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I describe impostor syndrome as having three elements to it.
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The first is the belief that other people have an inflated view
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of your own abilities or skills -
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a far more inflated view than you have of yourself.
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The second factor is that you have this intense fear
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that you'll be found out and exposed as a fake.
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And the third element
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is that you constantly attribute your success, that you do recognise,
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to other factors outside of your own abilities or talent.
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Impostor syndrome can feel like a dissonance or a disconnect.
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But if you have it a lot and you're constantly feeling that way,
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then the disconnect between what you see as yourself
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and your public view just grows bigger
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and you feel fake and you feel an impostor.
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Impostor syndrome is something that affects so many of us
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that actually to call it a syndrome is probably a little bit inaccurate,
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because that suggests it's kind of a mental health condition
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or there's something wrong with us. But when it's 70% of us,
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it's probably more likely to be something
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that is almost normal really.
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You can't have impostor syndrome without being successful.
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You've got people like Tom Hanks who you'd think,
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well they've made it, they must be confident in their abilities.
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"No matter who we are, no matter what we've done,
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there comes a point where you think, 'How did I get here
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and am I going to be able to continue this?
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When are they going to discover that I am in fact a fraud,
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and take everything away from me?'"
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I think a little bit of self-doubt is very good for self-development.
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The impostor syndrome people are the ones double-checking their work,
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working really hard, trying to get everything right,
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never satisfied, always looking for more training opportunities
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and more learning opportunities.
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And those are all potentially good things.
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There are a number of factors from childhood
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that may contribute to impostor syndrome.
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When children are put on a pedestal,
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that's a very, very difficult premise to live up to,
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and that can help make you feel an impostor,
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because if you're not perfect,
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then you're not the golden child that they think you are.
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The term impostor syndrome was first coined in 1978
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by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes
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in a paper that they entitled,
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Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women.
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So it was originally something that was thought to only affect women.
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When we talk about impostor syndrome in the workplace,
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I see that as the same for men and women,
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but I do see a lot of men who don't think they're man enough.
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Social media has a huge role to play in impostor syndrome.
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We can see everybody else's successful lives.
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The more we present our best self to the world,
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the more other people will develop impostor syndrome
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because they're never going to measure up.
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I've had people who have wanted to give up their high-flying jobs
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because they fear so much being found out,
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that they would rather give it up
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and hand in their notice - even though objectively they're not fake
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and objectively they are successful.
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If you think that you're suffering from impostor syndrome,
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actually look objectively at your successes.
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Write down the things that you are successful at
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and then look at all the reasons why
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you might have achieved that success.
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Assign percentage scores to how much you think that factor
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contributed to that achievement.
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You can mistakenly attribute all of it to luck,
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but when you put it down on paper,
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you'll realise how ridiculous that is.
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So it's a bit of a reality check,
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and it makes you stop and acknowledge your successes.
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Impostors feel that they can't accept anything that's less than perfect.
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Learn to make mistakes and to accept failure.
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You don't have to be brilliant all the time.
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But you can be good enough.
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