Now that's ok with me but is ok to keep watching porn even after you get into a relationship?

對我來說這樣很好，但是當有女朋友後繼續看A片是沒問題的嗎？

This topic was suggested to me by YAnumber6 and after thinking about it for a while I

這個主題是YAnumber6建議我的，而我想了一下後

realized that porn is both good and bad for you. First off, if your partner ever asks

發現看A片有好有壞。首先，如果你的另一半問你

you if you watch porn, don't lie. Just be honest and tell them that you do because everyone else does too.

有沒有看過 A片時，不要說謊。誠實的告訴他們你有，因為這非常普遍。

With the internet being a portal to pretty much everything, finding free porn websites is a very easy process.

隨著網路的普及，搜尋免費的成人網站變得很簡單。

But because it's so easy, it can end up being destructive.

但也因為太容易，而可能造成不好的結果。

The brain registers your level of excitement at high threshold the first time you do something,

大腦第一次會以比較高的門檻記錄你做某件事的興奮程度，

but as you do it more and more, that stimuli begins to decrease.

但是隨著你越做越多次後，那個刺激就會開始減少。

Watching porn every single day then can desensitize your idea of sex and lower your desire to actively seek it out.

因此每天看A片會是你失去對性的敏感度和降低你的性需求。

Think about it, why spend so much time getting ready to head out to your girlfriends house only to spend more time convincing her to have sex with you

想一想，當你可以坐在家裡面，一邊吃三明治一邊自己解決時，

when you can sit at home, eat a sandwich and rub one out?

為什麼還要花那麼多時間準備出門到女朋友家，並花更多時間來說服他跟你做愛？

If you're asking that question, then you sir have never felt real boobs before.

如果你有這個疑問，那肯定是你從來沒有摸過真的胸部。

Therefore, not watching porn every single day will actually increase your craving to get some.

所以，停止每天看A片可以增加你對性的渴望。

In turn your partner feels more desired and you allow your mind to rebuild that level of excitement.

同理來說，你的伴侶也會更渴望，你們便可以重建那股興奮感。

Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, but when a person uses it to mask their loneliness

不要搞錯我的意思，自慰非常正常，只是當一個人把它拿來遮掩自己的孤單

or because they feel disconnected sexually from their partner, then I think it's time the two of you need to talk about it.

或是因為覺得與另一半在性方面脫節時，那就是你們兩人要溝通的時候了。

The problem with porn is that it's an industry built on unrealistic expectations of women and man's desire to control them.

A片的問題是在於，這個產業是建立在男人對女人不切實際的期望及想控制的渴望上。

In porn women are extremely hyper sexual all the time, they can give a damn about talking to the guy.

在A片中，女人總是非常性奮，而且他們超愛跟男人說話。

And remember those boobs I said you would enjoy? Yeah, the girls in porn don't really have those.

還記得我說過你會喜歡的胸部嗎？A片女星的胸部可不像那樣。

It's because of these ideal standards set by porn, that the average girl is insecure and feels like she could never measure up to these porn stars.

這些A片所建立的理想讓一般女孩感到不安，覺得自己永遠比不上那些AV女優

What do you mean in real life sometimes the girl doesn't feel like she's in the mood or that she wants to talk to me like I'm a person.

而A片女星可能會讓你搞不懂為何有女孩正常說話或說自己沒心情做愛，因為他們根本不這樣演

If you're in a relationship with someone who watches a lot of porn, don't worry about it.

如果你交往的對象看很多A片，請不用太擔心。

For most guys, it's just a passing thing. Yeah they may have a few favorite porn stars,

對大部份的男人來說，這只是一時之間的事情。他們有可能有幾個喜歡的AV女優，

but as long as their viewing experience doesn't interfere with their relationship, it's just a harmless activity.

但只要他們看A片不會影響到你們的關係，這真的只是一件無害的活動。

What do you guys think, should a person give up watching porn just because they're in a relationship?

你們覺得一個人有交往的對象就該放棄看A片嗎？

Leave your comments below so we can talk about it.

請在下面留言，我們才能一起討論。

The biggest issues most couples face when they discover that their partner is watching porn is dishonesty.

「不誠實」是大部份的情侶在發現自己的另一半會看A片時面臨最大的問題。

If they're hiding it or lying about it then they just might be embarrassed to admit that they do it.

如果他們隱匿或是說謊，可能是因為他們太害羞不敢承認他們有在看。

Either way, always be willing to talk things out with your partner,

不管怎麼樣，隨時和自己的另一半溝通，

and if you read slut novels guess what, that counts as porn too. As always guys, love and peace.

而如果你看色情小說的話，那也是A片的一種。記得，我愛你們。

Hey thanks for watching, if you're new to the channel make sure to hit the subscribe button below.

謝謝收看，如果你是新來的請記得按下方訂閱的按鈕。

Also if you enjoyed the video, click the like button now.

另外，如果你喜歡這個影片，現在就按讃吧。

I make new videos every Tuesday and Friday on a range of different topics including self help, dating, philosophy and more.

我每個星期二和五會做新的影片，內容包括自我提升、約會、哲學等。

Plus if you want exclusive stories and tips that I don't share in my videos make sure to sign up for The Josh Speaks Newsletter.

如果你想要獨家的訣竅的話，請一定要訂閱 The Josh Speaks 電子報。

It's jammed pack full of information, the link is in the description below.

電子報連結在下面。