Name: #AskKelly | 我要搬回美國嗎？🇺🇸 在日本分娩的恐懼？在線業務諮詢 👩💻 (#AskKelly | Am I Moving Back to America? 🇺🇸 Fear of Childbirth in Japan? Online Business Advice 👩💻)
Uploaded: 2025-09-28T18:41:58.000Z
Duration: 25 min 55 s

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something that I didn't want to be in that constant cycle with is like, do I truly want to live here forever?

我不想一直處於這種循環中，我真的想永遠住在這裡嗎？

I had to really visualize and envision, is this the place for me?

我必須真正地想象和設想：這是適合我的地方嗎？

So we're going to be doing this on the floor.

I have been meaning to do a Q&A for a long time, so we're going to try to answer the most asked questions and some that are very new and I feel like there's not a lot of people that have answered this question in this space.

我一直想做一個問答，所以我們將嘗試回答問得最多的問題和一些非常新的問題，我覺得在這個領域回答過這個問題的人並不多。

So one of the most asked questions is, are you moving back to the States?

問得最多的一個問題是，你要搬回美國嗎？

And I did talk about this pretty early on about how we decided that we didn't want to stay in Japan and we wanted to settle down in the States.

我很早就說過，我們不想留在日本，想在美國定居。

And that still stands, that is still very much true.

這句話依然有效，依然非常正確。

But the thing is, I can't answer too much yet because it was only a decision that we made and it's not something that has been put into action yet.

但問題是，我現在還不能回答太多，因為這只是我們做出的決定，還沒有付諸行動。

My husband just got a new job, so we're planning on staying here for at least a couple more years.

我丈夫剛找到一份新工作，所以我們打算在這裡至少再住幾年。

Our lifestyle ideals and the place that we imagine ourselves in, Japan doesn't have that lifestyle that we are really seeking and looking for.

我們的生活方式理想和我們想象中的地方，日本沒有我們真正追求和尋找的那種生活方式。

And there are many factors that go into this.

We just really love the amount of options that we have when it comes to food, especially for me, having a lot of health conditions and allergies and who knows, our kids could have allergies too.

我們非常喜歡在食物方面有這麼多的選擇，尤其是對我來說，我有很多健康問題和過敏症，誰知道我們的孩子會不會也有過敏症呢？

You never know, but I feel like America has more of a variety of choices when it comes to food.

你永遠不知道，但我覺得美國在食品方面有更多的選擇。

We miss like walking into like a Whole Foods or a Trader Joe's and things like that.

我們懷念走進全食超市（Whole Foods）或喬氏超市（Trader Joe's）之類的地方。

And we talk about it quite often, me and him, because again, my husband, if you guys don't know and you're new here, my husband lived in California for I think about eight or nine years, similar to me living here in Japan for about the same amount of time.

我們經常談論這件事，我和他，因為我丈夫，如果你們不知道，如果你們是新來的，我丈夫在加州住了八九年，和我在日本住的時間差不多。

Whenever I go back home, I miss, you know, central heating.

每次回家，我都會想念中央供暖系統。

I miss having a backyard and a lawn and a possible pool and things like that.

我懷念有後院、草坪、游泳池之類的地方。

And if you think about it, and I think there's a lot of people that are here that don't think about these things.

如果你仔細想想，我想在座的很多人都沒有想過這些事情。

And that is where do you see yourself in the next 10 years?

您認為自己未來 10 年的發展方向是什麼？

But like, where do you want to be when you're in your 80s or 90s or you're on your deathbed?

但是，當你耄耋之年或臨終前，你想在哪裡？

You know, these types of things you have to think about.

你知道，這類事情你必須考慮清楚。

And I, a thousand percent did not see myself after really sitting and thinking about it.

而我，在真正坐下來思考之後，千真萬確沒有看到自己。

And a long time ago, I was like, Oh yeah, I'm going to live here.

很久以前，我就想，哦，是的，我要住在這裡。

I didn't see myself, my little old lady self walking down the street, getting on a train.

我沒有看到我自己，我這個小老太太走在街上，坐上火車。

We also don't love the education system here.

我們也不喜歡這裡的教育系統。

I think when you raise kids up until the age of four, it's great here.

我認為，當你把孩子撫養到四歲時，這裡就很不錯了。

There's just a lot, there's more that I can say on this.

I feel like this is a whole video in itself, but we didn't see us raising kids here.

我覺得這本身就是一個完整的視頻，但我們沒有看到我們在這裡養育孩子。

We wanted a bigger home, more space, more land.

我們想要更大的房子、更大的空間、更多的土地。

My husband has more job opportunities and potential to like move up in workplaces and things like that compared to here.

與這裡相比，我丈夫有更多的工作機會和潛力，比如在工作場所晉升之類的。

But again, like we aren't leaving anytime soon.

但我還是那句話，就像我們不會很快離開一樣。

And I feel like when you're married, you have to think about these things.

我覺得當你結婚了，你就必須考慮這些事情。

You have to figure out, okay, well, where do you want to thrive for the rest of your life?

你必須想清楚，好吧，你想在哪裡度過餘生？

你希望自己的工作生活如何發展？

And how do you want your family life to go?

你希望自己的家庭生活如何發展？

I think a lot of people are like, well, what about, you know, your husband?

我想很多人都會問，那你的丈夫怎麼辦？

What about your mother and father-in-law?

Our parents are the most supportive parents on the planet earth.

我們的父母是地球上最支持我們的父母。

My husband is the most supportive husband.

His family is supportive in any decision that we make.

他的家人支持我們做出的任何決定。

I think there's a lot behind the scenes that we discuss that I don't talk about here.

我認為，我們在幕後討論的很多事情，我都沒有在這裡說。

This was something that we've decided together.

And I think that's the most important thing in a relationship and in a marriage.

我認為這是戀愛和婚姻中最重要的事情。

And we dream of doing road trips with our kids someday.

我們夢想著有一天能和孩子們一起進行公路旅行。

And we kind of made a list of the pros and the cons of living in both places.

我們列出了在這兩個地方生活的利弊清單。

It's not as safe in America, in my opinion.

That's the only fear that I have is, you know, I left out of college.

我唯一擔心的是，我從大學輟學了。

I have no idea how to adult in the States.

So it's going to be a challenge, lots of reverse culture shock.

是以，這將是一個挑戰，會有很多反向文化衝擊。

And that's the other thing is there's a lot of aspects here.

還有一點就是，這裡有很多方面。

And this is something that's not normally talked about.

There's a lot of people in denial about their needs and wants of potentially moving back home or moving to another country and not always live and not living here for the rest of their life.

很多人對自己的需求和願望持否定態度，認為自己可能會搬回家或搬到另一個國家，不會一直住在這裡，也不會一輩子住在這裡。

And they're afraid to kind of like pick up their life again and move back and restart.

他們害怕重新拾起生活，重新開始。

And that is something that I didn't want to be in that constant cycle with is like, do I truly want to live here forever?

我不想一直這樣循環下去，我真的想永遠住在這裡嗎？

And I think a lot of expats have a hard time facing that is I really truly want to move back home and I want to do something else, but I'm afraid because everyone back home moved on.

我想很多外籍人士都很難面對這樣的問題，那就是我真的很想搬回家鄉，我想做別的事情，但我害怕，因為家鄉的每個人都在向前發展。

這有時會讓外籍人士感到害怕。

So they end up staying here and feeling bitter about their experience as they continue to move forward in this country.

是以，他們最終留在了這裡，並對自己在這個國家繼續前行的經歷感到痛苦。

There's a lot of people that opt to stay here and they love it.

很多人選擇住在這裡，他們喜歡這裡。

But you really have to ask yourself these questions and sit with yourself and really be honest with yourself.

但你真的必須問自己這些問題，與自己坐在一起，真正對自己誠實。

I don't want to always have that fear of America.

You stay here and you watch the news all the time.

When I see what's going on in America, I'm like, oh my God, this is insane.

當我看到美國發生的一切時，我想，天哪，這太瘋狂了。

But there's also a lot of things here that are happening here that are negative and not always the best.

但這裡也發生了很多負面的事情，而且並不總是最好的。

A lot of the times Japan hides a lot of the bad news and things like that.

很多時候，日本會隱藏很多壞消息之類的東西。

But the media is very different in America compared to Japan.

但美國的媒體與日本相比有很大不同。

So I see what's going on in the States and I'm like, is this really where I want to go?

是以，我看到美國的情況後就想，這真的是我想去的地方嗎？

But at the end of the day, you have to figure out, okay, what kind of lifestyle do you want to live?

但歸根結底，你必須想清楚，你想要什麼樣的生活方式？

Where do you feel your kids will have the most opportunity in the end?

您覺得您的孩子最終會在哪裡獲得最多的機會？

Even if we didn't have kids, I feel like we would still move back to the States and settle down.

即使我們沒有孩子，我覺得我們還是會搬回美國定居下來。

And that's just collectively our decision and what we felt was going to make us the happiest in the end.

這只是我們的集體決定，也是我們認為最終會讓我們最幸福的決定。

And I have to retrain myself when I do move back.

當我搬回來時，我必須重新訓練自己。

I was the one that was hesitating on potentially moving back to the States out of fear.

我就是那個因為害怕而猶豫是否要搬回美國的人。

But my husband was the one who was the one that really wants to go back.

但我丈夫才是那個真正想回去的人。

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