Have you ever wondered why you and a person just won't get along, even if you've known each other for a long time?

你有想過為何你跟一個認識很久的人會相處不來嗎？

Do you often feel like there's some kind of barrier between you and them?

你常常覺得你跟他之間有層障礙嗎？

If you do, then it's possible that you're incompatible with them, meaning that you're not likely suited for each other.

如果有的話，很可能你跟他不相容，意思就是你們可能不合。

So, here are six signs you are incompatible with someone.

在此告訴你六個你跟他人不合的徵兆。

One, you argue in different styles.

第一，你們吵架的方式不同。

Arguing is a normal phenomenon between human interactions.

在人類互動中，起爭執是很正常的現象。

However, how you argue and handle conflict with the other person is important to consider whether your relationship or friendship is compatible or not.

但是，考量到你的友誼或戀愛合不合呢，就有關吵架和處理衝突的方式了。

Do you tend to explode, yell, or scream when you're upset?

在生氣時，你通常會爆氣、大吼、或尖叫嗎？

You might be seen as reckless by someone who has a reserved personality.

在比較內斂的人的眼中，你可能看似魯莽。

Or do you tend to just shut down and take off altogether?

還是你會封閉自我，直接走人？

You might be seen as cold or aloof by someone who has a passionate personality.

在熱情的人的眼中，你可能看起來就很冷酷與漠然。

These extreme differences can cause a lot of emotional strain in your relationship, and make it hard to get to the core of the conflict and resolve the argument.

這些極端的差異，會在你的感情中造成很多緊張情緒，難以讓雙方了解衝突的核心，並把爭執解決。

Two, your lifestyles vary.

第二，你們的生活模式差異很大。

Do you have different ways to relax, such as reading a book and doing yoga, versus socializing with friends and going out for karaoke?

你們是否有不同的放鬆方式，像閱讀或做瑜伽，對上與朋友社交和唱卡拉 OK？

Or, perhaps, you're a night owl but they're an early bird.

或也許，你是個夜貓子，而他習慣早起。

While having different hobbies and beliefs are normal, it's also important to find some things that are suited for both of you to enjoy.

雖然有不同興趣和信仰很正常，但是找到兩個人都適合做的事情很重要。

The difference in lifestyle habits may later become a source of conflict for your relationship.

生活習慣的不同，可能會在之後變成情感裡衝突的來源。

Three, you have trouble communicating.

第三，你們溝通有困難。

The way you communicate with each other is also very important to your relationship.

你們溝通的方式對你們的關係也很重要。

Perhaps, one of you tends to disregard your own emotions or how others feel, and only focus on what's logical.

也許有時你忽視了自己的情緒，也忽視了別人的感受，只在意邏輯上的對錯。

While the other person focuses on how things make them feel and the importance of emotions, more than the logical facts.

但是另一個人更在乎的是他對事物的感受與情緒的重要，不那麼在意邏輯正確的事實。

This difference in communication style may lead to difficulties in the long run.

長期來看，溝通方式的差異可能會衍生困難。

Four, your values and principles are very different.

第四，你們的價值觀和原則很不一樣。

Is your partner, friend, or sibling constantly late when you plan to meet up?

你的伴侶、朋友、或手足，常常在約出來的時候遲到嗎？

When you complain or try to talk to them about it, they shrug it off or don't even see what the big deal is.

當你跟他們抱怨或試圖談談此事時，他們聳肩表示不在乎，根本看不出問題在哪裡。

In this case, you value punctuality and they don't.

在這個例子中，你很重視準時，而他們則不然。

Little things like this can show you what your values are and what theirs are.

像這樣的小事情，可以讓你知道你的價值觀是什麼，而其他人的又是什麼。

It's important for both of you to share similar or have common values for your relationship to go far.

分享相似或擁有相同的價值觀對長遠的關係很重要。

Five, you no longer have things in common.

第五，你們不再有共通點。

Were you interested in their likes and dislikes at first?

你一開始對他的好惡很有興趣嗎？

Did you enjoy finding out about their hobbies and interests?

你喜歡了解他的嗜好和興趣嗎？

While getting to know each other is fun and exciting in the beginning, you might later find that there aren't that many things you share in common.

一開始，互相了解是很好玩而且很刺激，但後來你可能會發現，你們並沒有那麼多共通點。

You may even feel frustrated that you can't be yourself around them since you don't actually enjoy the things they like.

你甚至可能會感到沮喪，因為你不真正享受他喜歡做的事，所以你在他身邊不能做自己。

It's important to have things you share in common and to do things you both enjoy.

有共通點很重要，做一些你們都享受的事也很重要。

And six, you can no longer tolerate them or the relationship.

第六，你不再能容忍他，或容忍這段關係。

Do they refuse to change or talk with you when you encounter a problem in your relationship?

在你們遇到關係裡的困難時，他會拒絕改變、拒絕和你溝通嗎？

Despite the times you've forgiven each other, you may start to feel tired of the unchanging situation.

儘管有時你們已經互相原諒了，你可能會厭倦毫無改變的情況。

No matter how we may want to talk about a problem or suggest some possible solutions, they don't want to hear it or don't want anything to change.

不管我們有多想聊聊一個問題、建議一些可能的解決辦法，他就是不想聽也不想改變。

If you feel like you can't tolerate them or the situation you're in any longer, it's a sign you might not be compatible with them anymore.

如果你覺得你無法容忍他，也不能容忍所處的情況，可能就是你們不再合適的狀況了。

Do you relate to any of these signs?

你對這些徵兆有同感嗎？

Let us know in the comments below.

留言讓我們知道吧。

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感謝觀看，下支影片見！