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  • >> When your child is acting up, you can try to distract them

  • or get them interested in something new.

  • If that doesn't work, you can use consequences.

  • Consequences let our children see what happens

  • when they misbehave.

  • There are 5 steps to using consequences

  • to reduce misbehavior.

  • Step one, identify the misbehavior you want to stop.

  • You want your child to know what behavior you

  • like and don't like.

  • >> Emma, I am so proud of you.

  • You are being so careful with your sippy cup.

  • >> Emma: [Inaudible] --

  • >> Hey let's play some more.

  • >> Step two, give a warning.

  • >> When there is a real consequence to it

  • that you give a warning as opposed to a threat.

  • You know this is going to happen if you don't change

  • and if it doesn't change then you follow through with it.

  • >> Use if then statements such as if you don't pick

  • up your toys like I asked then you will lose play time

  • this afternoon.

  • This gives your child a second chance to comply.

  • >> One of the things we often suggest to parents is

  • to give children at least two chances to follow instructions.

  • That way you can get around the possibility that maybe

  • in the first time around they didn't hear you.

  • >> Make sure your child knows there will be a consequence

  • for not doing what you asked.

  • Step three, give a consequence.

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  • For minor misbehaviors, you can ignore the behavior

  • and not reward your child with your attention.

  • >> One of the most valuable tools

  • that parents can use is ignoring.

  • So that is absolutely critical when parents feel

  • like their kids might be acting up just to get attention.

  • Ignoring is something that is really important for parents

  • to remember that removal of that attention

  • that is really allowing the child not to get their way.

  • >> Or you can delay a privilege.

  • Where you wait to give your child something

  • such as play time until after your child does what you want.

  • Or you could use a common sense consequence

  • where the consequence fits the misbehavior.

  • For example, you could take away the toy your child keeps

  • throwing at you.

  • Or you could use natural consequences

  • where you let the child live

  • with the natural result of her actions.

  • >> Oh, now Emma your cup's on the ground.

  • And I won't be able to pick it up for a while.

  • So it'll just have to stay down there until I'm done.

  • >> Never use natural consequences

  • when they put your child's safety at risk.

  • For more serious misbehaviors, you can use timeout

  • where you put your child in a quiet place away

  • from the things she might like such as toys.

  • Step four, tell them why.

  • Make sure your child understands what they did

  • to get the consequence.

  • >> Emma this isn't play time.

  • Mommy doesn't like it when you do that.

  • >> Step five, go back to positive communication.

  • After the consequence is over, go back to talking

  • and playing positively with your child.

  • Avoid lecturing your child or holding a grudge.

  • Be sure to give your child attention

  • for their good behavior.

  • >> A common challenge using negative consequences is

  • sometimes it's a kind of an emotional moment and you --

  • parents are stuck and they don't remember what to do.

  • >> Using consequences will help you stop your child from acting

  • up and it will also help keep similar problems

  • from happening in the future.

  • When possible try to use common sense consequences.

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使用紀律和後果 (Using Discipline and Consequences)

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    Pedroli Li 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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