I've always hated ghosts.

我一直很討厭鬼。

Whether they were those little freaks and Pac Man who gave me crazy anxiety evil spirits that do really inconvenient things like move your keys or until your picture frames or this guy boo You don't get to call me that until you commit.

無論他們是那些小怪胎和吃豆人誰給了我瘋狂的焦慮邪惡的精神，做真的不方便的事情，如移動你的鑰匙或直到你的相框或這個傢伙噓你不得到給我打電話，直到你承諾。

Now I hate them even more because I got ghosted for the first time.

現在我更恨他們了，因為我第一次被鬼上身。

And, wow, it really hurt and was scary, so I really like getting to know you.

而且，哇，真的很疼，很嚇人，所以我真的很喜歡認識你。

Would you like to hang out on Thursday?

你想週四出去玩嗎？

What does that mean?

這意味著什麼？

You're a ghost.

你是個鬼。

You're not invisible neck, Nick.

你不是隱形的脖子，尼克。

It's fine if you don't wanna hang out with me, but just respond.

如果你不想和我一起玩也沒關係，但只要回覆就可以了。

Just answer me.

只要回答我。

Just tell me.

告訴我吧

But what was even worse was when I told my friends about it.

但更糟糕的是，當我把這件事告訴我的朋友時。

E just didn't see this coming like at all.

E只是沒有看到這一點，像在所有。

Well, didn't you say that he consistently flaked out initially when you guys were trying to connect?

好吧，你不是說，最初你們想聯繫的時候，他始終在忽悠嗎？

Yeah, but that was coffee.

是的，但那是咖啡。

And we didn't really know each other then.

而我們當時並不真正瞭解對方。

And didn't you say that he'd never follow through on anything?

你不是說他從來沒有跟進過任何事情嗎？

He said he was gonna dio, but he was busy and he apologized for that and didn't you say that?

他說他要dio，但他很忙，他為此道歉，你不是說了嗎？

He said that he didn't think marriage would work out except for with penguins.

他說，他認為除了和企鵝結婚，其他的都不行。

Okay, but that's different.

好吧，但這是不同的。

Okay, You don't give someone a pebble unless you're serious.

好吧，除非你是認真的，否則你不會給別人一顆鵝卵石。

But of course, you can't really blame those of us who act like total idiots when we like someone.

不過，當然，你也不能真的責怪我們這些人，當我們喜歡一個人的時候，就像個十足的白痴。

Because fun fact just found this out.

因為有趣的事實剛剛發現了這一點。

When people begin falling in love, your frontal cortex, which is vital to judgment, shuts down.

當人們開始墜入愛河時，你的額葉皮層，也就是至關重要的判斷力，就會關閉。

Isn't that insane?

這不是瘋了嗎？

Your brain literally deactivates the part of itself that can criticize and judge because it knows if you can maintain your critical thinking, you probably won't put up with as much bullshit.

你的大腦從字面上看，停用了自己可以責備和判斷的部分，因為它知道如果你能保持你的批判性思維，你可能就不會忍受那麼多的廢話。

And then you won't reproduce to ensure the survival of your species.

然後你就不會為了保證你的物種的生存而繁衍。

So what do we dio?

那我們該怎麼辦？

What do we do when our brains literally shut down our ability to think clearly?

當我們的大腦真的關閉了我們清晰思考的能力時，我們該怎麼辦？

It's very simple, but very hard.

很簡單，但很難。

Sit back and observe their patterns.

坐下來觀察他們的模式。

People show you who they are all the time.

人們總是向你展示他們是誰。

Listen to them.

聽他們說。

They're always giving you information.

他們總是給你資訊。

So my cat is a Capricorn son, a cancer moon and a Pisces descendants.

所以我的貓咪是摩羯座的兒子，癌症月亮和雙魚座的後代。

So obviously she's actually this way.

所以很明顯她其實是這樣的。

Wow, Cool.

哇，酷。

When you're bored with your site, I'm a Capricorn Oh, you're a Capricorn.

當你對你的網站感到厭倦時，我是摩羯座哦，你是摩羯座。

To my God, you're just like my kitty.

我的天，你就像我的小貓咪。

And even if it's someone you're not romantically attracted Thio.

即使是你不喜歡的人，也會被吸引Thio。

Even if you're just wondering whether or not you should stay friends with someone or go into business with a colleague, wait and see what their patterns are.

即使你只是在想是否應該和某人保持朋友關係，或者和同事做生意，也要等等看他們的模式是什麼。

Don't judge them on what they say.

不要根據他們的言論來判斷他們。

I know I'm a ghost, but I will always be transparent with you.

我知道我是鬼，但我對你永遠是透明的。

Don't judge them on their actions.

不要用他們的行為來評判他們。

Come on.

來吧。

Trust their patterns to tell you exactly who they are.

相信他們的模式會告訴你他們到底是誰。

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so keep your hopes and expectations low.

未來行為的最佳預測因素是過去的行為，所以要把希望和期望值放低。

Go slow and take note of the values in the person that you're watching and do those values line up with what you want in a potential friend, partner or colleague.

慢慢地去注意你所觀察的人身上的價值觀，這些價值觀是否與你想要的潛在朋友、夥伴或同事的價值觀相一致。

I, for one, tend to leap all in before I even really know a person.

我這個人，往往在還沒有真正瞭解一個人之前，就會全盤托出。

And let me tell you, it has not served me.

讓我告訴你，這對我沒有好處。

It's caused me a lot of heartbreak.

這讓我很傷心。

Pain, frustration and disappointment were my kids.

痛苦、沮喪和失望是我的孩子。

I'm Anna Khanna.

我是安娜Khanna。

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留在這裡看Bethany Rad Law的動畫廣場空間廣告。

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如果你有興趣看看她是如何在這些視頻上創建圖形的，一定要查看她的twitch流，她向你展示了這個過程。

Thank you to square space for sponsoring today's video.

感謝廣場空間對今天視頻的贊助。

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Squarespace擁有精美的獲獎模板，並且都在一個平臺上，所以永遠沒有升級、補丁、安裝或困擾。

If you need a domain name or an exorcism, they provide a simple and unique set of experience.

如果你需要一個域名或者是誅仙，他們會提供一套簡單而獨特的經驗。

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Squarespace對於建立任何類型的網站都是很好的。

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無論你是鬼魂、食屍鬼還是妖精，今天就去squarespace點com斜槓安娜開始免費試用，結賬時使用優惠碼安娜可享受9折優惠。