Where one night:

凡是一個晚上。

Oh my god, everyone is hanging out without me. Why wasn't I invited?!

哦，我的上帝，每個人都掛出 沒有我。 為什麼沒有邀請我？

And then the next:

然後是下一個。

Oh my god, why did I agree to hang out with everybody?

哦，我的上帝，為什麼我同意掛出與大家？

Ugh. Why did they invite me?

呃...他們為什麼要邀請我？

The struggle is real and completely contradictory.

鬥爭是真實的，完全是矛盾的。

But lately I have been painfully self-aware that I am being excluded from things.

但最近我痛苦地自我意識到，我被排斥在事情之外。

Like, the other day I opened my FOMO app and noticed that some friends went bowling and didn't invite me,

就像，前幾天我打開FOMO應用，發現有朋友去打保齡球，卻沒有邀請我。

[gasp]

[喘氣]

and I immediately went into a spiral of inferiority and shame and felt like I was 8 years old again.

我立刻陷入了自卑和羞愧的漩渦，感覺自己又回到了8歲。

[laughter]

[笑聲]

But the thing is, I don't even like bowling.

但問題是，我根本不喜歡打保齡球。

If they had invited me, I probably wouldn't even have wanted to go!

如果他們邀請了我，我可能都不想去了!

But did that stop me from crying and convincing myself that I'm a worthless heap of trash?

但這能阻止我哭泣，說服自己，我是一堆毫無價值的垃圾嗎？

No.

不知道

And then last week, I was talking to a friend, when she asked,

上週，我和一個朋友哈拉，她問我：

- Hey, are you going to Melissa's party?

- 嘿，你要去梅麗莎的派對嗎？

- Oh I didn't know she was having a party.

- 哦，我不知道她有一個黨。

- Yeah, you didn't get the invite? - No.

- 是啊，你沒有得到邀請？- 沒有啊

- Check your spam, I'm sure it went into your spam.

- 檢查你的垃圾郵件，我敢肯定，它進入了你的垃圾郵件。

- Nothing.

- 什麼都沒有。

- Facebook?

- 臉書？

- Nada.

- 沒有。

- Insta DM? - Zilch.

- Insta DM？- 零。

- Text? - Nope.

- 文本？- 不對

- Smoke signal? - Nothing.

- 煙霧信號？- 什麼都沒有。

- Huh.

- 咦。

Well, I'm sure you could come. She probably just forgot to invite you. It happens.

好吧，我相信你可以來。她可能只是忘了邀請你。它發生。

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

There are a few things you can do when you feel left out.

當你感到被冷落時，你可以做幾件事。

I mean, if you feel like a friend is intentionally excluding you,

我的意思是，如果你覺得朋友是故意排斥你。

yes, that probably warrants a conversation to find out what's wrong.

是的，這可能值得一談，找出問題所在。

- Why didn't you put out the smoke signal for me?

- 你為什麼不給我放煙霧信號？

- Because it's an archaic way to communicate. I can't build an entire fire every time you wanna hang out.

- 因為這是一種古老的交流方式。我不可能每次你想出去玩的時候都生一整片火。

I mean, invest in string and a can.

我的意思是，投資於字符串和罐。

But sometimes, friends just hang out without you.

但有時候，朋友們只是在沒有你的情況下閒逛。

And in my case, I have to accept that when I feel left out,

而在我的情況下，當我感到被冷落的時候，我必須接受這個事實。

this has way more to do with my own insecurity than my friends actually trying to hurt my feelings.

這與我自己的不安全感有關，而不是我的朋友們想傷害我的感情。

And I have been asking myself,

而我一直在問自己。

"Why, when I see my friends hanging out without me, is my first thought:

"為什麼，當我看到我的朋友們在外面閒逛時，沒有我，是我的第一個想法。

They hate me.

他們恨我。

They've hated me this entire time.

他們一直都在恨我。

So a few days ago, when friends made plans to go to a movie in front of me,

所以前幾天，當朋友們約好去看電影的時候，在我面前。

without an extended invite,

沒有擴大邀請。

I took a deep breath, and I thought to myself,

我深吸了一口氣，我心想。

I'm happy for them. You know what?

我為他們高興。你知道嗎？

They're gonna have a good time. And if I'm really being honest with myself,

他們會有一個好時機。如果我真的是誠實的自己，

I don't even wanna go to a movie!

我甚至不想去看電影!

I want to go home and spend some time with a book.

我想回家與書共度一段時光。

Wait, did I say that out loud?

等等，我說出來了嗎？

I'm Anna Akana, and you're coming to Becca's party, right?

我是安娜-阿卡納，你要來參加貝卡的派對，對吧？

I wanna say thank you to Sun Basket for sponsoring today's episode.

我想說感謝Sun Basket對今天節目的贊助。

Sun Basket is a meal delivery service committed to healthy food,

Sun Basket是一個致力於健康食品的送餐服務。

with easy to follow instructions that can be prepped in 30 minutes.

有著簡單易行的說明，可以在30分鐘內準備好。

Your meals are delivered to your door weekly on a day of your choosing

您的飯菜每週都會在您選擇的日子送到您家門口。

which is perfect because I hate leaving my house!

這是很完美的，因為我討厭離開我的房子!

Sun Basket only includes organic non-GMO ingredients for their recipes,

Sun Basket的食譜只包括有機非轉基因原料。

and they cater to numerous specialty diets

他們滿足眾多的特殊飲食需求

including paleo, gluten-free, diabetes friendly, vegetarian, vegan, and pescatarian.

包括巴利歐、無麩質、糖尿病、素食、素食和五穀雜糧。

As someone who is a very novice cook who loves time hacks and has a Los Angeles level intense diet,

作為一個非常菜鳥的人，喜歡時間的小技巧，並且擁有洛杉磯級別的高強度飲食。

it's perfect for me.

這對我來說是完美的。

Not to mention, I only get the amount of ingredients I need,

更何況，我只買到我需要的食材數量。

so I'm not wasting produce when my schedule gets too busy.

這樣我就不會在我的日程安排太忙的時候浪費農產品了。

You can go to getsunbasket.com/anna to sign up today,

你可以去getunbasket.com/anna報名，今天。

and get 60% off automatically applied to your purchase,

並獲得6折自動應用於您的購買。

meaning you'll pay as low as $28 for your first box.

意味著你將為你的第一個盒子支付低至28美元。

That's getsunbasket.com/anna.

那就是getunbasket.com/anna。