That's why people smoke, even though they know they're going to get cancer, because it feels good.

這就是為什麼人們吸菸，即使他們知道自己會得癌症，因為吸菸的感覺很好。

I didn't wake up and think that I need to write something mean to someone.

我並沒有一覺醒來就覺得我需要給某人寫一些刻薄的話。

Why?

為什麼？

Why didn't I do that?

我為什麼不這麼做？

Let me think.

讓我想想

It's because, well, one, I'm busy.

這是因為，第一，我很忙。

I'm happy.

我很高興。

That doesn't make me happy.

這讓我很不開心。

Doing that won't make me happy.

這樣做不會讓我快樂。

And I just don't see the need to do that.

我只是覺得沒必要這麼做。

So why did this person feel the need to do that?

那麼，這個人為什麼覺得有必要這麼做呢？

So then I put myself in their shoes.

於是，我設身處地地為他們著想。

Well, clearly they gained something from this or else people don't do things.

很顯然，他們從這件事中獲得了一些東西，否則人們不會去做事情。

And so they're gaining something from putting someone else down, which means they're not happy.

是以，他們從貶低別人中獲得了一些好處，這意味著他們並不快樂。

They're not in a happy place.

他們並不開心。

They're not accomplishing the goals they want to accomplish.

他們沒有實現自己想要實現的目標。

I think it's really important at a young age for kids to know that.

我認為，讓孩子們從小就知道這一點非常重要。

That when someone writes something on the Internet, they're not telling your story, they're telling theirs.

當有人在互聯網上寫東西時，他們不是在講你的故事，而是在講他們的故事。

They're telling their story of unhappiness and not being where they want to be.

他們在講述自己不快樂的故事，講述自己沒有達到理想的境界。

And I really believe that.

我真的相信這一點。

So there's many times where I read a hate comment and I go, oh, I'm going to roast you when I write something.

所以，有很多次，我讀到一條仇恨評論，我就會想，哦，我寫東西的時候一定要把你烤焦。

And I literally just delete it because I'm like, you have your own issue you're dealing with and I'm not going to...

我從字面上刪除它，因為我想，你有你自己的問題，你正在處理，我不會...

It's going to be to no benefit to me to respond.

我回答也沒有用。

Anything we do, any action we make, I believe we have many layers as to why we made that decision.

我們所做的任何事情，我們所採取的任何行動，我相信都有很多層面來解釋我們為什麼會做出這樣的決定。

At the top is like, oh, I made this decision.

最重要的是，哦，我做了這個決定。

What I tell everybody else of why I made that decision.

我是怎麼告訴別人我為什麼做出這個決定的？

The second layer is what I tell myself.

第二層是我對自己說的話。

So say if I took this glass and I broke this glass, what I tell everybody else is like, oh, it slipped.

所以，如果我拿了這個杯子，打碎了這個杯子，我對其他人說的是 "哦，它滑倒了"。

The glass slipped.

玻璃杯滑落了。

Then what I tell myself when I dig a little deeper is, oh, I thought it would be funny.

再深究下去，我就會告訴自己：哦，我以為會很有趣。

So I like broke the glass.

所以我喜歡打破玻璃。

But if I dig really, really deep into like, well, the real reason I smashed this glass, it would be because honestly, I think the segment I was doing really, really bad and I wanted distraction.

但是，如果我真的真的深究一下，我砸碎這隻玻璃杯的真正原因，老實說，我覺得我當時做得非常非常糟糕，我想分散注意力。

We lie to ourselves all the time about why we did something, why we said something.

我們總是欺騙自己，為什麼要做某件事，為什麼要說某句話。

Sometimes our instincts can kick in.

有時，我們的本能會發揮作用。

Like if you ask me an uncomfortable question, I'll respond right away because it's uncomfortable.

比如你問我一個讓人不舒服的問題，我會馬上回答，因為這讓人不舒服。

But what I'm saying to you is not true.

但我對你說的不是真的。

If I dig deeper, I understand why I acted that way.

如果我深究下去，就會明白自己為什麼會那樣做。

It's really important.

這真的很重要。

You need to be in tune with yourself if you want to be successful.

要想成功，就必須與自己保持一致。

I mean, the world, it gets really uncomfortable.

我的意思是，這個世界，讓人很不舒服。

Success gets really uncomfortable sometimes.

成功有時會讓人很不舒服。

It's a lot of stress, a lot of pressure.

這是很大的壓力，很大的壓力。

If you're not truly in tune with your biggest teammate, which is yourself, there's no way you can succeed.

如果你不能真正與你最大的隊友，也就是你自己保持一致，你就不可能取得成功。

You need to know yourself really well.

你需要非常瞭解自己。

So I encourage everyone to actually write down things like, I made this decision.

是以，我鼓勵大家寫下 "我做了這個決定 "這樣的話。

Why did I do that?

我為什麼要這麼做？

Write down all the reasons you did it and be real with yourself.

寫下你這樣做的所有原因，並真實地面對自己。

Say it out loud in an empty room where no one can hear you.

在一個沒人能聽到的空房間裡大聲說出來。

So there's no pressure.

所以沒有壓力。

Why did you say that?

你為什麼這麼說？

Why did you do that?

你為什麼這麼做？

If I'm having a bad day, this is something I've practiced for years.

如果我今天心情不好，這是我多年來一直堅持的做法。

I will talk to myself as well.

我也會自言自語。

If I had a really bad meeting, I'll get into my car and I go, that sucked.

如果我開了一個非常糟糕的會，我就會鑽進車裡，然後說 "真糟糕"。

It's okay.

沒關係。

You know what?

你知道嗎？

We're going to do better next time.

我們下次會做得更好。

And it's just about being your friend.

這只是為了成為你的朋友。

Just like how you would talk to another friend, you've got to talk to yourself the same way.

就像你和其他朋友哈拉一樣，你也要用同樣的方式和自己哈拉。

And it's a journey.

這是一段旅程。

There's no easy solution.

沒有簡單的解決辦法。

There's no like, now I love myself.

現在，我愛我自己。

It's a process.

這是一個過程。

It's a journey.

這是一段旅程。

It's going to be hard, as all things are.

一切都會很艱難。

Even now, when I accomplish something, I don't care how many people come up to me and say, congratulations, you did really well.

即使是現在，當我完成一件事時，我也不在乎有多少人走過來對我說："恭喜你，你做得非常好。

This is a cool thing.

這是一件很酷的事情。

When I lie down at bed, I literally hug myself and I'm like, you did really good.

當我躺在床上時，我真的會擁抱自己，我想，你做得非常好。

That was a really good thing you did today.

你今天做的真是一件好事。

Even today, with all the people that are validating me, it still means something for me to tell myself, you did a really good job.

即使到了今天，有這麼多人認可我，對我來說，告訴自己 "你做得很好 "仍然是一件很有意義的事情。