字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 Okay, so I'm very excited to be here. I'm also a little nervous, and I speak for a living, so I shouldn't be nervous. But this this is probably one of the talks that there's a good chance my kids are going to see. In fact, my eighth grader said, You're doing a Ted X talk. I said, Michael, I do a lot of talk seals. Yeah, but this is big Dad. I'm excited to be here because I think it's time that we change the way we thought about success as a society. In fact, better yet, I think it's time that we change the way we prepare people for success at all levels of life. So I'm gonna be presenting you with three. Very simple, but I think powerful virtues that I'm convinced. Contrast ycl e change the success level in anyone's life, whether they're a CEO or a middle manager, a middle school student or a high schooler or a recent college grad. Now I'm confident of this because I believe, and all of this is based on the premise that life more than ever is a team sport. My name is Pat Lynch. Tony and I have been working with teams for the past 25 years in the corporate world. In another settings, I've also written two books about teamwork. The first When I wrote years ago, it's called The Five Dysfunctions of a Team. And then recently I wrote a a sequel called The Ideal Team Player, which is the basis of today's talking, where I explore those three virtues. Now when I say that life is a team sport, I realize that could sound kind of like a cheesy cliche. You know, life is a team sport, but I really believe it's true. I mean, we take for granted the fact that in the workforce today, people can be on the same team is somebody that lives on the other side of the world across continents and oceans and cultures and language, and that's largely because of technology. But when I started my career about 30 years ago, which isn't that long ago in the grand scheme of things, we couldn't even imagine doing this. But today, because of technology, people can work together in so many different ways, and as a result of that technology, people are developing an organization solutions that are amazing and complex, that air solving problems in business and medicine and communication and every kind of field, and those complex solutions demand that people collaborate and work his teams to implement them. Even within a company, you have to work across divisional or departmental lines or with people in other companies. Even competitors today are having to work together to implement these important solutions. This really is the era of teamwork in business. But even in our personal lives, teamwork has permeated everything. My wife and I have four sons at home, and we like to save it. By the time that each of them was in middle school, they had played on more teams with more coaches in more sports and gone to more darn tournaments than we did in our entire lives combined. And that's to say nothing Of all the other extracurricular activities that happen on teams, even in the classroom, teamwork is everywhere. I mean, my kids come home. I don't know how many times they've come home with an assignment and said those four dreaded words. It's a group project, and I asked them that dreaded forward question. Who's on your team? I'm not ashamed to say that more than once. I've said to my sons, if you want to get a good grade, you might have to be prepared to do most of the work yourself. Teamwork is everywhere, and yet we continue to train people in education and in the workforce for primarily individual and technical skills. And I think that needs to change. And that's why I'm going to present to you these three simple virtues. All right, Okay, that's the end of my memorized part of my speech, which freaked me out because I don't memorize anything. Now let's just talk, All right, so we're gonna go to the first slide in my book, the ideal team player. I explore these three simple virtues, but the power of those virtues is in the commonality of them all. We have to have all three. If you play baseball in, you're one for three hitter. That's pretty good. It's terrible. And teamwork, if you're too for three, is a quarterback in passing. That's pretty good. You've got to be three for three when it comes to teamwork. So let's talk about these three virtues. Let me introduce you to them and then talk about how we can identify and improve ourselves if we're lacking any. So the first virtue of ideal team player is by far the most important, and it is humility. If you want to be an ideal team player, and if you want to be successful in life, you really need to be humbled more than ever. Now this is the most important because as a follower of Jesus, the Bible says that the root of all sin is pride, and I believe that you look at all the problems we have. It's usually rooted in pride. Well, the antidote to pry this humility. So it stands to reason that this would be the most important. And most of us know what humility is right. It's not being ego centered or arrogant or self centered, but being about others, putting others ahead of ourselves. It's such an attractive and powerful thing, but there's another side of humility. We have to understand, too. It's in the minority, but it's still important to understand. See, some people will look at another person and say she never talks about herself. She never demands that we listen to her. She never thinks she has the right answer. She's really humble, and when somebody lacks confidence, it's actually not humility. You see, when we have an idea or a talent to deny our God given talent is actually a violation of humility, just like it is to exaggerate them. C. S. Lewis said It best, he said. Humility isn't thinking less of ourselves. It's thinking about ourselves less. But the most prominent kind of lack of humility we see in teams in the workforce and in life is arrogance and ego centeredness. So this is the first and most important attributes. The 2nd 1 is equally simple, and it is. You have to be hunger. You have to be hungry. People who have an innate hunger about getting work done are much more successful on teams and in life, and this is simply just having a strong work ethic, and this is probably the easiest one to understand. But I'll say this to the young people out there. This is the one that you probably have to to develop earliest in life. When I work with people later in life who never developed an innate sense of hunger, it's harder and so I talked to kids in middle school and I say Do it now, work hard at everything you do. This is not about workaholism, though. Workaholics are people who get their entire identity from their work. And that's not what I'm saying here. People who are hungry, just having I want to go above and beyond, have a high standard for what they do and never do the minimum. They never do just the minimum. Now, the third attributes of an ideal team player is what I call being smart. But it's not about intellectual smarts. This is about emotional intelligence, common sense around how we understand people and how we use our words and actions to bring out the best possible impact on others. This is so important in the world, and it is you can develop this in life. Being smart is one of those things that people can work on and get better at. So humble, hungry, smart, these air, the three simple virtues. But the key is that we have to have all three to be an ideal team player. So it's really important that we learn how to identify in ourselves and others when one is lacking. So what I'm gonna do now is come up with some labels which I want you to use carefully for people that lack one of these in a very serious, egregious way. So let's take a look at those now. Ah, person who is humble, the most important one. They think about others ahead of themselves and they're hungry. They work really hard, but they lack smarts. They're not emotionally intelligent. We call this the accidental mess maker. Now the act. I have a lot of time for accidental, messy makers. They're good people. They have really good intentions. But they kind of create problems that they're not aware if they're like that dog, that puppy. I have a puppy at home and they knock things over a lot, but they mean well and they prove on the carpet you have to clean up after them. But because they mean well, you can lack him on the nose with the newspaper and they come back for more. They have a great attitude. The problem with accidental mess makers is just You do have to clean up with them. They create a little bit extra work, and over time you kind of get tired of having to say he's a really good guy. He didn't mean it that way. Nonetheless, of the three types that lack one of these virtues, I will take the accidental mess maker. The 2nd 1 is also a very good time kind. That's somebody who's humble, the most important one, and they're smart. They're good at dealing with people, but they lack hunger. We call this kind the lovable slacker, now lovable slackers. The problem is their level, so they're really fun to be around. And they're good people. They're nice people, but they just do the bare minimum. They don't go above and beyond, and you have to constantly remind them to do more. And you have to kind of pick up there slack in an organization now, I once worked with a lovable slacker. A good friend of mine still is, and every time I reminded him that he needed to do more, he would say, You're right. And he was so passionate in life about everything besides work, right? But because he was lovably was so fun to be with. And I said to him one day I said, You know, you're gonna have to leave this company when you're good and ready. And five years later, he was out that door. The truth is, it's very easy to tolerate lovable slackers, but they do have a problem that caused problems on a team. Now the third type is the most difficult type. This is the person who is hungry. They really want to work hard. They're ambitious and they're smart, so they're really good at dealing with people. But they're not humble, and we call this the skillful politician. I'm sure your mayor here is not the skillful park in this sense. No, she's probably a skillful leader, but not the skillful politician. In this sense, skillful politicians are so smart that they know how to portray themselves as being humble, which is a very dangerous thin, because what they do is they interview well, they go to meetings in the and they say the right things. They don't have a kiss up to the boss or the coach of the teacher. The problem is, deep down inside, it's about them, not about others, and by the time we figure it out, there's usually a trail of dead bodies hidden in closets around the organization. I once worked with a team with this guy on the team that was a skillful politician, and he was so clever at hiding it. He was so clever that he was even Canadian. You see, you would never suspect a Canadian. They're always so nice. You would never think they would be that way. And we would go to meetings, and this guy would be so good with people. And we thought, he is the ultimate team player. He's wonderful. And then after a while, we realized, man, his salary is tripled. Half of his colleagues are gone. He's been gaming this. The truth of the matter is, when a person lacks humility, but they're good at presenting themselves, that could be a very dangerous thing on a team. Okay, so what do you do with this? First of all, I don't want you to misuse these labels. Don't go back to work and save your boss. Hey, I think that you're a, uh, an accidental mess maker. Or tell your mom she's a lovable slacker, you know, that's gonna get you into trouble. And it should apply this first to yourself. But then I want you to do this. Here is a very simple activity. Go sit down with your your team at work or with your family or with the Little League team. You coach and have everybody understand humble, hungry and smart and then ask them to rank themselves in these three areas. Which one? They're best at. Second best and third, Even if they're good at all of them, they're gonna have 1/3 even if they're not so good. All of them. One of them's gonna be third and have them just identify which one is their third and then go around the table and asked people to explain their third and why that's theirs. And then talk as a team about how people can brainstorm about how people can overcome this. Give each other advice. That humble person, you might say, you know, maybe shouldn't talk about yourself so much, but you should ask questions of others and taken interest in other's lives that a hungry person, it's like Maybe when you're about to leave work at 4 50 you should check in and see if there's more work that needs to be done or that smart person at the end of meetings. Maybe you should ask people if you've upset anyone and learn about how you can avoid that, whatever the case is, what I want you to do is turn your colleagues, your team members, your family members into your coaches. They are the best source of coaching and advice. You have to become a better team player and more successful in life because the day you know that the people around you love you enough to tell you when you're doing something that you need to improve in, everything changes. So I want you to go home and I want you to do this, and in a very short period of time, you're going to see a difference. Now, let me leave you with this at my company, the table group. We don't care when we hire people where they went to college. We really don't. And we don't care about their g p a or their A C T or there s a T. The only three letter acronym we care about really is H h and S. And I think that's something that we need to do more of in our society, whether it's professional development and our organizations or whether it's our schools. You know, I think as his father of four boys, I think it's time we took a little bit of the pressure off kids from just memorizing the periodic table of the elements or iambic pentameter, whatever that is. I don't remember or with a quadratic equation. I mean, we have to learn those things. I get this and kids should work hard. But I think we should actually give them things that they can control in their lives that are really gonna pay off in their future. And we should teach them how to be other centered, not self centered. We should teach them how to work hard at everything they do school and everything else just because it's the right thing to do. And third, we should teach them how to be more adept, Inter personally and emotionally with the people around them. See, I think that could make a huge difference in our corporations and in our schools and our families. And I really believe that the world would be a better place and that our companies would be better places, our families would be better and the individuals in society would be better if more of us were humble, hungry and smart. Thank you and God bless.