Stop with the tears

擦乾你的淚水

Don't cry

不要哭

Pick yourself up

自己站起來

Stop with the emotions

別再意氣用事

Don't be a pussy

別當個娘娘腔

Don't let nobody disrespect you

不要讓別人看輕你

Be cool

酷一點吧

And be kind of a dick

像個男人

Always keep your mouth shut

不要說一大堆廢話

Nobody likes a tattle-tale

因為沒有人喜歡搬弄是非

Bros come before hoes

不要重色輕友

Don't let your woman run your life.

不要讓女人控制你的生活

You're a bitch.

你是個婊子

What a fag.

王八蛋

Get laid.

找人打砲

Do something.

做點什麼

Be a man.

當個男子漢

Be a man!

當個男子漢!

Grow some balls!

長大一點吧!

The 3 most destructive words that every man receives when he is a boy, is when he's told to be a man.

每個男人從小聽過三個最讓人受傷的話是教他們成為男子漢的必要課程

We've constructed an idea masculinity in United States that doesn't give young boys a way to feel secure in their masculinity. So, we make them go prove it all the time.

美國的社會無法讓男孩感受他們的男子氣概，所以我們總叫他們想辦法證明自己。

Within their peer group culture each of them is posturing based on how the other boys are posturing,

同儕之間每個人都受彼此的影響

and what they end up missing is what they each really want, which is just that closeness.

他們缺少的但最渴望是那種兄弟的情誼

In good times guys are, like, really close to each other,

好的時候男生之間的友誼也可以很要好

but when things get a little bit worse you're on your own.

但當事情不順的時候還是得靠自己

From middle school I had four really close friends.

我國中的時候有四個非常要好的朋友

Once I went kind of went into high school, I struggled finding people I can talk to because I feel like I'm not supposed to get help.

但到要上高中的時候，我很困擾要不要找人聊聊因為我覺得身為一個男人不應該找人幫忙

Our kids get up every morning. They have to prepare their mask for how they're going to walk to school.

現在的孩子常常早上起床後要自我心理建設，戴上了面具才去學校

A lot of us don't know how to take the mask off.

其中很多人不知道如何脫掉面具

What is it you don't let people see?

是什麼樣的事不想被別人發現呢?

Almost 90% of you have pain and anger on the back of that paper.

幾乎90%的孩子背後都藏著痛苦和憤怒無法言欲

If you never cry then you have all these feelings stuffed up inside of you, and then you can't get them out.

如果你從來都沒讓自己哭過，很多痛苦和憤怒就會累積在心中無法宣洩

They really buy into a culture that doesn't value what we feminized. If we're in a culture that doesn't value caring,

他們真的相信你軟弱的時候不會有人理你，但如果我們的社會不再有對人的關懷

doesn't value relationships, doesn't value empathy, you are going to have boys and girls, men and women go crazy.

不再重視人與人的關係，人們不再有同情心，不管男孩女孩男人女人都要抓狂了

I had anger issues in high school. I felt like an outcast.

高中的時候無法控制我的憤怒的情緒，以前覺得自己和學校格格不入

I've been suspended at least once every year I was here.

我在學校的時候每年至少會被留校查看一次

We would just look for trouble and just like, try to fight.

我們只是想找麻煩和試著反抗。

Boys are more likely to act out, they're more likely to become aggressive. Most people miss that as depression, or see it as a conduct disorder, or just a bad kid.

男孩們可能採取行動，多半的時候都會變得很激進。大多數人以為那是憂鬱症，行為不良甚至覺得他們是壞孩子

I felt like just giving up on life, you know, see I had suicide thoughts in my head in sixth grade.

我曾經難過到想放棄生命，所以我在六年級的時候曾經有過自殺的念頭

I felt alone for, for a long time, and I actually thought about killing myself.

有很長時間我都覺得很孤單，其實我還想過要殺了我自己

Whether it's homicidal violence, or suicidal violence, people resort to such desperate behavior, only when they are feeling shamed and humiliated, or feel they would be if they didn't prove that they were real men.

常常只有當男人感到羞恥和被羞辱，或無法證明自己夠man的時候，會導致殺人或自殺傾向的這種極端的暴力行為的產生

If you're told from day one 'don't let nobody disrespect you', and 'this is the way you handle it as a man', respect is linked to violence.

尊重和暴力行為是習習相關的，如果一開始覺得身為一個男人不能讓人看輕你，一但被看不起，就很可能就會導制暴力行為。

If I can man up, why step down from that, you feel me?

如果可以像個男人，為什麼要讓自己墮落，這道理你懂不懂?

It's like instinct.

就像你的本能

So man up!

...

Man up.

所以man一點好嗎!

Man up.

Man一點好嗎!

Man up.

Man一點好嗎!

Grow some fucking balls!

Man一點好嗎!

Act like a man. Be a man.

長大一點吧!

Be a man!

做什麼都像個男人

For my kids, I was gonna end this hyper masculine narrative here.

做個男子漢