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  • To be criticised is never pleasant. It is rarely a good day when we have to read an

    被責備從來不是一件令人愉快的事。當我們不得不讀到一篇關於 "我 "的文章時,很少有好日子。

  • unflattering social media post about ourselves, when we are given harsh feedback on a project

    在社交媒體上發佈關於自己的不光彩的帖子,當我們在一個項目上得到嚴厲的反饋時

  • or hear that we are being gossiped about by strangers.

    或聽到我們被陌生人說閒話。

  • However, the question of how much criticism needs to hurt depends on something which has

    然而,責備需要多大程度的傷害,這取決於一些已經

  • nothing to do with the specific attack we happen to face: how much we happen to like

    與我們碰巧面臨的具體攻擊無關:我們碰巧有多喜歡

  • ourselves.

    我們自己。

  • The degree to which we buckle in the wake of negative comments reflects how we, deep

    我們在負面評論後退縮的程度,反映了我們如何在深層次上

  • down, feel about ourselves. When we carry within us a sufficient ballast of love, criticism

    下,對自己的感覺。當我們的內心帶著足夠的愛的壓艙物時,責備

  • need never be very much more than niggling. We can overcome it by dinner time - or at

    不需要太多,只需嘮嘮叨叨。我們可以在晚餐時間克服它--或者在

  • least the end of the week. We can take on board with relative good humour that we are

    至少在本週結束時。我們可以用相對良好的幽默感來接受我們是

  • not necessarily loved by everyone, that not everything we do is perfect and that there

    不一定受到所有人的喜愛,我們所做的一切並不完美,而且有

  • may be one or two outright enemies, who would prefer us dead - even while most people tolerate

    可能有一兩個徹頭徹尾的敵人,他們寧願我們死掉--即使大多數人都容忍

  • us easily enough. There need be nothing surprising or terrifying in being doubted by a few others.

    我們很容易。被其他幾個人懷疑並不令人驚訝或害怕。

  • But for the more vulnerable ones among us, there is no option but to experience criticism

    但對於我們中更脆弱的人來說,除了經歷責備,別無選擇

  • as an assault on our very right to exist. We don't hear that we are being mildly upbraided

    作為對我們生存權利的攻擊。我們沒有聽到我們正在受到溫和的指責

  • for an aspect of our work; we at once feel that we are being told to disappear. It isn't

    為我們工作的一個方面;我們立刻感覺到,我們被告知要消失。這並不是

  • just one or two people who are mocking us, the whole world is apparently thinking only

    只是一兩個人在嘲笑我們,整個世界顯然只想著

  • of how ridiculous we are. We will never get past this moment of negative assessment; the

    我們是多麼的可笑。我們將永遠無法超越這個負面評價的時刻;而

  • hatred will never end. It's a catastrophe.

    仇恨永遠不會結束。這是一場大災難。

  • If criticism from outside proves devastating, it is because it so readily joins forces with

    如果來自外部的責備被證明是破壞性的,那是因為它是如此輕易地與 "中國 "聯合起來。

  • an infinitely more strident and more aggressive form of criticism that has long existed inside

    一個長期以來存在的更加尖銳、更加激進的責備形式。

  • of us. We are already struggling so hard to tolerate ourselves against inner voices that

    的我們。我們已經在努力地容忍自己,對抗內心的聲音,而這些聲音

  • confidently assert how undeserving, ugly and devious we are, that there is no room left

    自信地宣稱我們是多麼的不配,多麼的醜陋,多麼的狡猾,沒有任何餘地了

  • for us to take on further reminders of our awfulness. The key of present criticism has

    為我們進一步提醒我們的可怕之處。目前責備的關鍵是

  • inserted itself into a lock of historic hatred - and let loose an unmasterable surge of self-loathing.

    將自己插入歷史仇恨的鎖中--並釋放出無法控制的自我厭惡感。

  • When we are suffering, we should remember that we aren't exceptionally weak; we almost

    當我們受苦時,我們應該記住,我們並不是特別軟弱;我們幾乎是

  • certainly had a far worse childhood than the average person.

    當然,他的童年比一般人要糟糕得多。

  • Once upon a time, we were probably humiliated and shamed without being soothed, held or

    曾幾何時,我們可能在沒有得到安撫、擁抱或的情況下被羞辱和恥辱

  • reassured, and this is why we now take current criticism so much to heart. We don't know

    放心,這就是為什麼我們現在對當前的責備如此重視。我們不知道

  • how to defend ourselves against our enemies because we have never been deeply appreciated.

    如何抵禦我們的敵人,因為我們從來沒有得到過深刻的讚賞。

  • We already hate ourselves so much more than our worst enemies ever will. A part of us

    我們對自己的憎恨已經比我們最壞的敵人要多得多。我們的一部分

  • is responding to adult challenges with the vulnerability of a child who faced disdain

    在應對成年人的挑戰時,他像一個面臨輕視的孩子一樣脆弱。

  • on a scale they couldn't master. The present challenge feels like a catastrophe because

    在一個他們無法掌握的規模上。目前的挑戰感覺像是一場災難,因為

  • catastrophe is precisely what was once endured.

    災難正是曾經忍受過的。

  • We may not easily be able to stop feeling unhappy about criticism, but at least we can

    我們可能不容易停止對責備的不快感,但至少我們可以

  • change what we feel unhappy about. Our vulnerability need not be - as we initially, instinctively

    改變我們感到不快樂的事情。我們的脆弱性不需要--正如我們最初本能地

  • think - a sign that we are actively awful. It is evidence that we were, long ago, denied

    認為--是我們積極可怕的標誌。這是我們在很久以前就被剝奪了的證據。

  • the sort of love that we would have needed in order to remain more steadily and generously

    我們需要這種愛,以保持更穩定和慷慨的

  • on our own side at moments of difficulty.

    在困難的時候,我們自己的一方。

To be criticised is never pleasant. It is rarely a good day when we have to read an

被責備從來不是一件令人愉快的事。當我們不得不讀到一篇關於 "我 "的文章時,很少有好日子。

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為什麼責備會造成如此大的傷害 (Why Criticism Can Hurt so Much)

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