神的誡命，保有性的純潔,

you prepare yourself to make

你會準備好自己在聖殿中

and keep sacred covenants in the temple.

訂立並遵守聖約

You prepare yourself to build a strong marriage

你會準備好自己著手建立堅強的婚姻

and to bring children to the world as part of this loving family.

並養兒育女將他們帶到這個充滿愛的家庭

When we look at the big picture,

當我們看著這幅大的圖片時,

it's easy to realize that it's worth it

很容易就能理解，值得付出一切努力

to keep God's commandments to be sexually pure.

去遵守神的誡命並保有性的純潔，