and a life that you love so much. And this is Q&A Tuesday. Today’s question comes from

星期二的內容是Q&A，今天的問題來自於

Anne Marie and she writes:

Anne Marie，她寫道：

“Hi, Marie. I love your insight and coaching a ton.” Thank you. “Thanks for helping

「嗨！Marie。我非常喜愛妳的分析和經驗分喜。」謝謝你！

me so much already. As a singer-songwriter, I know what holds me back the most is fear

「謝謝妳已經給過我許多的幫助。身為一個創作型歌手，我知道阻礙我最深的是恐懼和

of criticism. I’ve been a musician long enough to know that no matter how hard I try

別人的評論。成為音樂家已久的我已經了解了，無論我多麼的努力

I will never have 100% approval rating, but in order to rise to the next level I have

我永遠得不到100%的贊同與喜愛。但為了要讓自己能夠更往上爬

to face critics. My question is, how do I not let criticism crush me and make me feel

我必須要能夠面對別人對我的批評。我的問題是：我要如何不被批評擊倒而讓自己覺得自己毫無價值？

worthless? Anne Marie.”

Anne Marie」

Oh, criticism. Crazy how scary just the thought of it can be, right? You know, this is a topic

這個想法光用想的就夠恐怖了，對吧？你知道嗎，這是一個永遠不會退流行的主題

that never gets old and I don't think it’s ever going to go away because as long as there’s

而我也覺得這永遠不會消失，因為只要

creativity there’ll be criticism of it. Now, we’ve covered this topic before and

有創意就會有批評。我們之前有針對這個主題製作過節目

I do recommend that you check out these other episodes, but I’ve got more to say on the

我建議你可以回去找找別集。但我在這個主題上有更多想要闡述的

subject specifically to you. So today I wanna look through the lens of being criticized

特別是為妳說的。今天，我想透過你的藝術被批評這件事討論

for your art and, in this case, your music. Now, this could apply to fine art, writing,

這裏的藝術指的就是你的音樂。這可以適用於美術、寫作、

sculpture, making friendship bracelets, you name it. Every creative person I know has

雕刻、製作友情手鍊，凡是你能想到的都行。每個創作的人，我知道都有

their own method of dealing and I’ve got one that you can try. But before I share it,

他們自己的處理方法，而我知道一項你可以嘗試的。在我分享前，

there’s three things that I want you to remember.

有三件事情我希望妳先記住

Number one, everything that you love is disliked by somebody. So whether it’s a movie or

第一，所有妳喜歡的事物都可能是別人不喜愛的。所以，不管是一部電影、

a book or a song or a person. And sometimes something that you love is vehemently disliked

一本書、一首歌或者是一個人。有時，妳所喜愛的東西會是

by hundreds or thousands or even millions of people. I can’t tell you how many times

或甚至是幾百萬人非常不喜歡的。我沒辦法告訴你這種事發生過多少次。

I’ve said I’ve loved a book or I love this TV show, and other people, smart people

我曾說過我喜歡某本書或是某個電視節目，但是其他人，或我所尊敬的聰明人

who I respect, think it sucks.

認為我喜歡的東西很爛。

Number two, it’s a whole lot easier to critique a thing than it is to make a thing. Critics,

第二，批評一件事比做一件事還要簡單好幾倍

whether amateur or professional, whether insulting or thoughtful, are not up on that stage singing

評論，不管是外行者或是內行者，不管是侮辱的或是委婉的，都不及於

their heart out day in and day out like you are. So before you give their opinion too

每日站在台上唱出自己的妳。所以，在妳給予他們的建議如此重要的地位前

much weight, do not forget to ask, “Oh yeah? What’s the last thing you made?”

別忘了問一聲：「妳最後做的一件事情是什麼？」

Number three, you asked how do I not let criticism crush me and make me feel worthless? I need

第三，妳詢問：我是如何不讓評論擊倒我而讓我覺得自己毫無價值的？

you to listen up here. Do not give anyone the power to make you feel worthless. Nobody.

我要你仔細聽：別給任何人有讓你覺得自己毫無價值的機會，沒有人！

As Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent,

就像Eleanor Roosevelt的名言：沒有妳的贊同，沒人能讓妳覺得妳較次等

and there’s no place that this is more true than with criticism.

任何地方都不比評論更真實

Now, here’s an exercise that I want you to try, Anne Marie. It’s called give your

現在， Anne Marie，這裡有個我想讓你嘗試的練習。這叫做

critics the mic. So not literally on the stage, but give them a voice on the page, meaning

將麥可風遞給你的批評者。這並不是如字面上所說，給他們一個舞台批評，而是僅限於紙上，這表示

in your journal or on a legal pad or on a computer, wherever you like to write privately,

這些批評只會出現在你可以保有書寫隱私的地方，像是日記、筆記本、電腦等等

I want you to go off on yourself. So write out the exact words you think it would crush

我希望你為自己動身。寫下妳認為會嚴重打擊到妳的確切字眼

you to hear. So what could anyone say about you that you would consider bad? Would they

有那些言論會讓你覺得不舒服呢？

say you’ve got a weak voice, that you’re too old to be doing this, that your songs

他們是否說妳的聲音很微弱，你太老了所以已經無法做這些事？你的歌

are just bubblegum pop, that you’re pitchy? Got that one from American Idol. Would they

就只是通俗流行音樂，或是叫你走音王？這是我從美國偶像（American Idol）裡聽到的。

say you’re a wannabe Katy Perry or a poor man’s Stevie Nicks?

他們是否說妳是Katy Perry 的崇拜者，或是有跟 Stevie Nicks一樣的沙啞嗓子？

If you’ve already heard hurtful things, you can include those. Then take a deep breath

如果你已經聽過某些傷人的話語，妳可以再把這些包含進去。

in and out and read it to yourself. Or if you’ve got a creative soul mate who just

然後深呼吸，讀這些訊息給你自己聽。或者是，如果你已經有心靈上的幫手

gets it, you can read it aloud to them. Then, boom, the worst that anyone could say about

妳可以對他們大聲的朗誦出來。然後，那些人們可能對你講出的糟糕負評，

you, you've already said. You’ve faced it. Now, I want to be clear. The point of this

你已經對自己說了。妳已經先面對了。我要聲明，這點的重點

is not to trash your self esteem. It’s to bring your fears out into the light. Because

並非在於將你的自尊心丟掉，而是讓能夠妳面對妳的恐懼

when you do that, they lose all of their power. Just like the Boogeyman. That shadow in the

因為當你做到這個，它們就全都喪失它們的力量了，就像是個惡巫

corner you thought was a big, scary ghoul turns out to be a frickin’ coat rack.

在街角妳認為是一個又大有可怕的厲鬼，結果卻變成了一個大衣架

Now, before we wrap there’s one more thing that I have to say about your art and what

現在，在我們做結論之前，我來有一件事必須要說，這是關於你的藝術創作，

people think of it.

以及人們如何看到它

Make your music for you. You are not a software engineer that needs a piece of code to work

為妳自己創作音樂。你並不是一位需要一些代碼，為了使用者而工作的軟體工程師

for an end user. That kind of creator must listen to critics to improve her product.

那種創作者就必須要聆聽批評，以改善自己的產品

Art is different. You make art because you have to make art. Make art because your soul

藝術是不一樣的。你創作是因為你得這麼做。創作是因為如果你不這麼做，

will implode if you don't. Make it because it brings you joy and exhilaration and transcendence.

靈魂就會枯竭。創作，是因為它帶給你快樂、興奮與進步

I know you’re doing this for a living, so I get that it matters what some people think

我知道你在為了生活而創作，所以我知道別人的想法對妳的重要

because you need some people to pay you. But when you’re making your art, it has to be

因為對方需要支付金錢。但當你在做自己的藝術時，這必須是要為你自己而做的

for you. Let’s finish this set with a tweetable.

讓我們用推特訊息來為這集作結吧。

If you make art, you’ll have critics. It’s easier to critique a thing than it is to make

如果你創作，你就會被批評。批評一件事遠比做一件事還要來的簡單

a thing. Or how about this one? Everything you love is disliked by somebody. That doesn't

這個如何？所有你喜歡的東西都有人會不喜歡

make it any less worth loving.

這不會因此降低這個東西被喜愛的價值

That was my A to your Q, Anne Marie. Give that exercise a try and let me know how it

Anne Marie，這是我的答案你的問題。試著練習一下並告訴我結果如何

goes. Now I would love to hear from you, and we’ve got a two-parter today. So pick one

現在，我想聽聽你在想什麼，我們今天已經介紹了兩個部分

or both. First up, if you can relate to Anne Marie’s fears give this “hand your critics

所以，吸收一個或兩個全收。第一，如果你和 Anne Marie有相似的恐懼，試試「把麥克風給批評者」的練習

the mic” exercise a try. You can do that privately or directly in the comments below.

你可以在以下的留言欄私密或公開的留言

Second, whatever you do or make, how do you keep criticism or the fear of it from crushing

第二，不管你在做什麼，你如何避免批評或恐懼擊倒你？

you?

Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,

一如往常，這集撥出後，在MarieForleo.com會有熱烈的討論。

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所以快去那並留言吧！你喜歡這部影片嗎？我非常喜歡

you did, subscribe to our channel and I would be so grateful if you shared this with your

如果你喜歡，訂閱我們的頻道，如果你將這個分享給你的好友，我會很高興的

friends. And if you want even more resources to create a business and life that you love,

如果你想要有更多的資源，以創造出你喜歡的事業和生活

plus some personal insights from me that I only talk about in email, come on over to

加入些我只在電郵中所提到的觀點

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快來MarieForleo.com，也請確認郵件的更新

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持續在你的領域耕耘，並追尋你的夢想。因為這世界需要

gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time

你所擁有的獨特天賦。非常感謝你的收看

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