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  • A major obstacle to self-knowledge and in turn, to a flourishing life, is our tendency

  • to lie to ourselves.

  • We lie for a very understandable reason: because we want to avoid pain.

  • There are four things we particularly like to lie to ourselves about: Things we need to change

  • about our lives. Things that might disturb our self-image. Things we badly want and can't

  • have. Things we are angry with orthers about but don't dare to express. Here are some of the leading manoeuvers we employ to kid ourselves.

  • 1. Addiction.

  • *Pornography noises*

  • We identify something that can powerfully keep our thoughts away from troubling inner confrontations.

  • Often, we don't so much like what distracts us in and of itself: we get attached because

  • of its ability to keep us away from what we fear.

  • 2. Manic Cheeriness.

  • Guys I just want to propse a toast to friendship and yeah just to having great times together. I'm so glad

  • you came, I hope your all having fun.

  • A sadness we haven't been able to admit to is often covered up withexaggerated doses of manic cheeriness.

  • Are you having fun? Yeah Yeah.

  • I'm so happy, it's so nice to see you. Yeah you too. It's really lovely, it's really fun

  • it's been really fun.You look amazing.

  • We aren't happy so much as incapable of allowing ourselves to feel even the slightest sadness, in case we were to be overwhelmed by our troubling feelings.

  • 3. Denigration.

  • I'm pleased I didn't go to university. I know you met alot of people

  • and that you're friends for life but I don't think that paying 9000 a year to make friends

  • is really the best use of my money. Especially if i'm going to have to pay that back.

  • We tell ourselves that we simply don't care about something - not because that's true, but because we can't have it.

  • I have got a friend that does contempary movement practise. I learnt

  • to walk when I was little I don't need to... I just learnt myself. You fall over you get

  • up, I don't need a tutor to tell me, you know this is how movement looks in the 20th century.

  • I just sit at the bus stop.

  • 4. Censoriousness.

  • So it was the village counciller. There all in the bed and breakfast and that's where it begins. It's this kind of orgy situation

  • and I think first of all it's abuse of power. But why people need to commit to group sex?

  • I find it so weird.

  • We can often grow censorious and disapproving of certain people and behaviours

  • to ward off an awareness that a part of us in fact really likes the condemmed element.

  • and kind of creepy and discusting, I just. I do not want to be in a harness doing that

  • kind of thing. I'm just not interested.

  • When our feelings get tricky, we attack them in someone else.

  • I think it's disgusting. I don't understand why someone needs to have multiple partners.

  • 5. Defensiveness.

  • Because you're so strong, so good and talented and it is

  • very unique I think actually you know what would happen if you just stripped it all back

  • and took away all the bells and whistles the effects and just kind of just went just you

  • just the guitar. Wow. that's rude to sit there and just. Well it's quite arrogent to tell

  • me what you think I should do with what i'm doing. What do you even know about music?

  • You just press buttons and stuff don't you? Just press play and pause. You don't actually

  • create any music. So for you to tell me what to do with mine is just really, it comes across really full of yourself.

  • Feeling offended takes up all our attention. It muddies the

  • waters. When we are defensive, we no longer pay attention to information that may - at

  • its heart - be correct but challenging.

  • Like you don't know what you're talking about i

  • know what i'm doing with my music and if it doesn't appeal to you I'm sorry but you probably

  • don't kind of know the genre that i'm going for. Or the feeling. Maybe I'm not going for a genre.

  • The problem with lying to ourselves is that in so doing. We miss out on key opportunities for growth.

  • Don't tell me how to do my craft in front of my friends. I know what I'm doing.

  • You get it. You get it. You absolutely get it.

  • The things we're in denial about are painful. But usually also contain crucial material that's vital to our overall development.

  • I'm so much happier being single. You know even the movies are good on your own. I didn't

  • know that I thought it was a couple thing but even that's good now. I've got more space in the appartment.

  • If we could face up to our stranger thoughts, needs and desires.

  • We'd learn to navigate more freely in our minds and our honesty would render us more

  • creative, interesting and pleasant to be around.

  • At the school of life we believe in developing emotional intelligence. To that end we've also created a whole range of products to

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我們如何欺騙自己 (How We Lie to Ourselves)

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    林宜悉 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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