should stop being humble all these little accomplishments and

things that I've done throughout my life I would always kind of cancel or the

little dare to you know not to look like I'm bragging or that it's a big deal and

to get too much attention and to look like I'm showing off and it's just such

a self-destructive thing to do especially if you are in the business of

personal branding now don't get me wrong I'm not telling you you should go out

there and every person unique you gonna tell them about your accomplishments and

what you have in what you did this definitely needs to be context and the

proper setting and time for everything so once I started looking into the

subject and realized that it's not only me this is just something that you can

see throughout every industry with just women and I pull this Forbes article and

I notice a few points that I was just like that's so me that's so true I used

to do this all the time and sometimes still do many women shine the idea of

building a personal brand or understanding and communicating their

competitive advantage I think for some reason a lot of us are really aware of

our weaknesses and maybe we talk about that more but we should do the opposite

because when you focus on something that's strong is just gonna lift

everything else up another point many women shy away from networking not

understanding how to talk about themselves and what they want I had so

many opportunities to capture a client or to put myself out there and network

with some really strong people and I just didn't want to come and pitch them

I just felt like pitching and it's so not true because I

see that that happening every single day around me I see people knowing how to

network approach it laid out their who they are and what they can do and move

along and nothing happened no one judges their that's business

appearing humble can hold women back from networking powerfully but

networking is the single biggest source 80 percent in fact of landing jobs

getting promoted and advancing in our careers we simply can't achieve our

biggest dream in highest visions without others if you don't network you never

find mentors you don't find supporters you don't find people that can inspire

you and help you get to the next level I don't want to get to this whole like men

versus women type of thing but it's just a norm that women were raised on this

you know feeling that if you are a woman and you want to be treated as one these

are kind of the characteristics you should have and being humble and being

modest and all these things are what you need to be and we're with men it doesn't

happen and see you all the time with Gary like Gary sees the opportunity and

the gain of self-promotion again in the right context at the right time and when

you out there advocating for yourself and talking about what you know and who

you are and your strengths you're capturing people's attention the right

people that come and present to you more opportunities for you to grow so they

give you a little bit of background and I was invited to speak as a social media

- or as part of this summit for business students and there was about 50 people

or so and this was my first speaking engagement but it was really all about

an experience in the industry my strategy of how I identified with my

brand is and someone for me was a really bad experience I got adequately read and

I was stumbling on my words I have no idea the direction I was taking Larry

kind of looked at me and said you modesty's it's a great thing but your

humbleness is hurting you a lot he's like you were invited as a social media

entrepreneur those people don't know what you are and you just kind of

started talking and you didn't captivated that attention of those

people you didn't legitimize yourself it looked like you didn't even know why you

were there if I've not stood there on that stage telling the cold hard facts

of you know why I'm here saying those words I would have also

convinced myself that I deserve to be there because the way I was sending and

presenting myself I was just like I don't know what they called me here for

I don't know what I'm doing here I was really disappointed with myself and I

was wondering how many women do that in their workplace and their relationships

with themselves where we just like don't give ourselves credit for what we do and

what we achieve and celebrate small victories and you know remind ourselves

that were badass and that we're doing amazing and that look at you know these

things that I've done from small to big so it really made me aware of this

playing small behavior and how it's kind of like I'm limiting on my own self and

I'm not letting wonderful things that are you know want

to come away and I'm just not giving them the room to come in because it's

very important to be humble and don't get confused when I'm talking about

being humble I'm really talking about just being assertive and being

passionate and being strong minded and standing up for yourself you know saying

what you think and what you deserve to have and fighting for it that's really

where I'm coming from when I'm talking about humbling yourself because we

should all be proud of our hustle and if we don't advocate for ourselves and

their own personal brand and push it no one's gonna do that for you yes I do

believe in working hard and a lot of the times you know when you do work hard

some people may notice but it's a noisy world out there and there's a lot of

talent out there and you can work really hard but you also have to promote

yourself you also have to bring your hard work to people's attention because

you're fighting for that attention every single day so it just made me think how

many of us are just letting opportunities slide by us because we

don't want to seem too aggressive or we don't want to seem equip bragging about

things I feel like there's really no novelty it planes small and trying to

fit a certain criteria or a certain definition of what it is being a woman

today because live in such an amazing time we're

really redefining everything that a woman is and what she can be and what

you can achieve so I just really wanted to make this video to put this message

out there that maybe you're doing it in your daily lives maybe you're not

fighting for your own right to get things that you deserve maybe you're not

standing up for yourself maybe you're not going and asking for that raise

asking for that promotion leading in more in meetings or at school asking

questions I just want you to be conscious of that playing small behavior

and unhung beliar self humble yourself