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  • (music)

  • Hal: The first time I have him out alone really.

  • (door shuts)

  • (drum beat)

  • That's the wrong lever, come on ...

  • (drum beat)

  • Come on, you bitch!

  • Buddy, you awake?

  • Behind the glasses, he was like ...

  • Michael: My guru, [uintelligible],

  • he came up with a concept of what he called

  • "the good-enough parent" and it was his effort

  • to try and say to parents,

  • "You don't have to be perfect," which means

  • somewhat self-forgiving and to know that

  • you made mistakes.

  • Every other parent has made mistakes because

  • that's why the good Lord sent us children,

  • to mess with our brains, right?

  • (laughter)

  • (theme music)

  • Bryan: It's the one job we have where there's

  • no pretraining, really.

  • You just have to be there and do it.

  • It's a hard job.

  • You love it, but you don't have any tests to take,

  • you just dive in.

  • It's an enjoyable work and a work in progress.

  • Voiceover: Are there any mistakes you feel you made,

  • any regrets, any moments you're like,

  • "Oh jeez?"

  • JK: Oh yeah, oh every day.

  • Mike: There were thousands of things,

  • not only that I though I did wrong,

  • that I did wrong.

  • Neil: We spend the first year of a kid's life

  • teaching them to walk and talk ...

  • And the rest of their lives telling them to shut up and sit down.

  • (laughter)

  • Doug: I think one time I threatened to take a hammer

  • and smash his Wii if that's what he's

  • going to continue to do. (laughs)

  • Rainn: I thought refrigerators had a handle

  • on the inside so the kids could let themselves out.

  • I guess any of the regret that I have is

  • refrigerating Walter, what ...

  • I have tons of regrets, are you kidding me?

  • (subway sounds)

  • Willie: I lost Nathan on the subway.

  • We get on the platform and there's a train there,

  • and he's running for the door and I'm like,

  • "Go ahead, go ahead," but that's where [inaudible],

  • so I'm going through this door,

  • he runs to that door, when he gets to the door,

  • he changed his mind, stopped and turned

  • to go to this door, I'm standing in the car

  • (laughs) and the doors close.

  • I go to the next stop.

  • Every scenario is going through my head;

  • is he gonna go upstairs?

  • Is he gonna get on another train?

  • Is he gonna go try and call me,

  • but of course my phone doesn't work in the subway,

  • on and on, I'm a mess.

  • A train comes pretty quickly and I go down

  • and he's standing there with an old Chinese man.

  • I'm hugging him and squeeze-,

  • and all I can say is thank God he wasn't with a Korean.

  • Voiceover: Yeah.

  • Willie: Exactly.

  • (music)

  • Hal: All right, Pally. Is anything squished in there?

  • Cynthia: Some of it, you do have to make mistakes.

  • A lot of parents have children later,

  • they've had careers where they know

  • exactly what do to and they excel at it,

  • and then this child comes and

  • they don't know what they're doing.

  • Voiceover: Yeah.

  • Cynthia: They face that inadequacy and

  • all of that shows up and they don't know

  • how to handle it.

  • Bryan: That's to thing they tell young parents

  • that, "It's okay. It's okay. Make little mistakes,

  • it's all right, you're going to do that.

  • Don't think you have to be perfect.

  • You'll learn along with your child and

  • you'll be just fine."

  • Voiceover: My wife was eight months pregnant

  • when we moved up to the suburbs and

  • we got a house with an alarm system.

  • Two mornings a week, one of us would open the door and

  • WHOOP! WHOOP!

  • So his first year of his life being awakened like

  • he was on a nuclear submarine.

  • (rushing water sound)

  • (music)

  • Hal: He's looking at everything but the ducks.

  • Joshua: My son, at five or six, was having

  • a ridiculous meltdown about something,

  • freaking out and screaming,

  • "AAH!AAH!" and he turned away for a second

  • and I'm (mouths), "Shut the fuck up," to my wife

  • and she laughed and I made the horrible mistake

  • of going for two ...

  • Voiceover: Ooh ...

  • Joshua: And the second one, he was like,

  • "You told me to shut the fuck up,"

  • and I turned to my wife ...

  • And she was like, "I can't believe you did that."

  • I'm like, "You laughed at the first one!"

  • Instant sell-out!

  • Wendy: A perfect environment with no mistakes

  • is not the way to raise a child to prepare him for life.

  • Jean: To be able to admit that you know what,

  • "I'm sorry I yelled. I shouldn't have done that.

  • I should have found a different way of talking to you,"

  • is always a good thing to tell children.

  • Michael: Kate, when parents come to me

  • and it's often a business kind of parent,

  • and they want the bottom line, they say,

  • "But tell me one thing, just give me the one thing,"

  • you just know you're with a business person.

  • I say, "Enjoy it. Enjoy your child. Enjoy your child."

  • Katie: [inaudible]

  • Voiceover: An outcome.

  • (music)

  • Phil: My biggest regret, ever, the moment

  • that killed me was he was bullied at camp.

  • He was like nine years old.

  • I said, "You gotta go, Ben, the bus is here.

  • I told you how to handle it and

  • you're gonna handle it. I know you'll be great.

  • Come on," and I was a wreck because

  • he really didn't want to go.

  • It was the toughest thing I ever did as a parent ...

  • To this day.

  • Years later, I told him how I felt about this,

  • that this was the toughest moment ever as a parent,

  • he didn't remember it!

  • (laughing)

  • Doesn't remember being bullied, doesn't remember ...

  • So go [inaudible].

  • (theme music)

  • Hal: How do you think this works? That's not it.

  • That is really not it ...

  • But I just locked the wheels so I can't push it anymore.

  • Yeah, how did this collapse?

(music)

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