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  • Most times, breakups happen for a reasonbut not always for a good reason.

  • And despite what people will tell you, there's no shame in getting back together with an

  • ex boyfriend.

  • In fact, that's exactly what I'm going to teach you in this video

  • how to start fresh with your ex!

  • My name is Amy North, I'm a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC

  • I help women like you from around the world achieve their relationship goals.

  • In this case, the goal is to get your ex back.

  • Now, the key is to getting your ex back is making him want you.

  • This means that despite how much you may be tempted to beg or plead for another chance,

  • you should never do this -- it'll make you look weak, desperate and even pathetic….

  • that's not the image you want to give yourself if you're trying to win him over again.

  • Well, now that that's out the way, let's talk about how you can get your ex back.

  • Step 1 - The No Contact Period

  • This is a clever tactic that you may have heard of before, and how it works is pretty

  • straightforward.

  • You simply cut off all communication with your ex for about 30 days.

  • Now you may be thinking, “But what if he forgets about me?”

  • orThere's no way disappearing is going to help me get him back,” but the truth

  • is, removing yourself from the picture will make your ex miss you.

  • Allow me to explain.

  • Your ex expects you to go running back to him, so doing the opposite will confuse him

  • and make him insecure.

  • Since you're not begging for a second chance, the message you are sending your ex is loud

  • and clear: You don't need him, you're strong, and you're perfectly fine with the

  • idea of finding someone new….

  • Don't worry, this doesn't have to how you actually feel, it's just important your

  • ex thinks this is the case.

  • As time passes and you're still not contacting him, he's going to have a hard time resisting

  • the urge to call you.

  • This means you not only have him thinking about you, but the icing on the cake is that

  • since you haven't been chasing him or emotionally acting out, the negative memories your ex

  • had of you and the relationship will be replaced with pleasant ones, which may even cause him

  • to question the breakup.

  • Depending on how things ended between you and your ex, he may have said he wanted to

  • stay friends”.

  • Under no circumstances should you agree to this.

  • Instead, tell your ex that he has to choose between being in a romantic relationship with

  • you, or not having you in his life at all.

  • Agreeing tobe friendssounds nice, but all you'd be doing is agreeing to stick

  • around while he adjusts to life without you.

  • This is not a situation you want to be in if you plan on winning him back.

  • Lastly, if your ex contacts you, and he probably will at some point during the No Contact phase,

  • be calm, cool, and collected.

  • Keep the conversation short, and be the one to end the call -- it'll show him that unless

  • he wakes up and decides to take you back, you're moving on.

  • Step 2 - Reconnect with a Text

  • It's true that absence can make the heart grow fonder, so once you've completed the

  • No Contact period, consider sending your ex a text - at this point he may be thrilled

  • to hear from you.

  • Now, before you go shooting off a shortheyorwhat's up,” it's important to

  • put some thought into what you're going to send him.

  • Short pointless texts won't stir up emotion or give your ex a reason to respond.

  • Worse than that, you'll seem boring and desperate - why would he want to reconnect

  • with a boring, desperate ex?

  • Instead, there are a few types of text messages you should send.

  • First off is what breakup expert Brad Browning calls theGood Remindertext...

  • In this text you're giving your ex the impression that you're totally over him, but still

  • think about him from time to time.

  • It's designed to make you look thoughtful, happy, and as though there is a meaningful

  • reason for messaging him - remember, having a reason is key here.

  • An example of this text would be something like, “The Harlem Globetrotters are coming

  • to Seattle next month!!!

  • Thought you'd like to know because I remember how much you love them!”

  • Sounds innocent, right?

  • The nice thing about this is there's no pressure for him to respond.

  • You're just letting your ex know that you're thinking of him without seeming needy.

  • In fact, he should be happy to hear from you because you're doing him a favour of telling

  • him about something he might be interested in.

  • The next type of text you may consider sending them is theSmile Text.”

  • Now, this text message should only be used if you handled the breakup properlyas

  • in, you didn't beg or plead, and you didn't get angry.

  • An example of a smile text would be something along the lines of “I just stumbled upon

  • my old copy of E.T. and it made me smile and think about you!”...

  • Okay, maybe this isn't the best example because he may think you're calling him

  • a weird little alien, but you get the jist of it... basically bring up something that

  • you once enjoyed together.

  • This type of text works on reeling your ex in emotionally by talking about something

  • positive and interesting.

  • Those are two great text messages to send your exand I have to give credit where

  • it's due here, because both of these texts are included in Brad Browning's “Ex Factor

  • program.

  • There's more more great sample messages and further tips and tricks from Brad Browning

  • in his latest free video, which you can watch at BreakupAmy.comthat's www.BreakupAmy.com.

  • Check that out for more texts and additional help winning back your ex.

  • Step 3 - Call Them Once you've texted your ex, you can now

  • consider calling him - this doesn't mean you should hitsendon the text then

  • go straight to speed dial him, I'd say wait at least a week after texting before you call.

  • A sneaky tip that I like to share is that when you do call your ex for the first time,

  • do it at a time when you know they won't be able to answer so that you can leave a

  • voicemail.

  • This gives you the chance to show initiative by calling, but leaves the ball in his court

  • to call you back.

  • Before you pick up the phone, know what you're going to say in your message, and make sure

  • it's light-hearted and thoughtful.

  • As always, make sure it has a purpose.

  • If after the beep you mumble a bunch of crap about calling to say hi or that you just wanted

  • to check in, he's not going to be interested in calling you back.

  • Instead say something that will remind him of a great time you spent together.

  • For example, you could say something likeHey, Thought I'd give you a quick call

  • to let you know that the season premiere of Parks and Rec is this Monday night.

  • I figured you'd want to watch it since the last episode we watched was so awesome.

  • Anyways, hope all is well.”

  • Simple as that - so don't try to complicate it or you'll end up rambling.

  • If by chance your ex does pick up when you call, then don't panic or try to quickly

  • hang up, but be brave and stick to the same plan.

  • Calmly say exactly what you were going to say in the voicemail and go from there.

  • No matter how happy you may be to hear his voice or how smoothly the call seems to be

  • going, never try to force a conversation - if you do you'll seem desperate or make him

  • suspicious that you're trying to win him back.

  • Just keep the phone call easy, breezy and brief, and always be the one to end the phone

  • call.

  • If you do this properly your ex will probably be thinking about you and wonder how you're

  • doing.

  • He'll like that you were being thoughtful enough to remind him of something they enjoy,

  • and because your message or call doesn't beg for a reply, it's not going to make

  • you look needy or give away your intentions of getting back together, which you don't

  • want him to know about yet.

  • If you leave the message and your ex phones you back, let his call go to voicemail and

  • wait at least 24 hours before calling back.

  • When you do call, sound upbeat and confident.

  • Tell him about some of the fun things you've been up to, make him laugh and simply enjoy

  • the conversation.

  • Step 4 - Meetup So, now that you've reconnected with your

  • ex, fired off a few texts and had a few chats, you'll want to make plans to meet up as

  • friends -- I repeat, AS FRIENDS.

  • DO NOT treat this as a date.

  • Don't call it that when talking to your ex, and don't even bother using that term

  • in your own head.

  • Right now you're working on getting reacquainted, re-building attraction, and that's it.

  • If you frame it as a real 'date', chances are your ex will either refuse to meet with

  • you, or you'll end up right back where you are now because you'll have rushed into

  • things.

  • Not to mention the mental let down you'll feel if things go sour.

  • So, remember, the focus is friendship.

  • Despite that it's not a date, you should still have a plan in mind for your meet up.

  • Winging it probably isn't a great idea in this situation, it leaves room for things

  • to go wrong.

  • What you need is a simple, straightforward, fool proof plan.

  • For instance, something like meeting next Thursday for coffee at the nearby Starbucks.

  • Choosing somewhere public for the first meet up is always a good idea and will make things

  • more comfortable.

  • When you do meet up, have a fun story to share, keep things light and do your best to enjoy

  • yourself.

  • The goal is to re-create the attraction between you two.

  • There's no doubt you'll be nervous but do your best to hide it and keep things cheery

  • and comfortable - It'll be super awkward if you sit there biting your fingernails while

  • mindlessly rambling.

  • Think of it as a new first impression.

  • You have the chance to redefine yourself in his eyes, so take advantage of it.

  • Be the calm, confident smooth talker you've always admired - just remember, stay positive

  • and avoid bringing up the relationship.

  • You're finally spending time with the person you care about, so live for the moment and

  • enjoy it.

  • At some point it'll come time to seduce your ex, but it's best not to go beyond

  • playful flirting in the first meeting with your ex unless it's really going well and

  • you're certain he'll be receptive to any advances.

  • I find that a lot of women are able to get to this part pretty easily by doing what I've

  • talked about so far -- no contact, a few texts to spark his interest, and then the coffee

  • meet-up -- but then they get stuck and can't progress any further with their ex.

  • If you're in a similar situation where you can't seem to break out of the 'friend

  • zone', go to www.BreakupAmy.com and check out the new free video by breakup guru Brad

  • Browning, it shares some sneaky strategies you can use to really make him start thinking

  • about you as more than just a friendagain you can find that video at BreakupAmy.com.

  • Step 5 - Take It Slow When you and your ex do start spending time

  • together again, it's key that you take things slowly - if you rush things, they will blow

  • up.

  • Since you romanced him before, it can be hard to resist falling into old patterns, but still,

  • that's no excuse to go from zero to 100 without even getting behind the wheel.

  • When the time comes and you feel like you could make the relationship work again, propose

  • getting togethernot moving in together.

  • It can be hard to go turtle speed when you're making up for lost time and are already so

  • familiar with each other, but taking it slow is the key to avoiding the same mistakes that

  • caused your breakup last time.

  • More importantly, you've both changed since the breakup and need to take time to get reacquainted.

  • The best way to avoid rushing into anything is by treating it as a brand new-relationship.

  • And remember, all things worth having take time and hard work.

  • Well, that just about does it for this video, I hope you learned something and that you

  • can put these tips to good use.

  • I know that some of the pointers seem nitpicky, but trust me, these are tried and true ways

  • to get your ex back, and if you follow them correctly, you'll be on the right path before

  • you know it!

  • Like I said earlier….. for more advice beyond what I've shared in this video, visit BreakupAmy.com

  • and watch the comprehensive how-to video, it's completely free.

  • And as always if you have any questions feel free to post them in the comments below and

  • I'll do my best to answer each of them.

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  • Alright, that's a wrap ladies

  • Until next time, take care, and I'll see you soon!

Most times, breakups happen for a reasonbut not always for a good reason.

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