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Today I want to talk to you about the mathematics of love.
Now, I think that we can all agree
that mathematicians are famously excellent at finding love.
But it's not just because of our dashing personalities,
superior conversational skills and excellent pencil cases.
It's also because we've actually done an awful lot of work into the maths
of how to find the perfect partner.
Now, in my favorite paper on the subject, which is entitled,
"Why I Don't Have a Girlfriend" -- (Laughter) --
Peter Backus tries to rate his chances of finding love.
Now, Peter's not a very greedy man.
Of all of the available women in the U.K.,
all Peter's looking for is somebody who lives near him,
somebody in the right age range,
somebody with a university degree,
somebody he's likely to get on well with,
somebody who's likely to be attractive,
somebody who's likely to find him attractive.
(Laughter)
And comes up with an estimate of 26 women in the whole of the UK.
It's not looking very good, is it Peter?
Now, just to put that into perspective,
that's about 400 times fewer than the best estimates
of how many intelligent extraterrestrial life forms there are.
And it also gives Peter a 1 in 285,000 chance
of bumping into any one of these special ladies
on a given night out.
I'd like to think that's why mathematicians
don't really bother going on nights out anymore.
The thing is that I personally
don't subscribe to such a pessimistic view.
Because I know, just as well as all of you do,
that love doesn't really work like that.
Human emotion isn't neatly ordered and rational and easily predictable.
But I also know that that doesn't mean
that mathematics hasn't got something that it can offer us
because, love, as with most of life, is full of patterns
and mathematics is, ultimately, all about the study of patterns.
Patterns from predicting the weather to the fluctuations in the stock market,
to the movement of the planets or the growth of cities.
And if we're being honest, none of those things
are exactly neatly ordered and easily predictable, either.
Because I believe that mathematics is so powerful that it has the potential
to offer us a new way of looking at almost anything.
Even something as mysterious as love.
And so, to try to persuade you
of how totally amazing, excellent and relevant mathematics is,
I want to give you my top three mathematically verifiable tips for love.
Okay, so Top Tip #1:
How to win at online dating.
So my favorite online dating website is OkCupid,
not least because it was started by a group of mathematicians.
Now, because they're mathematicians,
they have been collecting data
on everybody who uses their site for almost a decade.
And they've been trying to search for patterns
in the way that we talk about ourselves
and the way that we interact with each other
on an online dating website.
And they've come up with some seriously interesting findings.
But my particular favorite
is that it turns out that on an online dating website,
how attractive you are does not dictate how popular you are,
and actually, having people think that you're ugly
can work to your advantage.
Let me show you how this works.
In a thankfully voluntary section of OkCupid,
you are allowed to rate how attractive you think people are
on a scale between 1 and 5.
Now, if we compare this score, the average score,
to how many messages a selection of people receive,
you can begin to get a sense
of how attractiveness links to popularity on an online dating website.
This is the graph that the OkCupid guys have come up with.
And the important thing to notice is that it's not totally true
that the more attractive you are, the more messages you get.
But the question arises then of what is it about people up here
who are so much more popular than people down here,
even though they have the same score of attractiveness?
And the reason why is that it's not just straightforward looks that are important.
So let me try to illustrate their findings with an example.
So if you take someone like Portia de Rossi, for example,
everybody agrees that Portia de Rossi is a very beautiful woman.
Nobody thinks that she's ugly, but she's not a supermodel, either.
If you compare Portia de Rossi to someone like Sarah Jessica Parker,
now, a lot of people, myself included, I should say,
think that Sarah Jessica Parker is seriously fabulous
and possibly one of the most beautiful creatures
to have ever have walked on the face of the Earth.
But some other people, i.e., most of the Internet,
seem to think that she looks a bit like a horse. (Laughter)
Now, I think that if you ask people how attractive they thought
Sarah Jessica Parker or Portia de Rossi were,
and you ask them to give them a score between 1 and 5,
I reckon that they'd average out to have roughly the same score.
But the way that people would vote would be very different.
So Portia's scores would all be clustered around the 4
because everybody agrees that she's very beautiful,
whereas Sarah Jessica Parker completely divides opinion.
There'd be a huge spread in her scores.
And actually it's this spread that counts.
It's this spread that makes you more popular
on an online Internet dating website.
So what that means then
is that if some people think that you're attractive,
you're actually better off
having some other people think that you're a massive minger.
That's much better than everybody just thinking
that you're the cute girl next door.
Now, I think this begins makes a bit more sense
when you think in terms of the people who are sending these messages.
So let's say that you think somebody's attractive,
but you suspect that other people won't necessarily be that interested.
That means there's less competition for you
and it's an extra incentive for you to get in touch.
Whereas compare that to if you think somebody is attractive
but you suspect that everybody is going to think they're attractive.
Well, why would you bother humiliating yourself, let's be honest?
Here's where the really interesting part comes.
Because when people choose the pictures that they use on an online dating website,
they often try to minimize the things
that they think some people will find unattractive.
The classic example is people who are, perhaps, a little bit overweight
deliberately choosing a very cropped photo,
or bald men, for example,
deliberately choosing pictures where they're wearing hats.
But actually this is the opposite of what you should do
if you want to be successful.
You should really, instead, play up to whatever it is that makes you different,
even if you think that some people will find it unattractive.
Because the people who fancy you are just going to fancy you anyway,
and the unimportant losers who don't, well, they only play up to your advantage.
Okay, Top Tip #2: How to pick the perfect partner.
So let's imagine then that you're a roaring success
on the dating scene.
But the question arises of how do you then convert that success
into longer-term happiness and in particular,
how do you decide when is the right time to settle down?
Now generally, it's not advisable to just cash in
and marry the first person who comes along
and shows you any interest at all.
But, equally, you don't really want to leave it too long
if you want to maximize your chance of long-term happiness.
As my favorite author, Jane Austen, puts it,
"An unmarried woman of seven and twenty
can never hope to feel or inspire affection again."
(Laughter)
Thanks a lot, Jane. What do you know about love?
So the question is then,
how do you know when is the right time to settle down
given all the people that you can date in your lifetime?
Thankfully, there's a rather delicious bit of mathematics that we can use
to help us out here, called optimal stopping theory.
So let's imagine then,
that you start dating when you're 15
and ideally, you'd like to be married by the time that you're 35.
And there's a number of people
that you could potentially date across your lifetime,
and they'll be at varying levels of goodness.
Now the rules are that once you cash in and get married,
you can't look ahead to see what you could have had,
and equally, you can't go back and change your mind.
In my experience at least,
I find that typically people don't much like being recalled
years after being passed up for somebody else, or that's just me.
So the math says then that what you should do
in the first 37 percent of your dating window,
you should just reject everybody as serious marriage potential.
(Laughter)
And then, you should pick the next person that comes along
that is better than everybody that you've seen before.
So here's the example.
Now if you do this, it can be mathematically proven, in fact,
that this is the best possible way
of maximizing your chances of finding the perfect partner.
Now unfortunately, I have to tell you that this method does come with some risks.
For instance, imagine if your perfect partner appeared
during your first 37 percent.
Now, unfortunately, you'd have to reject them.
(Laughter)
Now, if you're following the maths,
I'm afraid no one else comes along
that's better than anyone you've seen before,
so you have to go on rejecting everyone and die alone.
(Laughter)
Probably surrounded by cats nibbling at your remains.
Okay, another risk is, let's imagine, instead,
that the first people that you dated in your first 37 percent
are just incredibly dull, boring, terrible people.
Now, that's okay, because you're in your rejection phase,
so thats fine, you can reject them.
But then imagine, the next person to come along
is just marginally less boring, dull and terrible
than everybody that you've seen before.
Now, if you are following the maths, I'm afraid you have to marry them
and end up in a relationship which is, frankly, suboptimal.
Sorry about that.
But I do think that there's an opportunity here
for Hallmark to cash in on and really cater for this market.
A Valentine's Day card like this. (Laughter)
"My darling husband, you are marginally less terrible
than the first 37 percent of people I dated."
It's actually more romantic than I normally manage.
Okay, so this method doesn't give you a 100 percent success rate,
but there's no other possible strategy that can do any better.
And actually, in the wild, there are certain types
of fish which follow and employ this exact strategy.
So they reject every possible suitor that turns up
in the first 37 percent of the mating season,
and then they pick the next fish that comes along after that window
that's, I don't know, bigger and burlier
than all of the fish that they've seen before.
I also think that subconsciously, humans, or we do sort of do this anyway.
We have to give ourselves a little bit of time to play the field,
get a feel for the marketplace or whatever when we're young.
And then we only start looking seriously at potential marriage candidates
once we hit our mid-to-late 20s.
I think this is conclusive proof, if ever it were needed,
that everybody's brains are prewired to be just a little bit mathematical.
Okay, so that was Top Tip #2.
Now, Top Tip #3: How to avoid divorce.
Okay, so let's imagine then that you picked your perfect partner
and you're settling into a lifelong relationship with them.
Now, I like to think that everybody would ideally like to avoid divorce,
apart from, I don't know, Piers Morgan's wife, maybe?
But it's a sad fact of modern life
that 1 in 2 marriages in the States ends in divorce,
with the rest of the world not being far behind.
Now, you can be forgiven, perhaps
for thinking that the arguments that precede a marital breakup
are not an ideal candidate for mathematical investigation.
For one thing, it's very hard to know
what you should be measuring or what you should be quantifying.
But this didn't stop a psychologist, John Gottman, who did exactly that.
Gottman observed hundreds of couples having a conversation
and recorded, well, everything you can think of.
So he recorded what was said in the conversation,
he recorded their skin conductivity,
he recorded their facial expressions,
their heart rates, their blood pressure,
basically everything apart from whether or not the wife was actually always right,
which incidentally she totally is.
But what Gottman and his team found
was that one of the most important predictors
for whether or not a couple is going to get divorced
was how positive or negative each partner was being in the conversation.
Now, couples that were very low-risk
scored a lot more positive points on Gottman's scale than negative.
Whereas bad relationships,
by which I mean, probably going to get divorced,
they found themselves getting into a spiral of negativity.
Now just by using these very simple ideas,
Gottman and his group were able to predict
whether a given couple was going to get divorced
with a 90 percent accuracy.
But it wasn't until he teamed up with a mathematician, James Murray,
that they really started to understand
what causes these negativity spirals and how they occur.
And the results that they found
I think are just incredibly impressively simple and interesting.
So these equations, they predict how the wife or husband is going to respond
in their next turn of the conversation,
how positive or negative they're going to be.
And these equations, they depend on
the mood of the person when they're on their own,
the mood of the person when they're with their partner,
but most importantly, they depend on
how much the husband and wife influence one another.
Now, I think it's important to point out at this stage,
that these exact equations have also been shown
to be perfectly able at describing
what happens between two countries in an arms race.
(Laughter)
So that -- an arguing couple spiraling into negativity
and teetering on the brink of divorce --
is actually mathematically equivalent to the beginning of a nuclear war.
(Laughter)
But the really important term in this equation
is the influence that people have on one another,
and in particular, something called the negativity threshold.
Now, the negativity threshold,
you can think of as how annoying the husband can be
before the wife starts to get really pissed off, and vice versa.
Now, I always thought that good marriages were about compromise and understanding
and allowing the person to have the space to be themselves.
So I would have thought that perhaps the most successful relationships
were ones where there was a really high negativity threshold.
Where couples let things go
and only brought things up if they really were a big deal.
But actually, the mathematics and subsequent findings by the team
have shown the exact opposite is true.
The best couples, or the most successful couples,
are the ones with a really low negativity threshold.
These are the couples that don't let anything go unnoticed
and allow each other some room to complain.
These are the couples that are continually trying to repair their own relationship,
that have a much more positive outlook on their marriage.
Couples that don't let things go
and couples that don't let trivial things end up being a really big deal.
Now of course, it takes a bit more than just a low negativity threshold
and not compromising to have a successful relationship.
But I think that it's quite interesting
to know that there is really mathematical evidence
to say that you should never let the sun go down on your anger.
So those are my top three tips
of how maths can help you with love and relationships.
But I hope that aside from their use as tips,
they also give you a little bit of insight into the power of mathematics.
Because for me, equations and symbols aren't just a thing.
They're a voice that speaks out about the incredible richness of nature
and the startling simplicity
in the patterns that twist and turn and warp and evolve all around us,
from how the world works to how we behave.
So I hope that perhaps, for just a couple of you,
a little bit of insight into the mathematics of love
can persuade you to have a little bit more love for mathematics.
Thank you.
(Applause)
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