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  • Any true relationship between friends or significant others should be one between equals.

    任何一段真摯的感情,不論是友情還是愛情,都應該是對等的。

  • You give and take equally.

    付出與接受的應該一樣多。

  • One person's needs aren't met over another's.

    一方的需求不應該讓另一方負荷不了。

  • Friends and partners are supposed to give you energy, lift you up when you're down, and want the best for you.

    朋友和伴侶應該要給你力量,在低落時拉你一把並為你著想。

  • But sometimes we get into relationships that drain energy from us.

    但我們有時候會陷入消耗精力的感情中。

  • These are toxic relationships and they can negatively affect all aspects of our lives.

    那些就是有毒的人際關係,會為我們生活各個面向帶來負面的影響。

  • On this week's well cast, we're gonna show you how you can tell if you're even in a toxic relationship and then we're gonna help you extricate yourself from that unhealthy situation pronto.

    本週,我們會告訴你如何分辨自己是否身處毒性關係中,然後幫助你盡快脫離那種不健康的環境。

  • Selfie 1 : Diagnose the relationship.

    一、感情診斷。

  • How do you know if a friend or partner is bringing you down

    要怎麼知道你的朋友或另一半是不是在拖垮你?

  • Well, in much the same way that you know that you're coming down with a cold, toxic relationships come with symptoms.

    跟感覺得到自己快感冒差不多,毒性關係也有徵兆。

  • When you're around this person, how do you feel?

    跟這個人在一起時,你是什麼感覺?

  • Here are a few other questions you should ask yourself if you're thinking you might be in a toxic situation.

    如果覺得自己可能身處於毒性關係之中,你應該問問自己以下幾個問題。

  • Does my friend put me down all the time?

    我的朋友是否總是貶低我?

  • Are they jealous when I spend time with others ?

    我跟別人相處時他們是否會嫉妒?

  • Do they constantly bring up parts of me that they wanna change ?

    他們是否經常提起他們想要改變我的地方?

  • Do they take more than they give?

    比起獲得的,他們的付出是否較少?

  • Am I only doing the things that they wanna do?

    自己是否只做他們想做的事?

  • Selfie 2: Recognize your role in the relationship.

    二、認清自己在一段感情中的角色。

  • As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent."

    正如愛蓮娜·羅斯福所說:「沒有人能讓你感到自卑,除非你允許他們這樣做」。

  • Alright, look, we know we got that from Princess Diaries, obviouslymoving on...

    好吧,這顯然是電影《麻雀變公主》的台詞,繼續往下看…

  • Listen, you have autonomy in every relationship in your life.

    聽好了,你在人生中每段感情中都有自主權。

  • If your friend or partner is stealing your sunshine, you need to figure out what you're doing to allow them to do this.

    如果你的朋友或另一半讓你不再開朗,你得搞清楚自己為什麼准許他們這麼做。

  • Are you being a doormat ?

    你是不是太逆來順受了?

  • Are you putting this person's emotional needs ahead of your own health?

    你是不是把這個人的情感需求看得比自己的健康還重?

  • Selfie 3: Start to build boundaries for this relationship.

    三、開始劃清這段感情的界線。

  • Does your friend invite themself over at all hours of the night?

    你的朋友總是不顧時間不請自來?

  • Are they constantly bossing you around ?

    他是不是一直對你頤指氣使?

  • Are they always borrowing money from you?

    是不是總是跟你借錢?

  • Alright, once you know the boundary that you wanna set, stick to it.

    一旦認清想劃清的界線,就得堅持。

  • Draw your line in the sand.

    把界線劃清楚。

  • Selfie 4: Recognize: You can't change other people, but you can stop being a doormat.

    四、知道自己不能改變別人,但可以選擇不再任人宰割。

  • If you've determined that a friendship or a relationship is toxic, you know that you have to change the nature of that relationship.

    如果你已經認定一段友誼或一段感情是有害的,就必須改變這段關係的狀態。

  • Start by spending less time with that person and do your best to detach yourself emotionally.

    你可以開始減少跟這個人相處時間,然後盡全力抽離自己的情感。

  • Hopefully, setting boundaries will help you begin to phase this relationship out.

    順利的話,劃清界線可以幫助你慢慢疏離這段感情。

  • Selfie 5: Get a second opinion.

    五、詢求他人意見。

  • Especially if you're emotionally vulnerable, the best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who love you and who want you to be happy and healthy.

    尤其在情感脆弱的時候,最好的方法就是和愛你、希望你健康快樂的人在一起。

  • Use them as a lifeline during this time.

    把他們當作這段期間的救命繩。

  • Selfie 6: Above all else, look out for yourself.

    六、最重要的是,照顧好自己。

  • Studies have shown that people with low self-esteem are far more likely to find themselves in toxic relationships.

    研究顯示,對自己較沒自信的人較容易身陷於毒性關係中。

  • You will never be treated with love and respect unless you absolutely believe that you deserve these things.

    除非你完全相信自己值得,否則永遠不會得到別人的愛與尊重。

  • Remember, you teach people how to treat you, so do yourself the favor of loving yourself.

    記住,你對自己的方式會決定別人怎麼待你,所以幫自己個忙,好好愛自己吧!

  • That's the first step to any relationship.

    那也是任何人際關係的第一步。

  • To recap, if you have diagnosed yourself as being in a toxic relationship, the first step is recognizing this, then recognizing your role in the relationship.

    總之,如果發現自己身處毒性關係中,首先要意識到這件事,然後認清自己在這段關係中的角色。

  • Once you do this, you can start to set boundaries for this relationship and change the way you interact with this person.

    接著,就可以開始劃清這段關係的界線,改變自己跟對方的相處方式。

  • To help, surround yourself with people who love you, and above all else, look out for yourself.

    更進一步,多和愛你的人在一起,最重要的是好好照顧自己。

  • Ah, well, that's all for me today, wellcasters.

    今天就先講到這裡囉,Wellcast 的觀眾們!

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    可以幫我一個忙嗎?訂閱我們的頻道。

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    訂閱我們的電子報以搶先接收其他精彩資訊。

  • See you later.

    下次見!

Any true relationship between friends or significant others should be one between equals.

任何一段真摯的感情,不論是友情還是愛情,都應該是對等的。

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