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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love. And today I wanna teach you 2 magical words that can help you win

  • any argument fast. Now, when I say win, I don't mean win in the traditional sense where

  • someone else admits defeat and they give you what you want. I mean win in the real sense

  • where you and the person that you have a conflict with get things kinda neutralized and you

  • find a sense of peace and resolution and mutual respect. Now, whether it’s your spouse,

  • who you actually love, or some random clown biscuit online, most of us have to deal with

  • confrontation from time to time, so we might as well get good at it.

  • Now, our natural instincts, or at least mine, because I’m from Jersey, are to get defensive

  • and retaliate and make the other person look like a moron. Basically, tear them a new butthole

  • the size of the Holland tunnel. Now, as great as that may feel in the moment, it is clearly

  • not the best way to handle things. So what are those two magical words?

  • No, the two magical words are, “You're right!” Responding to any confrontation with the words

  • youre right is instantly disarming. I mean, it immediately turns down the heat almost

  • on a cellular level. And you can test this out with a friend right now and you won’t

  • even need a conflict. Just have your friend say to you, “Youre right,” and notice

  • how it feels.

  • Now, in a real conflict, this requires you to step into another person’s shoes and

  • see things from their point of view. And then you have to genuinely find a way to agree

  • with what theyre experiencing or what theyre feeling. And let’s face it, in 99% of conflicts,

  • both people are right from their respective perspectives. Now, I know this is hard to

  • admit. Sometimes it’s hard to find this place of seeing where they're right in the

  • heat of the moment, but the faster we can get there, the less stress well have, the

  • less conflict well have, and the more connection well have.

  • Now you may be saying to yourself, “That sounds great Marie. But what if I don't actually

  • agree and what if I wanna get my point across too?” Here’s what you do. You say, “Youre

  • right. I see exactly how you feel that way. It is,” upsetting, frustrating, annoying.

  • Fill in the blank. Then take a moment and add on with something neutral like, “Another

  • perspective to consider is this.” Or, “Another way to look at this situation is this.”

  • Or, “You know, I’d love to share what I’m feeling from my point of view.”

  • Yes, this takes some finessing and practice, but OMG is it worth it. So the next time you

  • get into it with somebody, remember these two powerful words and this tweetable.

  • Sayingyoure rightdoesn't mean youre wrong.”

  • Now I would love to hear from you. None of us like conflict, but it does come up from

  • time to time. Do you have another approach that helps you diffuse tension?

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

  • there and leave a comment now.

  • Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to my channel and share it with all of your

  • friends. And if you want even more great advice to create a business and life that you love,

  • plus some personal insights from me that I only talk about in email, get yourself over

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Stay on your game and keep going for your

  • dreams because the world needs that special gift that only you have. Thank you so much

  • for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

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