I thought girls only approach girls until the end of school.

And many people think that's so out of style now.

Wait I am not there yet..... give me a moment....

...... my fluffy balls aren't ... done yet... there we go....

Hey guys and girls on Ask Japanese, it's Cathy Cat. Why can't Japanese

girls chat up men? This is a question

you guys have asked us as reaction to another video where that was mentioned. So this time

we are gonna pic up on that comment of you guys, head out on the streets of Tokyo

and ask Japanese girls here why they can't chat up guys or if they're ever tried

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Can girls chat up boys in Japan?

Aaaaah - We don't. - We won't

I can't do it but I don't judge those who do. - It's a funny part of our culture.

Many girls in Japan are not confident enough for that. Abroad...

the girls are sexy. So it might be normal there.

Japanese girls... are indirect.

That doesn't happen much. - They are shy? - Something like shy

So sexy girls have their own power? - That's it. - They are confident.

They are confident enough. - I envy that. They are a different kind

Japanese girls can't do it. cause

that's just the way we are. We are really too shy.

I thought that girls approach boys only until the end of school

Hmmm. - and many girls think that's out of style now

So in school it's ok for girls to approach boys? - Yeah right.

Girls would really approach handsome boys and teachers in school

those girls might be able to chat up boys.

We could never do that. - Never. - So those girls

told their feelings to the handsome teacher? - Not that they love them but...

they approached them anyways, like "Look at me I am cute."

They would try to talk a lot more during class with the teacher.

Like "Teacher do you have a girlfriend?" - Yeah they asked that every class

as if it wasn't a big deal

Girls like that might be able to make male friends easier.

Being able to go to a boy you like and ask him to eat

ice cream with you... we wouldn't do that. Too scary. - Especially if its a stranger

Girls don't chat up strangers? - Girls never speak to strangers?

- We don't. - We won't even know if we can keep a conversation up. - What if...

you meet someone at school or your job

... do you think you can ask them out? - No way. - We can't

I want to do my job properly. - True. - But if there is a boy you like...

and you can't ask him out, what do you do? - We won't get anywhere.

Just give up. - I would give up. - But recently

we have the "passive boys" in Japan. How

will Japan overcome that? - We wonder too. - Japan has problems.

What if you were to watch a girl who is trying to chat up a boy?

Wow, I would admire her courage.

We'd admire her. - Almost envious? - Yeah go girl. I can't

I wish we could throw that shyness of mine away! - That courage is admirable but

I don't have that courage right now. - Me neither.

I am not used to that situation either.

Girls chatting up boys? - What? We never see that

It's not a thing or a trend. - Boys are the one who chat up girls.

Japan is like that. - If men are the ones chatting up... do girls never

try to start a chat with guys? - Generally not

with strangers. - So strangers are difficult. - We don't that with them

We will only think "how cool" - Admire from afar but don't speak up? - Yeah.

We will just look at them and keep it at that. - What if the boy was in your school club

and such? Can girls chat boys up then?

Like "can we have tea afterwards?" - Maybe

they might be able to. I can do that. - I can do that...

but if it goes wrong, there will be a bad atmosphere. I'd be worried about that.

I can ask him out, but I would be too worried if It goes wrong.

Things would get awkward afterwards. - Like "damn now for half a year after this I can ask him out, but I would be too worried if It goes wrong.

Things would get awkward afterwards. - Like "damn now for half a year after this

things will stay awkward." - If you REALLY got along, you could ask a boy out

But if you don't chat with each other much, it might be impossible. - So then

if you can't approach men, how can you get men to approach you?

I think men are happy when you say "do you have time after this?"

"Wanna grab some food after the club?" that's something girls can ask

But boys would be surprised and expect something more. - I guess food is ok

"Let's go together after club - Ok"

Something like "wanna grab ice cream on the way home?" - Yeah like that.

That would be fine. - Yeah - To time place and occasion are super important. What if

you friend was chatting up a boy? - I would think "wow she's got courage."

I can't do it, so I would be like - Way to go girl.

Way to go girl! - I would envy that a little, that she has that courage.

I would cheer her up - Me too! - Cheer her up from the shadows.

With a little pen light. - Have you heard about

your friends chatting up a boy. - I have. - Where. - A friend at school

went to visit the festival of a boys school and told me

she asked a boy to give her his number.

Wow she HAS courage. - Totally has.

And then they became friends and went out together

is what I heard at the time. - Wow she's gotten far

So Japanese girls generally said no which I find a little bit sad. They said

"I wouldn't have the confidence to do that. I do support other girls though if they do that"

"I respect that but me myself I am too shy and it's too hard for me."

Especially when it's about chatting up strangers but also when it's about

approaching a person that you maybe know. It might be a little bit easier

though in school is what they said. Meaning in school in Japan boys and girls will for example

have a club activity like tennis or maybe...

literature club and similar things like that. If you are in a certain club or circle,

it's easier to spend a little bit of time with that person, get to know them

and then maybe hanging out with them a little bit more saying "How about we go for ice cream

afterwards" and approaching them little by little. In these kind of scenarios it's easy

for girls to approach guys but not for strangers. So don't mistake

that. There is also the downside: if you have your cute tennisclub senpai.

and you confess your feelings to tennis club senpai and he turns you down...

you know you're still in that tennis club for the rest of the year. So that's gonna be a big risk

for the year. That's now why I finally understand that in many dramas and

scenarios it's generally that someone confesses their feeling at the END of the year.

So you save yourself that awkwardness i case you get turned down....

that's very realistic.... oh my people really do think ahead... they really do

think ahead... on that note, what do you think about the things you've heard today

from Japanese girls not being able to go up to a boy and tell them their feelings. Or tell them "Hey

let's go for tea" is that a thing in the same way in your country, my gosh it's noisy today here

in our company. Is that the same thing in your country, let us know...

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