Mhm Kovar 19 to May is defined by my partner of nine years leaving me during Melbourne stage for lock down restrictions.

姆姆科娃19日至5月是由我九年的夥伴在墨爾本階段離開我的鎖定限制定義的。

Yeah.

是啊。

No, no point you woman quiz.

不，不點你這個女人測驗。

Isha.

伊莎

But you're being happy to see way well shaded with Gene Cheeseman i e She lit up a room.

但你很高興看到的方式很好的陰影與Gene Cheeseman I E她照亮了一個房間。

She was just magical.

她真是太神奇了。

I think that's the best way I confront it.

我想這是我面對的最好方式。

Explain it.

解釋一下。

Yeah, we're married.

是的，我們已經結婚了。

A few years ago.

幾年前。

It was always very sweet and caring and everything was okay until 2020.

在2020年之前，一直都很貼心，很照顧人，一切都很好。

Development.

發展。

Juanita Logical.

胡安妮塔邏輯。

Yeah, for those.

是的，對於那些。

And we need to sing.

而我們需要唱歌。

I'm out.

我不幹了

Today, lots of therapists are reporting a real demand for couples therapy and relationship therapy.

今天，很多治療師都報告說，夫妻治療和關係治療的需求是真實的。

At the moment, our work lives are under pressure.

目前，我們的工作生活壓力很大。

Our family lives are under pressure on We're just trying to hold it all together.

我們的家庭生活面臨著壓力 我們只是想把它凝聚在一起。

One of the biggest things that couples are describing is just kind of not getting on or higher levels of conflict.

夫妻之間描述的最大的事情之一，就是有點上不去，或者說更高層次的衝突。

There's also on the intimacy side of things a riel impact on desire on couples finding space and time toe be together intimately because we were in lock down and it was limiting and what we could do and couldn't dio.

還有在親密關係方面的事情一個RIEL影響的慾望對夫婦找到空間和時間在一起親密，因為我們在鎖定，它是限制，我們可以做什麼，不能dio。

We entered this like routine funk.

我們進入這個就像例行的放克。

It just led Thio the pain points in our relationship just in intensifying.

這就導致了Thio我們關係中的痛點只是在加劇。

Yes, food is seeing Trouble started after the lock down began.

是的，食物是看到麻煩開始後鎖定開始。

I went through his phone when I found out he has a girlfriend.

我翻看他的手機時，發現他有個女朋友。

I confronted him.

我和他對峙著。

Really kept saying was How did you get into my phone?

真的一直在說是你怎麼進我手機的？

It was a big blowout.

這是一個很大的打擊。

Can venture Okay, e think here I told his girlfriend that you wanted to divorce because his girlfriend said, If you want to divorce your wife, don't sleep in the same room or eat your wife's food because you can't trust her.

可以冒險 好吧，e認為在這裡我告訴他的女朋友，你想離婚，因為他的女朋友說，如果你想和你的妻子離婚，不要睡在同一個房間裡，也不要吃你妻子的食物，因為你不能相信她。

She could poison.

她可以下毒。

My husband doesn't know I'm talking about this now.

我老公不知道我現在在說這個。

That's why I can't show my real face.

所以我不能以真面目示人。

It just went down really quickly.

只是很快就下去了。

You know, she was gone, and I just felt so alone.

你知道，她走了，我只是覺得很孤獨。

Being in the same space parenting working couple ing has meant that there is nowhere to hide, so the habits that we find kind of normally irritate us a bit.

在同一個空間裡育兒工作夫妻ing，意味著無處可藏，所以我們發現那種平常的習慣讓我們有些不爽。

But don't drive us that crazy are really obvious.

但別把我們逼瘋了，真的很明顯。

Trying to move away from criticizing or blaming our partners is really important and we can get really stuck in a cycle.

試圖擺脫責備或指責我們的合作伙伴真的很重要，我們可能真的會陷入一個循環。

So using I statements So my feelings are I'm feeling rather than you do this You make me feel I think locked down fast track the expiry date because we went from, you know, talking about buying a house together and weigh were never big on marriage But the start of the year I was even I'd be honored to marry you.

所以用I語句，所以我的感覺是我的感覺，而不是你這樣做，你讓我覺得我覺得鎖定了快車道的到期日，因為我們從，你知道，談論一起買房子，體重從來沒有大的婚姻，但今年開始，我甚至我很榮幸嫁給你。

So to go from that as quickly Thio was just like a body Miele l a silly Rona process things concurrently in front asi problem enough for g c d and I could What is it myself?

所以，要想盡快地從那Thio就像一個身體Miele l一個愚蠢的Rona處理事情同時在前面asi問題足夠g c d和我可以什麼是它自己？

I will call my parents and cry But my parents are Christians.

我會打電話給我的父母並哭泣，但我的父母是基督徒。

They don't believe in divorce or separation.

他們不相信離婚或分居。

They told me Stay there no matter what your husband does.

他們告訴我，不管你丈夫做什麼，都要留在那裡。

No Erica pds e para my snow video tra what Rotana She was in for vacation.

沒有Erica pds e對我的雪視頻特拉什麼Rotana她是在度假。

A Montana Hello.

在蒙大拿州 你好

So toxic.

這麼毒。

Er seeing brought pesos and I just want you guys to see you know it's medicine.

呃，看到帶來的比索，我只是想讓你們看到，你們知道這是藥。

Syphilis is while this hurts like hell.

梅毒是而這痛得要命。

I think we add grew one another, but I think that it just went down in a really traumatizing way because of because of locked down because of Kevin, 19.

我認為我們增加了彼此的成長，但我認為，它只是去了一個真正的創傷性的方式，因為因為鎖定，因為凱文，19。

It's a really difficult time to go through a break up.

分手的時候真的很難受。

So for people who have gone through a breakup and locked down, it's really important that you reach out to people that you're close to reach out to people that you love.

所以，對於經歷過分手鎖定的人來說，你聯繫你親近的人聯繫你愛的人真的很重要。

It's also really important that you do the things that make you feel good about yourself, just for you.

你做那些讓你感覺良好的事情，也真的很重要，只是為了你自己。

So practicing a lot of self care.

所以練習了很多自理能力。

When the breakup happened, Melvin was opening back up again and then we got the word that will go on back in the stage three.

當分手的時候，梅爾文又開回了，然後我們得到消息，將在第三階段繼續回。

I got to a point where I got really down and then I've cried.

我到了一個點，我真的很沮喪，然後我已經哭了。

My I za is not common to divorce in Nigeria.

我的I za在尼日利亞離婚不常見。

I don't know anyone divorced or even separated.

我不知道有誰離過婚，甚至分居。

You just have to keep it to yourself and not say anything.

你只需要把它藏在自己的心裡，什麼也不說。

To be really honest is going to take a long while for love to come back each day is getting better, but then you still have those days that are awful on.

說實在的是要花很長的時間，愛情回來的每一天都在變好，但你還是會有那些日子，是可怕的上。

Do you know what?

你知道嗎？

It's very similar to this whole Kovar 19 situation.

這和整個科華19號的情況非常相似。

You've got Thio, maintain the hope that you know this will be okay.

你已經得到了Thio，保持希望，你知道這將是好的。

Yeah.

是啊。

Uh, you see it?

呃，你看到了嗎？

Winter?

冬天？

No way.

不可能

Toe.

趾頭。

No, I don't cook it here.

不，我不在這裡做飯。

Nice, Chucky.

很好 恰吉

Was this human scene the aging process here for centuries?

這人景是這裡幾百年來的衰老過程嗎？

Mhm oh, stadiums.

嗯，哦，階段。