That's a full 22% of people in monogamous relationships.

這在一夫一妻制關係的人中佔了整整22%。

So how can you tell if you are being cheated on?

那麼如何判斷自己是否被騙了呢？

I'll tell you.

我告訴你

#1.

#1.

Your partner guards their phone or computer obsessively.

你的伴侶痴迷地守護著他們的手機或電腦。

Everyone has the right to their own space, so I am not giving you permission to police your partner's communications.

每個人都有權利擁有自己的空間，所以我並沒有允許你對你的伴侶的通信進行管制。

What I am saying, is you should take notice of your partner going out of their way to guard their phone or email.

我要說的是，你應該注意到你的伴侶不辭辛苦地守著他們的手機或電子郵件。

If your partner won't let you search for photo that was taken with their phone, won't answer calls while you are in the room, or freaks out when you touch their laptop it may be a sign.

如果你的伴侶不讓你找之前用他們手機拍的照片，當你在房間裡時不會接電話，或者當你觸摸他們的筆記本電腦時嚇壞了，這可能是一個跡象。

Your partner might even go as far as deleting simple business-related texts and then saying that he's deleting them for the sake of not stressing you out.

你的伴侶甚至可能會去刪除簡單的業務相關的簡訊，然後說他為了不給你壓力而刪除。

Bullshit.

胡說八道

#2.

#2.

Your partner changes their tone of voice on the phone.

你的伴侶在電話裡改變了語氣。

I know it seems strange, but a recent study found people actually change their tone when speaking to a romantic partner.

我知道這看起來很奇怪，但最近的一項研究發現，人們實際上在與浪漫的伴侶說話時改變了他們的語氣。

A woman will lower her pitch, and a man will raise his pitch.

女人會降低自己的音調，男人會提高自己的音調。

#3.

#3.

Your partner is emotionally checked out.

你的伴侶在感情上被查出。

They no longer confide and share with you and if anything the disconnect keeps growing.

他們不再向你傾訴，不再與你分享，如果有的話，隔閡會不斷擴大。

#4.

#4.

Your partner insists on doing more things without you.

你的伴侶堅持在沒有你的情況下做更多的事情。

You used to ride together to the grocery store or go run errands.

你們曾經一起騎車去雜貨店或去辦事情。

Now, your partner wants to drive alone.

現在，你的伴侶想獨自開車。

They may say they are going to run an errand that you won't be interested in, but you suspect otherwise.

他們可能會說要去辦一件你不會感興趣的事，但你懷疑不是。

If this pattern becomes a regular occurrence, something might be up.

如果這種模式成為經常性的現象，可能就有問題了。

#5.

#5.

Your partner may start paying more attention to their physical appearance.

你的伴侶可能會開始更加關注他們的身體外觀。

Of course, this could be because they just want to look and feel better but it could also be because they are looking to impress somebody.

當然，這可能是因為他們只是想讓自己看起來和感覺更好，但也可能是因為他們想給某人留下深刻印象。

Especially if the person doesn't seem to care about your compliments or is focusing on doing things to look better without even sharing about those goals, it may be a clue that something is up.

特別是如果這個人似乎並不在意你的讚美，或者專注於做一些看起來更好的事情，甚至沒有分享這些目標，這可能是一個線索，有什麼事情。

#6.

#6.

Your partner might start being critical of you.

你的伴侶可能會開始責備你。

That's because they are now comparing you to the other person they are with and their minds are only pointing out why that relationship works and not yours.

那是因為他們現在是在拿你和他們的另一個人做比較，他們的頭腦中只指出了為什麼那段關係有效，而不是你的。

It's a way of justifying their cheating.

這是他們為自己的作弊行為開脫的一種方式。

#7.

#7.

Your partner treats you with suspicion.

你的伴侶用懷疑的眼光對待你。

Your partner's jealousy has been at an all time high lately.

你的伴侶最近的嫉妒心達到了前所未有的高度。

Maybe you dressed up for dinner, but they wonder out loud who you want to impress.

也許你盛裝出席晚宴，但他們卻不知道你想打動誰。

If you innocently smile at the bartender, they may view it as flirting.

如果你無辜地對酒保微笑，他們可能會認為這是調情。

Now that they are cheating, they suddenly may think you might not be so faithful.

現在他們出軌了，他們可能會突然覺得你可能不是那麼忠誠。

#8.

#8.

You have a gut feeling.

你有一種直覺。

Humans have developed intuition for a reason.

人類發展直覺是有原因的。

Many times, our subconscious mind knows something before our conscious mind does.

很多時候，我們的潛意識比我們的意識先知道一些事情。

If you can't shake the feeling, it could be because there is something there.

如果你無法擺脫這種感覺，可能是因為那裡有什麼東西。

Try to figure out why you feel this way, and communicate your concerns with your partner.

試著找出你為什麼會有這種感覺，並與你的伴侶溝通你的擔憂。

That being said, you can't expect somebody who is potentially cheating, hence already lying to you.

也就是說，你不能指望一個有可能出軌的人，是以已經在騙你了。

To be honest, so it may have to take some figuring out to know what is really happening.

說實話，所以可能要搞清楚到底發生了什麼。

Just a single one of the clues that I've mentioned might not mean anything on their own but a few might mean that you are being cheated on.

僅僅是我提到的一條線索，可能本身並不代表什麼，但有幾條可能就意味著你被騙了。

No matter what, be sure to stay calm and stick to the facts.

無論怎樣，一定要保持冷靜，堅持事實。

Depending on what you find or find out, it's up to you as to what happens next.

根據你的發現或發現的情況，接下來會發生什麼就看你自己了。

Regardless, there isn't anything you can't handle.

不管怎麼樣，沒有什麼事情是你處理不了的。

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喜歡這個視頻嗎？

Then give it a like and I look forward to chatting again with you soon.

那就給它點個贊吧，我期待著儘快和你再次哈拉。